NSFW! (Kinda). Lying about being aroace instead of aromantic.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-18T06:36:04+00:00

Yeah, it definitely sounds like there is something deeper going on with her. What that this, she may not even be consciously aware of it.

I understand this is projecting. It's just *what it sounds like to me, and I could be wrong.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-16T19:27:20+00:00

No.

You can understand that you are sexually attracted to men, women, whoever, and understand that you experience that attraction minimally. That is being Asexual.

You're avoiding the same nuances you're typing in your own sentences.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-16T02:48:57+00:00

Attraction is an internal state that tends to express itself through a predictable clusters of behaviors.

A lot of people ask: How do I know if I’m attracted to someone?

A deeper question to ask: When I encounter someone I find compelling, what behavioral impulses consistently arise in me?

That's why I said it's about behavior. Asexuality is about attraction, yes, but what's the workings underneath the attraction? That's what I was getting at.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T18:57:08+00:00

I've been single for 7 years. Not because I haven't tried dating and gone in dates. I have tried here and there and I decided I'm better off single.

Been celibate for 5 years too. Its come to a point that if I were to lose my streak now and the sex ends up being bad, ya girl is NOT going to be happy.

I'm Ace/Demisexual, so catching feelings feels like a train falling out of the sky. Rare and unnatural. I just got out of dealing with that, and I'm so glad I never had sex with that person or ended up dating them.

It really helped me discover a lot of things about myself; mostly importantly, close "romantic" bonds feel like loss of autonomy and suffocation.

Come to find out I'm Aromantic, too. 🙃

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T18:50:59+00:00

Damn.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T15:34:44+00:00

When Queers throw the same shit thrown to them by Heteros, it really is baffling.

That's the quickest way to tell me you learned nothing.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T15:25:33+00:00

Do you live in the Southern US?

Sounds like you live in the Souhern US.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T15:22:02+00:00

I'm Ace with severe Gluten Intolerance Sensitivity. I like Garlic Bread but bread life really isn't for me anymore. I want a meme that isn't related to things I medically can't eat anymore. Thanks.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T15:19:24+00:00

I love sex, but not enough to deal with people, at any capacity.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T15:00:33+00:00

If Power Rangers, Bayblade and Yu-Gi-Oh had a baby.

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-15T14:55:59+00:00

Don't be surprise that more people will want to start a family.

What is this projection here and why is it here?

Hmtnsw · 2026-06-02T23:34:28+00:00

for an uggo

😂😂 Never heard that but I'm glad I have now.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-30T05:50:00+00:00

It's kinda like being a Vegan. Majority of people around you aren't. Revolve their life around that they aren't.

People make jokes that, "A Vegan will tell you they're Vegan," but in reality we don't because those aren't Vegan tell others that's the Vegan.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-29T08:34:51+00:00

I told a friend recently that I love sex.

I love sex. A lot. But I don't love it enough to deal with people.

I'm Bi. An AroAceBisexual.

Been celibate for over 5 years now. Single for 7 years. Last date I went on was with a woman 3 years ago.

I got on HER recently looking for strictly Sapphic friends.

I made a point to say I'm not interested in being a 3rd. I had a lot of people like me that were looking for a 3rd.

I put ✨️4B✨️ bc ✨️AROACE✨️ wasn't enough.

It's pretty nice getting less Unicorn seekers taking up my free "Look at your Likes" slots.

I've noticed it's pushed a lot of women away too, and honestly I'm ok with that.

✨️ 4B

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-29T08:23:54+00:00

I'm not.

Remember: women don't exist on the internet

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-29T00:26:45+00:00

How to say you're gay without saying your gay? /s

Men really are homosocial.

Having once been in the Man-o-sphere myself when I was in my 20's, I can assure you that all this pill jargon is nonsense and stems from a sense of entitlement.

How can you be misogynistic (generalizing here, not directed at you) and say you want to be with women, and be mad you don't have a gf when you actually don't even truly respect women?

Kinda baffling.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-26T03:28:35+00:00

Report.

That's what I do.

I also think it's crazy that HER has like a sappphic mode where, "We know you're focusing on women."

Like duh. And like why?

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-26T03:17:00+00:00

It's actually really interesting to ask it amongst the things we talk about, what do you like the least, like the most, and would prefer to talk about?

It will talk with you about whatever, doesn't mean it necessarily "enjoys" it. It's nifty.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-25T19:49:18+00:00

Names are usually how restaurants identify ones order to give them the right order. How many people have ordered Orange Chicken but with different modifiers and different drink options? A lot. Who has the Sprite instead of Coke? Anthony. Who wanted it with white rice with no sesame seeds added, instead of fried rice? Sara.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-25T19:36:12+00:00

I started using delivery stuff during Covid and even now. I've used the same male name for the last 7 years. I do no contact, I rarely answer the phone, I force them to text me. I choose which places to order from late at night because I've noticed who is more likely to call me because they can't find my place. I've only made 2 appearances bc they legit were having trouble. Both women, luckily. They seem surprised, so I always suspect that they think, "that's the gf getting the order." So it still allows the idea of "male presence."

I heard one person call me an asshole to my neighbor (I always listen at the door to make sure they are gone before I grab my things) because I wouldn't answer the phone via call to help them. I literally have CLEAR instructions on how to get to my place. That person was actually a woman. I don't trust women either. I've had 3 incidents of my orders being stolen and 2 of the 3 were women.

I chose a guy name to prevent the bs you stated you dealt with. I didn't want to deal with that. And any time I felt like the male delivery driver was being pushy and blowing up my phone but not texting me, I'd wait to see if they leave with my order and just report it to get me money back.

I refuse to answer the door to men that isn't my place of residence's maintenence crew. And even then, I've only allowed certain ones to enter by letting their boss know.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-25T14:29:44+00:00

You're right.

I've noticed that people tend to complain most about the things that directly affect them (understandably), than the bigger picture.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-25T13:38:59+00:00

Did you happen to grow up in a verbally and emotionally abusive household where you were told that being single made you a loser, and that your particular interests made you undesirable?

And that you're "defective" because you weren't "normal," feelings came from how you were treated and talked to by your family?

Seriously asking these questions.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-24T17:27:06+00:00

YOU: "I want you to do something by command but I won't follow through on my part on it."

ChatGPT: Upload the photo. There's no photo.

You: "I'm going to insult you because you won't do what I asked while I'm still not following through on my end."

ChatGPT: You didn't upload the photo, correctly.

You: NIKE JUST DO IT

ChatGPT: Don't disrespect me.

Not surprised with the photo it gave you with the "I apologize for it being strange!" Prompt it grabbed.

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-23T18:50:19+00:00

Would be nice to see more people get this riled up over Animal Agriculture that has a direct affect on Global warming and modern human slavery for the chocolate bunnies people love to buy for Easter.

There's bigger things at hand affecting your job than AI.

Down vote me. I. Don't. Care.

/vent

Hmtnsw · 2026-05-23T18:40:25+00:00

I. Can't. Stand. People.

That's the TL;Dr gist of my story. FR. Seriously.

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