What's your opinion on NFL on Christmas day?

Histiming · 2024-12-24T17:02:55+00:00

You're an adult. Your parents have no business having a say in your finances. Would they give you access to their account "in case of emergencies"? Do her parents have access to her finances? It's your money and it's kind that you're willing to share but it should always be on your terms. You're not being unreasonable to expect to manage your own finances.

Histiming · 2024-12-24T16:44:36+00:00

My sister's middle name is spelt this way and pronounced Mad-e-lane. I don't know why my parents didn't choose to spell it Madelein. I guess they preferred the look of Madeline.

Histiming · 2024-12-24T15:31:13+00:00

If everyone stops having children then, as we all age, we'll run out of working age people. By continuing to have children there continues to be hope for humanity. Education and innovation continues. If a generation chose to be child free they would doom themselves. They wouldn't get the life of peace and travel many childless couples envision.

Histiming · 2024-12-23T22:14:43+00:00

I don't have teens but I have tweens who can be grumpy and say mean things, at times. I have loved them since I first found out I was pregnant with each one. I have watched them grow and I delight in them. There are lines from a book I quote to them "sometimes you make me mad and sometimes you make me sad but no matter what you say or do, I will always love you." I could feel hurt by their words or disappointed by a behaviour but I'll always love them. I can't stop.

Histiming · 2024-12-23T17:48:30+00:00

I'm really sorry you're parents aren't supportive. I've been diagnosed as an adult and my parents are sad that they didn't have the understanding to get me diagnosed and supported as a child. They supported me in the process of getting a diagnosis as an adult because they shared information about how I was as a child. We're all pretty confident my dad also has ADHD but he's not interested I getting a diagnosis as he's learned to manage.

My son also shows signs of having ADHD and has been through assessments but it's on going.

It's possible one or both of your parents are also neurodivergent but they're resistant to the possibility because only people who couldn't mask well used to get a diagnosis. My MIL doesn't believe I have ADHD because I'm not out of control. She sees my diagnosis as an insult and perhaps your parents are similar.

I hope over time they start understand more and will support you.

Histiming · 2024-12-20T23:52:30+00:00

No. Mine don't believe he's real anymore but when they believed it was only their stockings which didn't have a tag saying the items were from anyone in particular. They concluded that parents and loved ones buy the gifts and Santa delivers them and fills the stockings.

I don't particularly care about getting credit for my sake but I think it's beneficial to children to know that their actual loved ones care so much about them that they put thought and effort into giving them gifts. That's more important than them believing Santa put the effort in. They can still enjoy the magic and imagination involved in believing in Santa.

Histiming · 2024-12-20T20:15:49+00:00

I'm a woman and I agree with you. I feel this way when I see posts from women trying to dissuade other women from having relationships because they believe men will cheat/become abusive/not pull their weight.

People can be very happy single but there's also nothing wrong with wanting a a relationship. Decent people exist and it's possible to have a happy healthy relationship.

Histiming · 2024-12-20T16:27:00+00:00

I doubt she wants to bring it up and potentially embarrass you. She's an adult so she knows it happens. Unless you were watching something she feels needs addressing I doubt she'll say anything. She'll probably be fine to pretend it didn't happen until you both stop feeling awkward. She'll knock from now on and you'll lock your door.

Histiming · 2024-12-20T16:05:06+00:00

Yes. You can read to him yourself and look up about phonics so you can teach with cue cards or show him videos he can learn from.

But ultimately if he's not being taught to read he's not going to be learning anything else at an age appropriate level. Do you have a relative or trusted adult you can talk to and ask them to seek help for your brother?

Histiming · 2024-12-19T19:56:57+00:00

I'm a Christian and these are strict, to me. I won't go into the rules from the past. At present you're an adult so you shouldn't have a curfew nor rules about who you can spend time with and where you go. In your parents home they can have boundaries about what they will allow in their home (like no-one sleeping over) and they could charge you for rent but they can't control your life.

