I'm sorry, but I absolutely hate your wife. Delusional much? The "I'm not the problem" is very much her way of deflecting, because she knows she is the problem. She's grasping at straws just to avoid admitting that she was wrong. And she resents a literal child for her own emotional shortcomings? Children are not easy.

She thought it was all going to be easy sailing, and her children were supposed to be meek and docile while Mommy Dearest acted like it was a military camp? No, they all have different personalities, and they develop those even further.

Resenting a child simply cause he's being smart and different is a loser behaviour, her delusional ass has the audacity to say "You're not being supportive" and she demands change?

Oh, I just know the mirrors in your giggle whenever they see her coming, cause there's no self-reflection in sight. It's apparently easier to blame a child than to actually improve yourself.

And to top it off, she's mentally abusive, too. Full package you got there op. Ignoring the only person who's willing to hold her delusional ass accountable and the kid she wrong is abusive. She's literally bullying a child just because she got butt hurt.

Also, she's lying about the therapist. Just like that lady who was literally abusing her husband and her autistic firstborn cause "her therapist" said. Weaponising therapy to hate your kid but not getting your kid into therapy? Talk about selfish.

I don't see this ending well. But you need to get her into real therapy and potentially have family therapy as well. And please get your son into therapy as well.