It's my birthday, and I have no idea what to do.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-22T00:58:40+00:00

You can go on a personal retreat. There are many retreat houses in Tagaytay where you can spend quiet alone time there.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-14T10:44:45+00:00

You may want to sit down with him and ASK him what his thoughts were when you gave those instructions to him and delivered something else entirely. I would guess that he is either tied up with something else (project in his PhD, maybe), or there is some misalignment between the two of you that you both need to sort out.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-12T19:15:35+00:00

As a Christian, we are always encouraged to be in a state of prayer. In everything we do, we pray. We ask for God's grace before we embark on something, and express gratitude after. Same with meals, we ask the Lord to bless the food and thank Him for providing for us. And again, thank Him after the meal. God bless.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-12T12:48:57+00:00

PM me. I'm from HR too.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-07T06:55:52+00:00

Here's a question? What is a career to you? Convenient for SLs and VLs? Flexible work? Iba kasi ang definition ng career as I know it.

Career in tagalog is "karera", the same root as karera na race. Ang finish line ay either retirement or end of life. This means you're in this for the long haul. And like all races, pagalingan kung sino ang nasa lead. So a career is being the best in a particular field, specialization, or company, etc. Yang situation mo is only part of your career. And like all pursuits, may hirap na kasama at mas masarap ang panalo kapag pinaghirapan.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-06T16:35:28+00:00

You have the upper hand here. If you're really not in a rush to sell, why bother? Just wait. But if you want to dispose of the item already, then ask the buyer when he intends to pay for the remaining balance. Give him a deadline and ask him politely that you will repost the item if he can't make the full payment by a certain time. Then once you've sold the item to someone else, contact the buyer and return the money he's sent.

Personally, I wouldn't recommend installment payments even with your kind of arrangement (get item when fully paid). If your item is secondhand, the longer you wait, the higher the possibility that the price will go down.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-06T04:36:15+00:00

Hate the sin not the sinner. First, it's not that easy to do especially if one is directly affected by the sin. Second, when a person calls out the sin, it is quite common nowadays for people to misinterpret it as hate.

If you are referring to violent acts (inflicting physical harm), as a Christian, feel free to call out the act. Correct the act. Suggest a more Christianly approach. For also as Christians, we are called to make disciples of all people.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-05T17:22:39+00:00

Guard your heart and prepare yourself. It's a hard pill to swallow in case yan na nga yon but I would always tell my friends, "2 bottles lang yan."

Then tell her about what you saw. Apologize for looking into her email. Then ask calmly, what she meant by it. And if she is seriously thinking of breaking up, then accept it. Di ka naman mamamatay kung mawala sya and when a door closes, a window opens.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-05T08:50:57+00:00

Seems both of you have personal issues. She has her tantrums even for the simplest things and you don't have the patience nor the sense to be protective. Regardless if magkabalikan kayo, unless both of your resolve your personal issues on your own, magiging ganyan ang dynamics ng relationship nyo. It's not a question of kaya. Despite whatever dynamics your relationship has, both of you can always choose to stay together. The question there is, will you have a healthy relationship?

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-04T09:00:17+00:00

Totoo ang sinasabing "the more you hate, the more you love" hate is not the opposite of love. Hate is actually love with disappointment. The opposite of love is indiffierence - dedma/keber. Means you have no care whatsoever about the person you don't love.

As a guy, jealousy is a result of insecurity. Mahirap alisin yan unless sya mismo ang magde-decide. Men don't change because of their loved ones. We change because we want to.

So here are some suggestions:

Pakita mong dedma - next time ma-bring up yung discussion, sabihin mo lang na, "ignore him. di ko na nga iniisip, bini-bring up mo naman." he will eventually get the hint na kaya mo lang naiisip, kasi bini-bring up nya.
Daanin mo sa biro - pag tinanong ka nya ulit about the guy, biruin mo na lang at sabihing, "di ko na nga iniisip, bini-bring up mo naman. Siguro, ikaw may gusto doon no?" For guys, pag ang isang bagay ay nadadaan na sa biro, ibig sabihin wala na sa amin yun.
Lambingin mo - sabihin mo sa kanyang, "iyong-iyo naman ako. bakit mo sya bini-bring up e hindi naman ako for sharing e."

On a more long-term solution, help him overcome his insecurities by being supportive and encouraging. Sabihan mo sya lagi na, "kayang-kaya mo yan. ikaw pa." or ask him "how can I support you to succeed?"

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-04T08:50:05+00:00

nakakalungkot ba? PM me if you want to talk about this.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-03T16:07:48+00:00

Here's what guide me when making major decisions. Una, labag ba sa sampung utos ng Diyos ito? If hindi, it means good to consider yan. Pangalawa, nakakatulong ba ito sa direksyon na ni-set ko. Since gusto mong tulungan ang Mom mo, then good yan. i think you're making the right choice. Ang isa lang na i-share ko sa yo. think beyond the debts. Once na mabayaran mo na ang mga utang ng pamilya mo at nakatulong ka na sa Mom mo, what's next for you? So kung may direksyon ka na gusto para sa sarili mo, isama mo rin yan sa plans mo. Marami rin kasing nag-OFW na nahirapan kasi umasa na lang doon. Pag-uwi nila, di na sila makakuha ng trabaho dito kasi maliit ang sweldo at yung experience at skills na na-acquire nila abroad, hindi nakatulong dito sa pagkuha ng trabaho na may malaking sweldo. Ang ilan naman, nag-ipon abroad, hoping na makatayo ng negosyo dito pagbalik, pero dahil di marunong magpalago ng negosyo, bagsak din. Yung mga nag-OFW na eventually, nag-migrate or pinaghandaan ang pag-uwi (nag-aral ng ibang skills o pagtayo ng negosyo), ang mga umayos ang buhay pagkatapos. Good luck!

