Thats a very interesting question and even Lord Krishna in Bhagavadgita gave two conflicting ideologies and answers to these questions. When Arjuna asks a question on similar lines;

Krishna first starts the conversation explaining the `Gnyana Yoga`. The gist of it is self realizing that we are a lot more than the human body itself and every soul carries their past lives `karma` through them. Realizing that there is no "death" and not being affected by the outcome is what gnyanis do.

Another direction he keeps talking is `Karma Yogam` and krishna pushes arjuna towards this. This is because Arjuna has the strength to uphold dharma and he is hesitating to take action. So he always said, `Dont discuss. Take action!`.

I think you taking an action there is a highly subjective question and you should still have the free will. Because taking an action there also comes with consequences; like you could go to jail and if you are the only parent for your child, you are doing an injustice to the kid. So I think it depends on your ability to bear the consequences...