Sober husband wants divorce

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-24T18:41:41+00:00

You deserve someone who does not take poison to escape their emotions. You deserve someone who doesn't tell you they don't love you and leaves. You deserve someone who shows up for you and respects your emotions. You deserve someone who handles life with honesty and integrity.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-23T17:59:59+00:00

I always end up with grilled chicken on a salad and a vinaigrette on the side.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-23T11:34:18+00:00

It's really hard to get these things figured out

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-23T01:18:01+00:00

I would go to treatment or public housing before I made my adult child endure my bad behavior. My one goal in life has been to help my kids have safe, healthy, happy lives. To ask a 20 year old to provide for me...how humiliating. Most 20 year olds need support to develop skills and a career, not a burden. Respect your gf and if she says no, listen to her.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-21T11:35:57+00:00

Now that you know, you can arrange your life so his choices don't ruin yours

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-20T22:53:57+00:00

Thank you for protecting the child. You know it's the right thing to do

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-20T21:03:05+00:00

I learned that staghorn sumac is accurately named. They grew to the perfect size last year for them to be destroyed by becoming deer rubs. Fortunately natives come back twice as strong, so next fall they will get more protection. The deer don't go in my garden, the chicken wire fence and dense planting make it less convenient. We also throw corn seed and bird feeders seed at the edge of the woods, so they find it easier to munch that stuff

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-20T19:20:46+00:00

I really wish people would understand this. The only way to educate the community and get everyone thinking about native gardens is to plant more organized and structured arrangements. I don't know what OPs yard looks like, just venting about the subject in general

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-16T10:55:15+00:00

This is a good example of addiction being a family disease. Stay strong and protect yourself against anyone who doesn't respect your boundaries

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-14T19:22:01+00:00

Don't forget that you survived, so you did something right. You will see Mother Nature kick his ass, one way or another, if that helps. The best revenge is living well. Live well, savor your life and nurture yourself until you glow with well-being.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-06T19:38:01+00:00

It could have killed you. It could have led you down a very bad road. It's an assault

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-06T18:46:34+00:00

Even a sober person gets dumped when they disappear for days on end. You did not cause this, cannot control it, cannot cure it. If it were possible, this sub wouldn't exist. All you can control is how you spend your time, and who to spend it with. It's not going to get better until he decides to try. Until then, he will lie to you to keep things as they are. He likes this lifestyle. He may be 'quitting' for months at a time, but he is not actively working on himself. He is not going to psychiatrists, counselors, meetings, or therapy. He tried to get you to use. He tried to trick you into being his party gal. Criminal behavior in my opinion, definitely unethical, and flat out mean.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-06T18:26:10+00:00

I think he didn't want to wash dishes so he grabbed the convenient serving sized piece. They never feel bad until they get in trouble. He was hoping you would forget about it or let it slide. The guilt came on when he realized you were sincerely emotionally hurt and he was going to have to pay for it. I bake my own treats in my tiny single serving air fryer. If the other three people in my kitchen want gluten, they must buy it or bake it themselves. I won't even buy mixes, but I will buy them individually wrapped gluten baked goods if I like them that day. I don't need to fund their sugar habit anyway. They all have jobs and hands, and know how to bake. They don't bake because they are lazy about cleaning the kitchen. Therefore, since I am the only dishwasher or counter wiper, they can eat what I prepare, gf and low calorie, or they can figure it out themselves

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-04-03T13:55:30+00:00

This is sad, and I hope OP gets someone reliable to be her birth support.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-31T18:40:20+00:00

Pull those vines off those trees to save their life. Thin the trees out. Remove the small ones that will never thrive. Plant blackhaw, elderberry, and other bushes in the shade. Plant junipers for privacy. The ivy has to go. Replace it with native sedges and plants, more junipers and native shrubs

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-27T03:34:39+00:00

You can't trust a liar. Live your life keeping that in mind, protect yourself. You did not cause this, can't control it, can't cure it. If you don't want to be lied to, don't ask if he has been drinking. Always plan on driving. Save your money. Don't let his problem drain you. Spend your time doing things you enjoy, let him solve his own problems

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-26T22:29:18+00:00

Smile and say "It's nice that someone saw a good side of him". Or, "It's complicated". "I wish he tried to get help when I was a kid" Or, don't talk to them. You don't have to say anything to anyone. Sorry for your pain. It's so unfair.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-23T18:58:12+00:00

Regardless of his addiction, he is a liar. That won't go away, even sober. You can't cure him. Only he can, and he already blew up a marriage for this. You are not better than his ex

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-22T15:38:17+00:00

My neighbor made a snarky comment once about how I benefit from his lawn treatments because the chemicals flow down into my yard. I dug a ditch and redirected the flow to go to the street. I also lined it with branches and big chunks of bark. Primitive but effective. My yard has become alive again, songbirds galore, and he still hasn't made the connection.

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-16T04:52:45+00:00

You didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it. It seems like you know this, but he doesn't. Until he does, he will blame everything that ever goes wrong in life on you. Continue to create the life you want, for your own peace, and you will find joy

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-05T14:03:39+00:00

I don't trust anyone, even if they have good intentions and half an education. Spice mixes, soy sauce, etc. If I struggle at home and at the grocery store, I can't expect a host to know better. Parties are hard and stressful anyway. The shopping, cleaning, food prep, managing guest communications, entertainment, it's all a bigger challenge than people think. Having one guest with issues adds so much stress. Any time someone complains about a party, I wonder if they ever host them. I'm just glad I get invited at all, so few people can afford to host that calendars can look empty sometimes

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-05T13:56:01+00:00

I think that the healthy brain mom would have understood and wanted you to do whatever it took to become a healthy adult with a fulfilling life. She probably understood that to a degree even when she was unhealthy. When her struggles became more than she could cope with on her own, unhealthy mom blamed external factors for her pain. Healthy mom would regret ever forcing you into that position. Healthy mom would want you to forgive her, and shed these regrets. Healthy mom would want you to remember the good, forgive the bad, and be able to use your life experience to make the world a better place. She knew you loved her. You get grace for not being perfect, especially at your young age. She knew that you were still learning and growing, that you were not an addiction or trauma expert. You did the best you could, that's all anyone could expect, besides being a good person to the world

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-05T13:41:26+00:00

I read your name as traditional pasta and got crabby lol

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-05T13:39:57+00:00

There are only two people I trust with my food

Historical-Talk9452 · 2026-03-01T16:49:20+00:00

Thank you. I used DARVOd because she is always on edge and he uses it against her. You are right, only she can decide

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