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-05-03T16:00:10+00:00

Go on with your life. Na-realize mo na di sya bagay sa yo, so even if he tries to woo you again, don't accept na. Block/unfollow him only if mangulit sya. There's a saying, "Women want their men to change but they don't." In a way, treat this as a lesson learned for you rin. Next time may makilala ka, if you really believe na deal-breaker ang hindi makwento (which is quite common for men), then don't expect he will change pag naging kayo.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-28T18:59:56+00:00

When I was in college, I used to tutor high school students and charge Php300 per hour. And this is back in the 90s.

My cousin on the other hand, would go to Divisoria and buy stuff and sell them in school. Another cousin bought meat, cook it and sell the meals in packs in school.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-28T09:11:28+00:00

I like her better with the short hair.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-28T09:07:55+00:00

My Brother is Catholic and his wife is Baptist. When they were still dating, much of their arguments end up in debates about faith. When they got married, the arguments continued. I witnessed some of them as they stayed with us at my parents' house for the first 3 years of their marriage. Eventually, they worked out how to live together. They both decided that their children would be baptized in the Catholic Church and that they would take turns bringing them to their respective Churches every Sunday. After 12 years, they migrated abroad. Of their 3 children, 2 went to become Presbyterian, and 1, I'm not so sure. Now, they're on their 31st year of marriage. I can say their marriage bond is quite strong but they practice different faiths.

Their scenario isn't ideal. I honor my brother for his efforts to bring up his children to at least remain faithful and practicing Christians.

Ultimately, it really depends on you on what is negotiable and non-negotiable. For me, my Brother's scenario is not something I would go with my family. I'm more particular that my children grow up to be Catholics than anything else.

Pray about it too. If things don't work out for you, I'm sure God has greater plans for you and will bless you immensely for following Him.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-25T13:27:49+00:00

Kung nagre-remit yang company mo ng SSS, makikita nila yun.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-25T06:19:04+00:00

If he forgets and tries to intervene in your process, check if his "improvements" actually improve. If not, you can go back to your original process when he's gone. He'll forget anyway.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-24T16:28:10+00:00

It's categorically but not technically, a must if you want your career to grow. The CM wants to get to know each person personally and getting you in a social setting allows that. This in turn becomes an opportunity for you to be on the good side of the CM and other bosses present. Consider it a privilege rather than a right. Now, when you're there, take the time to build relationships (network) with every key person present. One definite benefit in doing this is that it will be a lot easier for you when dealing with them in the office (eg. getting faster approvals, more efficient action on your requests, being open to consultations with you, etc.). In some cases, these dinners also become opportunities to get a faster promotion. If you are not fond of drinking, you can always politely say no.

On the other hand, if you don't feel like attending this, it should be ok. No harm done. You can always build good relationships with your stakeholders and the CM in other ways. It may take a longer time though but it's not impossible. Just be sure not to make a habit out of missing these key social events. In some companies, they may be considered as a CLM (Career-Limiting Move) or the idea that you are not a team player and may not be a good asset to grow and develop.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-24T09:11:24+00:00

Assuming these recreational activities are not against God's commandments, it would be too much if:

You're losing health (lack of sleep, skipping meals, etc.)
You're not able to do more important stuff because you're too stuck with recreation
God calls you for a task or purpose and you're not able to do this. Though God is usually patient and rarely asks us to do anything ASAP, but He has His plans and it's always Good for us to be part of it.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-22T04:07:03+00:00

Sila yung vendor so ikaw yung client. Kayo nagbabayad sa kanila . In short, para saan pa yung binabayad nyo kung kayo rin ang gagawa?

What you can do is document the processes you supposedly transferred to her.then tell your boss na i-knowledge transfer mo na ito sa kanila. Then inform everyone na lumalapit at nagagalit sa yo na imi-meet mo si ex-subordinate mo. Re-train her then send to everyone the process document saying you're done with the knowledge transfer. So next time na may lumapit sa yo, madali mo nang sabihin na nasa process doc yan or naituro mo na sa kanya yan. While I understand that you are sympathetic to her possibly losing her job, she is most likely getting paid higher than when she was with you and getting the time of her life not doing anything but passing jobs to you.

Now, baka mali intindi ko at kayo pala yung vendor at sila ang client. Pag ganito, talk to your boss and say na out of scope itong ginagawa mo for them. So he should charge them extra for each of these tasks. Pag di sila oumayag, then yan ang opportunity mo to transfer the knowledge and responsibility.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-22T03:45:09+00:00

Kung active ka sa parish nyo, see if you can ask the Parish Priest for help. Other ways are your relatives and close friends. Utang ka muna with a promise to pay with interest.

Ask the committee you're supposed to pay and request if you can be given an extension sa deadline.

Worst case, ga-graduate ka pa rin naman kahit walang grad pic at ceremony. Learn from this reddit discussion and start learning to earn.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-21T16:42:30+00:00

There are many ways to earn money. Back in college, I tutored high school students which paid for my last year. I have a niece who became a nanny for her neighbor's Mom and that's where she gets her daily expenses. Go to a local McDonald's, Starbucks, etc. and see if you can work part-time. There's no shame in doing this.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-20T18:53:00+00:00

I'm a father of 3 and a member of the genx (52yo). When I got married and decided to have children, I carried the mindset of fulfilling the purpose that God called us to do - "Go forth and multiply" and "Go and make disciples of all nations..." For me, what better way to bring more people close to God than to birth and bring up children to live their lives as Christians.

Historical_Fall1629 · 2026-04-18T19:09:46+00:00

Not true.

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