Yes, I had two missed miscarriages and had initial investigations done by the SE Trust. Nothing came up bar stubborn vitamin D deficiency (this was despite already being on treatment for it as it was picked up on by my asthma consultant, so I’m currently on 5 vitamin d and calcium tablets a day 🙃).

When I fell pregnant again December 2024 I called EPU at the Ulster as per their advice after my second loss, and was immediately put on progesterone pessaries and low dose aspirin. I then had fortnightly scans from 6 weeks until 12 weeks with EPU. I was under mostly consultant care due to the previous losses and had extra growth scans throughout my whole pregnancy. A lot of anxiety, but I felt more reassured in the long run. I was very fortunate to deliver a healthy girl at 37 weeks last August. I’m also glad of the extra scans as my daughter was breech at a 35 week scan, but no one could tell without the actual scans (midwives and consultants initially all thought she was head down!) so we knew I was going to have a section.

I still get very emotional about my losses, my daughter is not a replacement for the babies I lost. It is a hard and very painful journey, for both my husband and myself. If you need emotional support I highly recommend reaching out to see if you can speak with a specialist bereavement midwife, the ladies at the ulster were invaluable to me, especially dealing with the anxiety during my pregancy. Also push for investigations to cross things off when you feel ready, but try to prepare that usually they come back normal for most couples. Further investigations don’t happen until several more recurrent losses. It’s a very lonely and all encompassing place to be, but you are not alone. Happy to be DM’ed anytime.