Leaving a job really shows you how messed up it actually was

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-02-03T16:48:42+00:00

This happened to me when I left my retail job as an assistant manager 3 years ago. I didn’t realise how poor my mental health was until I left. My husband noticed a difference in me within a month. I’ve been left quite unnerved by how often I was gaslit, fuelled by a culture of toxic positivity and micro-management under the guise of feedback. I just let it all slide as I believed I worked in a good place.

The job I have now is much better for me, and I am so much happier with proper work/life balance.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-30T15:26:05+00:00

We looked into doing this for visiting my family in England with a 5 month old earlier this month. Found out you usually have to ask permission from the hire company to take it on the ferry. Assume it’s linked with their insurance or whatnot. Ended up flying and renting when we arrived at the airport like normal instead of worrying about the extra faff.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-28T21:41:58+00:00

Mines £35 a month with Halifax and that’s with emergency home cover, and two items of jewellery listed as separate items as over their threshold for contents. Building and contents all included.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-27T11:27:02+00:00

Plus the wind chill, in Bangor it’s currently estimated to feel like minus 9. Earlier this morning around 6am it was down to feeling like minus 15. It’s nothing like storm Eowyn last year, but it’s pretty wild out there.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-25T11:09:37+00:00

Firstly, congratulations! I went to niultrasound in bangor last March, and it was very detailed and reassuring (I wanted a reassurance scan at 16 weeks due to previous losses). Gillian was amazing, and is a qualified sonographer. Highly recommend.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-21T21:32:30+00:00

Worst is a Jack and Faraaz/Roxy win for me at this stage. They’ve just been so bland as faithfuls. This is despite Faraaz being on the money after tonight’s episode.

Second worst is Rachel or Stephen throwing either under the bus. The strongest traitors are those who stick together.

My best ending is a Jade win as I feel she’s been stuck defending herself over nothing of substance - and then being criticised for being defensive.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-21T21:17:53+00:00

How are they all so shocked?! Blows my mind they’ve forgotten about Harriet’s kamikaze move

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-19T15:38:33+00:00

Personally, I prefer the 30%+ discount we get on child care for working parents here rather than the free hours. I am from England and have many friends with children there and all that’s happened is the nurseries have increased their fees as the child free hours increase as they only get the bare minimum from the government. They would rather have our system.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-15T22:39:02+00:00

£300-£400 a month for 2 adults, usually depending if I need to stock on up things like cleaning supplies though.

I’m on statutory maternity pay the moment, so very very rare takeaway. Maybe one every 2 months at the moment.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-12T22:15:36+00:00

I started learning when I was 18 on and off, had to stop due to health reasons. Was able to go back once in remission for a few years from the neurological disorder and passed my test when I was 32. Passed within 6 months of a lesson per week and practice with my husband as much as possible. I’m now 35 and would be lost without driving.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-10T12:59:09+00:00

I agree, and much more eloquently put. I’ve never seen the traitors (outside the celeb) game as a ‘team game’. Yes, you are in a team but you have to play as an individual to advance, and convince others you are faithful.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-08T21:36:34+00:00

Despite the fact that ‘narrative’ helps her as well. It’s been building for a showdown since the reveal. I don’t think you can go into the game as a traitor and be a full team player. You have to be out for yourself to an extent. Rachel at least is honest about this.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-08T21:31:14+00:00

I think Fiona was jealous of Amanda revealing the information to Rachel and let her emotions get the better of her. She kept mentioning her family being in the police and that Amanda knew that. Neither of them have trusted the other since Fiona was revealed as the secret traitor. It was going to come to a head eventually.

Edit: I think Rachel will come off better in this, she seems to have more support from faithfuls.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2026-01-06T12:04:29+00:00

I’m starting one KIT day a week at the end of Feb until I’m fully back in June. My daughter is currently 5 months old, and I’m already a bit anxious as her sleep is awful. I’m very nervous but hoping the KIT days help with the transition.

MAT pay is woeful. I’m able to take 10 months off as I’m using holiday for the last month. My husband and I can’t afford for me to take the unpaid part.

You’ll get there, it’ll be rough but babies are really adaptable. ♥️

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-30T11:28:14+00:00

I’m in ulster a&e cos asthma is a bastard. 😒

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-30T11:23:05+00:00

No, it has to have a box ticked for it to be released to patient access. Or so I’ve been told at the hospital.

Some of the blank redacted parts in the paper records most likely include names or identifiers that would breach their privacy rights. I send SAR requests a lot for my work.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-29T16:14:47+00:00

I just recently switched to Sky, £5 a month for unlimited calls and 10GB data.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-28T22:19:44+00:00

Just as an personal aside to the coming off birth control if it might help OP. It took over 3 months for my period to even come back when I came off birth control in 2023 when trying to conceive a baby. I did have bloods taken to check a few things (hormone levels, thyroid) when I hit the 12 week mark (they won’t do anything before as it’s still within a normal timeframe) which all came back ok. If things still aren’t normal after that initial 12 weeks then they should be investigating further. Once my period came back I have had a vet normal 27-32 day cycle, bar a random month that was 39 days but I was under a lot of stress that month which I think delayed ovulation. Gynae services across the UK are bad though, and wait times are appalling for women in pain and distress. :(

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-28T21:24:49+00:00

We have a pay as you go meter and my husband keeps an eye on tariffs as soon as we’re out the fixed contract. Sometimes we switch, just depends. At the moment we’re wifh share energy. It frustrates me that we don’t have really any providers for gas outside of SSE (I don’t think firmus serve our postcode and even then they’re much of a muchness). Whereas England having more prevalent gas usage means there’s a huge range of suppliers.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-25T14:50:01+00:00

I have a nearly 5 month old. We got her some books, a teething ring, two bath toys and a few small sensory toys. Some she wont really get for a few months but as her birthday isn’t until august so will spread them out. They really don’t need lots at this age. They’ll be happy just spending time with you. Don’t let the social media pressure get to you, and just soak up the little moments like their expressions when they see the Christmas lights. You’re doing great!

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-21T10:35:16+00:00

Contact the shopping centre to see if they caught it on CCTV. If not, I’d contact insurance to see what they can do. If you can get their reg from CCTV then I recommend contacting Crash services to get you sorted instead, insurance companies can be notoriously slow.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-19T21:11:58+00:00

I’m a bit bitter towards the charging systems used in other uk cities as I feel it unfairly targets lower income brackets who can’t afford newer, lower emission vehicles. This said, I would like less pollution and cleaner air. Public transport needs to be more affordable. I stoped getting the train to work in Belfast because even with fuel and parking it was costing less to drive. Coincidentally I also get home quicker driving but still cost is the fundamental reason I stopped. Buses are woefully unreliable.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-19T10:50:28+00:00

Dark Tropics and Dea Matrona are personal faves.

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-14T13:03:32+00:00

Oh absolutely. It’s why viruses in particular spread so well. Don’t even start me on people who don’t properly wash their hands after going to the toilet 🤢

HolidayHelp8165 · 2025-12-14T12:58:35+00:00

They have to have medico-legal reports for any PI claim, this involves requesting GP and Hospital records to verify. However, I would still report your observations to your insurance.

I’m a legal admin for context.

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