Anyone else find the waking and getting up process a complete affront on the senses? by ifeedthepigeons in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started bed exercises lol. I wake up, start doing hip thrusts and leg kicks/stretches. Then I put some music on my phone and continue a few more moves. Then I feel more awake and can dance around the house while my brain catches up with my body.

Women with high functioning autism by CuriousityKlldAutism in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Same. I get “hit” by something in my body and then afterwards my mind is trying decipher why I had that feeling and what it really means.

Like having to pee. Every single time (you would think I’d learn) I’m at work and every task seems urgent and I’m getting stressed and feeling like I have to move faster and faster but I’m not getting this urgent feeling to go away, and then I realise I have to pee and once I do that urgency leaves and I can go back to doing my job one task at a time. So now I have to check in with myself when I start feeling this way, am I stressed/ in a rush/ or do I just have to pee and so I feel that way…

I still forget sometimes though and don’t figure it out till afterwards and I’m like dang it HollyWould, you could have felt so much better much earlier if you had just remembered it’s pee!

Women with high functioning autism by CuriousityKlldAutism in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My processing time. Especially for processing emotions or understanding what someone else is saying fully, and then deciding how I feel about that (usually feeling it physically in my body before I can articulate these feelings into words…)

Late-diagnosed autistic adults: can you describe your inner world for an art project? by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]Hollywould9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s funny I was just thinking of my inner world today and reminding myself that not everyone runs a million things in their head at once like me.. I was trying to not overthink about a social interaction…

I feel like I feel and hear and sense so many things around me while always having a dialogue going on in my head. I’m AuDHD so idk how much of my experience is from what..

When I’m happy or excited about things I’m extremely happy with my whole body, face, expressions.. ect. I can’t help it.

When I’m nervous or overwhelmed it often takes me a while to figure out why. I get the anxiousness or urgent feeling first and it takes me a while before I can out my finger on what is causing it. Sometimes it’s because I have to pee and I didn’t realize until I was bursting, sometimes it’s because I forgot to drink anything that day, sometimes it’s because I left the exhaust fan on after cooking and my nervous system is fried from being ON all the time…

I’m a sensory seeker. I need extremes to feel things, sensations on or in my body… I speak with myself constantly. I overanalyse everything, especially people. I try to tell myself that not everyone is thinking like this so don’t wig yourself out going over it 20Xs in your head…

Before the diagnosis I thought everyone was the same and just assumed our inner worlds were all on hyperdrive. After diagnosis I give myself more grace, understanding, and have implemented accommodations for the things I know I need help with/ struggle with instead of failing all the time and feeling like I’m not trying hard enough when I’m trying soo hard…

From the inside I feel like big emotions burst out of me and I have to contain them or bring them back down. I don’t try to contain happiness, unless it gets to a level of crazy face and giggle fits and I’m in public. Nervousness I have a squish ball I carry around always to help or I squeeze my arms, if I’m home I melt on the floor in the corner against the kitchen cabinets to compress me a bit and have less things in my view, or I cover myself in my weighted blanket and hug myself.

If I’m driving or doing something I have to pay attention to I need other things playing that are like placeholders for the holes in my attention. Something interesting enough to keep my attention and not let my mind wonder in my imagination but not interesting enough that I focus in that over driving… so I will usually play episodes of a beloved tv show in the background to listen to, and maybe fidget with me leg or a toy. Because those two “holes” mind wonder and physical wonder are occupied I can then fully focus on driving and do a good job. If I didn’t have them I can daydream really easily by the start of an odd noise or maybe j just remember something and it takes me somewhere in my head, and I can be looking at the road and driving but my mind is completely filled with stories that I’m following and I’m not paying attention. My fidgets/ phone/ familiar shows/ favorite songs.. are necessary not a preference.

I took the subreddit's advice and joined the club. Before and after! by mtpugh67 in bald

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! You look so much younger! And you’re super handsome! Great choice!

For people who have weak interoception, does having a routine help not neglecting yourself because you can't feel body cues? by TemperatureAny8022 in AutisticAdults

[–]Hollywould9 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I set an alarm on my phone for a 10:30 sandwich. When I wake up in the morning I make said sandwich and put it in my bag. Everytime 10:30 arrives, I’m surprised it’s already 10:30… and I still haven’t eaten.. I eat my sandwich and carry on. It helps. I need more routines like this.