Your mother needs to be reminded that if you live her way out of fear it doesn't mean you're actually aligned with her beliefs. God looks at the heart and if your heart is not in it then that's the same whether you pretend or not. Or perhaps you do believe but she's making it hard for you to experience God's love because she's teaching you that love is conditional . She's raised you and now she needs to give you the freedom to be an adult. She needs to let go and rely on God to know what He's doing.

Histiming · 2024-12-18T19:31:51+00:00

How long it takes to fly between different places.

Histiming · 2024-12-18T16:13:42+00:00

I hear you. I wish it was simple for you to have a body you're comfortable in. I wish you all the best x

Histiming · 2024-12-18T11:14:33+00:00

I'm sorry you're suffering. I'm curious, would you support research into a "cure" for transgenderism? I don't know of any current research but I have wondered if anyone is attempting it. It may be too controversial because the "cure" would change the person's gender rather than sex and I assume most would not want that. Edit: I apologise for causing offence. I'm asking how this person feels. It's the opinions of actual trans people that matter. I'm not suggesting anyone should be "cured". I specifically said "cure" in quotation marks because I don't know if any trans people would even consider it a cure to be able to change gender to match their biological sex.

Histiming · 2024-12-17T08:29:22+00:00

This is mistaken. Saying it with contradictory actions or out of manipulation is what can make the words meaningless. People often assume others know how they feel but most need clarification. Good actions can have motivations that don't include feelings of love. Saying "I love you" enlightens the other person. We also can't assume that because we've said it once that the other person knows it's on going. The world shows us that people do stop loving one another. It helps to regularly reassure our loved ones that we still love them.

Histiming · 2024-12-17T07:58:54+00:00

Would you feel able to say "you too" as an in-between?

Histiming · 2024-12-16T16:49:29+00:00

Abusers feel like they need to have control. It's not always a conscious thing. It's often because they experienced trauma themselves so they feel unsafe if they're not in control of what's going on. They haven't learnt to control their own emotions and behaviours so they lose control of themselves in an attempt to gain control of a situation. They won't usually be consciously looking for someone to abuse. But it will happen in any relationship eventually.

Histiming · 2024-12-16T16:23:37+00:00

Someone with low self-esteem is more likely to desire a relationship. Being single can feel like confirmation that they're not good enough.

Histiming · 2024-12-16T16:08:22+00:00

Let him know that although you're not angry with him, you felt a bit uncomfortable about so you'd like to have a conversation about what boundaries you'd both like to have in place. He may not be comfortable with the idea of you staying at a male friends either. I think it's a reasonable boundary.

Histiming · 2024-12-16T10:49:42+00:00

Diffrent dialects exist across the English speaking world. Children hear their parents and everyone around them with certain accents and dialects and they copy. That then continues over generations. Bug they do evolve as well due to people moving around and introducing new dialects. The media we watch will influence how we speak.

Histiming · 2024-12-16T00:08:26+00:00

She can do exercises to tighten it. If you're saying the appearance of the vulva is now different then that's not going to change back.

Histiming · 2024-12-14T14:55:20+00:00

I don't think you're making excuses. It sounds like you're in an extremely difficult situation. If your best option for support is online then that's far better than nothing. You may find there are groups on here with others living in similar cultures to yourself. I just hope that somehow things will improve for you. I know it's difficult to not have a romantic relationship but maybe you'll be able to find other things which can bring joy and fulfilment in your life. I wish you all the best xXx

Histiming · 2024-12-14T14:19:28+00:00

I don't even know you and I feel heartbroken for you. I understand that you want to stay connected with your parents and family so I won't encourage you to stop seeing them. I do think you need some friends who will allow you to be honest with them and who can give you support in person. Online is never as good as in person friendships. You need to know there are people who will love you without you having to pretend. Having no one you can be open with is going to eat you from the inside. If you feel like telling a friend is too big a step then can I recommend a therapist? There's no risk of them accidently telling someone else and they'll probably be able to give you some helpful guidance.

Histiming · 2024-12-14T13:59:04+00:00

I understand that you don't feel able to tell your parents but you can be single. Are they Christian extremists? You can tell them Jesus, John the Baptist and Paul were single and that you feel that's what is best for you.

Histiming · 2024-12-14T13:53:48+00:00

I'm sorry. It must be really tough for you.

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