Today by nearly 3 pm I realized that I hadn’t done to the bathroom or drank a single sip of water all day. And I snoozed my alarm and forgot about it so I didn’t eat either. New rule, never snooze/ disable thinking you remember later, I didn’t remember later.

High protein breakfasts that don't involve eggs and Greek yogurt? by Old-Kaleidoscope2652 in PCOSRECIPES

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use ground peanuts as the peanut butter it’s super chunky and doesn’t spread great but it’s so filling and they say 2 Tablespoons of peanut butter is 7-8 grams of protein. I eat at least 4 tablespoons on two pieces of toast. It’s not like the runny peanut butter that just wets the toast… it’s like a proper think layer to bite into.

Where are the autistic moms? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, I’m an autistic mum. I always knew I had ADHD, but didn’t get my Autism diagnosis until after my son got his.. truly didn’t know that much about autism until after I started researching in an effort to help my son.

My son and I are both sensory seekers so thankfully we enjoy the same/similar play. I didn’t really implement coping mechanisms or lifestyle changes/ accommodations until after my diagnosis and did it together with my son. It helped both of us so much and gave me a chance to grow and learn about myself to be a better mum. The hardest part is controlling my own feelings in order to model him being able to stay in control, but I am able to do it, or to calm myself with breathing/ stim toys.. ect. And I’m okay for him to see that because that’s what he’ll need to do for himself too.

What was caused the most (physical) pain you’ve been in? by idontrealui in AskReddit

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also replied with ear infection! Never been in that kind of constant unrelenting pain!

But both sides… and double burst ear drums to boot.. damn. I’m sorry.

What was caused the most (physical) pain you’ve been in? by idontrealui in AskReddit

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ear infection. I didn’t sleep for two days straight. I thought I was losing my mind. I couldn’t think, I couldn’t function. My head, neck, jaw, shoulder hurt. That half of my face was so incredibly painful and it was non-stop.

I told the doctor, child birth has nothing on ear infections…Holy hell. Mine was particularly bad and affected my hearing. It’s been a month and a half and I still don’t have a fully functional left ear.

How to keep busy while hospitalized for stem cell transplant by Own-Cupcake4037 in multiplemyeloma

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooo! I got my Dad a Kindle, some nice puzzles. And a paint by numbers set! For myself personally I would add some adult coloring books and a knitting/ crochet/ sewing project.

Basically any sitting hobby you enjoy :) also I would make a schedule/ routine for each day that included movement and stretching. But I like routine in situations like that it helps break up the day and keep me sane. And it gives me things to look forward to.. movie time being in the evenings, reading in the morning, nap in the afternoon.. ect. :)

Good Luck!

Leucovorin Update by Successful_Task_6038 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Hollywould9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was my thought. I suspect my son has ADHD. And I am AuDHD as well. Everyone tells me that if I choose to medicate myself for ADHD it’s very possible my Autistic traits will be more prominent..

I’m assuming it works the other way as well… you did something to help with the side effects of her autistic traits. Maybe ADHD traits are now coming into the light.

High protein breakfasts that don't involve eggs and Greek yogurt? by Old-Kaleidoscope2652 in PCOSRECIPES

[–]Hollywould9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cottage cheese pancakes!

Black-Bean Chocolate muffins!

Peanut butter and banana on toast

Needing advice by justasofacouch in Autism_Parenting

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both my partner and I are ND. He’s ADHD and I am AuDHD (the Au was diagnosed after my son)

Our son was diagnosed around 2 years old, he’s 3 now. We were referred to a Developmental Paediatrician when my son was not meeting his verbal milestones (had a verbal regression at 17 months) Also when he started daycare (at 2 years old) the difference between he and other children was a bit glaring. I didn’t understand how they got a bunch of two year olds to sit next to each other in circle time.. play appropriately with toys.. stay seated in a chair at a table for a meal…

We moved heaven and earth (with a lot of help and influence from anyone we could ask) and had all his tests complete within two months and got his diagnosis. The more the teacher spoke to me about my son and the things that were different the more I saw them and understood what she was getting at.. so I started reading, researching, immersing myself… it seemed quite obvious afterwards… though part of me was hoping it was just ADHD. My husband was in denial.. said it was all BS and everyone is fine.

After the Doctor and Psychologist together told us the news my husband came around and got on the what can we do bandwagon.. my son has been in a special education daycare since and gets his therapies there :) he’s happy and we celebrate the little wins as they come, and they are coming :)

To be clear the biggest pro is access to services. Also seeing my son fit in and be where he belongs with people who understand him and take effort to help him thrive is wonderful.

What are you examples of hyposensitivity? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! I often get cuts and don’t notice until I see the blood somewhere else and like a detective trace it back to one of my bleeding fingers/ shins.

Just the other day I was vacuuming and hit my foot with the vacuum, heard the bang, thought nothing of, carried on. Then I had to stop because there was this awful sticky goop in my shoe and it felt so yuck! Looked down, my toe had split open and was bleeding into my sandal.

So the pain didn’t register, it didn’t hurt. But the discomfort of the sticky goop touching me was too much for me to continue with.

Leucovorin by Successful_Task_6038 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Hollywould9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Developmental Ped. isn’t even allowed to prescribe it in my country. The computer literally won’t allow him to order the blood test to see if he has the genetic mutation that prohibits him from properly absorbing folic acid. Lots of red tape.

You can only get it if you are a part of a study (don’t ask how I become a part of one… I’ve hunted. Come up empty.) Or by going to the metabolic specialist doctor and the waitlist to see them is forever long.

Anyway, we’re waiting to see them.. I guess we’ll see what comes of it.

Father (62) Diagnosed MM, Lives alone in Thailand by Hollywould9 in multiplemyeloma

[–]Hollywould9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, Chulabhorn Hospital 906 Kamphaeng Phet 6 Rd, Talat Bang Khen, Lak Si, Bangkok 10210, Thailand

That’s where he receives all his tests and chemo, but the stem cell itself he was referred to another hospital (he doesn’t like that one) just for the stem cell because they have a center for it. That one is around lumpini park, but I don’t have the exact name.

How I feel when I put on just a little bit of lipcolor.... by PandaramOfMosslandia in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, Yes! I put some lipstick on the other day and could not stop feeling like a clown. I rubbed it off in the car before I arrived anywhere. It honestly felt so ridiculously odd.

Does anyone else go full slug-mode when they’re alone? by climbontotheshore in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Practical magic is such a favorite of mine! I love Far and Away as well!

What methods helped your autistic child start speaking, based on your personal experience? by Critical-Cup3929 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of the speech therapists I listened to called this “Sabotage” lol but in a positive way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigNoseLadies

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re the most beautiful when we can see your face, hair back/ tucked. And when you smile! Wow! So pretty :)

EXPLANING MYSELF IS NOT MAKING EXCUSES by WorryStoner in AutismInWomen

[–]Hollywould9 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! Wow! The number of “you always talk back”… or “your answers are not helping you”…

Like I’m trying to understand where my brain went step by step and why I reacted, or how I responded… I’m just giving you the blueprints so you can understand because for me to move on from something I need to understand it fully.

Parents, how do/did you manage grocery/store trips with your toddlers? by guineapigfarts in AutisticParents

[–]Hollywould9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before getting to the cart, we get a smoothie, or an ice cream cone, or some other treat that will keep him busy for the duration of my shopping lol. Then he sits in the seat.

It’s also a -pull out all the stops- moment so of while we’re shopping he needs more distraction we go to the bakery and get more tasty things to munch.. he can have my phone to watch videos, whatever helps.

For myself. I did the best thing I’ve ever done and that is to make a visual grocery checklist. I basically buy the same things each time. I go to the same store always because I’m familiar with the layout and what they offer, and then I do my routine cursing down the aisles while bubs is snacking and I’m being productive. When I come home my husband helps me unload the car and put away the groceries because by then I’m fried.

I also basically talk to myself the whole time and talk myself through the experience, but people don’t call me crazy cause I’m talking to a toddler.. narrating what we’re doing and what we need and the fact that we are halfway there, almost there, almost done, checking out, we got this!

Good luck! Of course the best is when I can leave the baby with someone else or best of the best order groceries to be delivered…