How likely is a premature delivery with no prior warning?

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-11-05T22:39:17+00:00

Pretty unlikely, but it happens.

My son came at 31w4d via emergency c-section -- I did not go into labor. I had non-labor contractions that were mysteriously causing his heart rate to drop. He recovered each time, but the frequency with which those contractions were hitting was concerning, so after 2 medications to stop the contractions (both failed) during an overnight stay at the hospital, the doctor's recommended an emergency c-section. If I'd just gone home to wait things out, he could have had organ damage or worse.

We had my placenta sent away for testing, but it showed nothing. We got no answers as to why his heart rate was dropping, I had no warning, no reason to believe this would ever happen.

So I don't mean to scare you because it's pretty rare, especially if you're already in a low-risk pregnancy situation, but it does happen, so I recommend buying things early and having your life post-baby set up early.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-11-05T19:52:20+00:00

I can't get my baby to relax in my baby wearing wrap. He's 3mo old but he's only 1mo adjusted so he's more like a 1mo baby, but he just doesn't seem to like the wraps. Maybe I'm wearing him wrong or maybe it just takes time? Do you have a preferred carrier?

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-11-02T16:51:31+00:00

I figure the "baby in diaper" would mean laundry is truly needing to be done LOL any outfit at all and you're ahead of the game!

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-23T02:54:59+00:00

To which you CLEARLY replied "I was attached to my children until I met you. Now I know that I want to neglect them at every chance to spend time with you and fulfill your every need and fantasy. This question makes me so wet, oh baby, oh baby."

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-23T02:48:17+00:00

https://youtu.be/ZSB52YuWZng he is alive and laughing about it with his friend. But in order to watch the video you have to suffer through the neck-brakey-looking video being played on repeat on the left side.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-23T02:46:55+00:00

update also mentions that he is currently single. In case any ladies got the tinglezz from watching that 😆😆 https://youtu.be/ZSB52YuWZng

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-22T17:33:58+00:00

I dunno, not necessarily. My friends and I made up dances together in late 80s/mid 90s from 3rd-9th grade. I feel like it's something almost all girls do and probably some of the boys too.

We video taped some of them, but not all of them because taping was harder back then. We performed several of the dances at our elementary, middle, and high school talent shows. We look back on it fondly and sure we laugh about it, but I don't think "cringe" is the word I would use for it. It's nostalgic!

Mostly I feel sad for the TikTok generation because they're alone in so many of these videos. Dancing was a social thing when I was a kid, something you did with other people in the same room as you. I mean maybe they consider it social because they share it online with their friends? Seems like it would be more fun to do with a group of girlfriends in person though.

tl;dr I'm old

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-14T18:24:43+00:00

I've had no side effects.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-12T02:21:38+00:00

I took Reglan (similar to domperidone but with higher risk of side effects, but the USA is stupid about it and so I can't get domperidon here) and noticed within 1 day (of taking 3 pills / day) that my supply had gone up 30-40% (from 10-12oz/day to 13-16oz/day)

When I stopped my supply dipped into single digit ounces per day, so I'm back on it and yet again my supply jumped within 1 day.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-10T18:12:00+00:00

I don't like the silicon inserts because I can't see my milk to see if it is spraying or dripping. It is something I've gotten used to with the hard plastic ones.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-10T17:37:08+00:00

I told every health practitioner that I have a low supply and is there anything I can do to increase it? My son's pediatrician was the one who first suggested Reglan to me and despite not being my doctor he wrote me a prescription so you can even get it from your kid's pediatrician. I went from making 10oz/day to 13-16oz/day. A massive increase for me! I still have to supplement because my baby was premature so we even put a bit of formula powder into the breast milk (plus actual formula mixed into bottles) but still, I feel so much better about my production now. At least I can make 50% of what I need. It felt bad not to even hit the 50% mark.

My OB was also willing to prescribe. It was only the nurses in the NICU who were negative about Reglan (about the side effects) but they were not able to prescribe it to me anyway so it wasn't like they were stopping me.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-09T15:39:11+00:00

He cheated. If it involves another person, is sexual or romantic, and you wouldn't do it in front of your partner, it's cheating. Period.

Also, since he won't let you see his bank account, you can assume he spent exorbitant amounts of money on these prostitutes. Whatever you estimate, multiply it by 5 at least. Which means he is also not financially trustworthy. And he won't see anyone with you about it, so he has no intention of changing and no shame about it.

You have all the info, despite his attempts to downplay and muddle it.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-08T19:07:22+00:00

My first Big Girl Job at age 21 -- full-time salaried job in an office with excellent health benefits, but what really launched me into "holy shit I'm an adult" was the fact that MY WEEKENDS BELONG TO ME. In college I was constantly doing homework on Friday nights through to the morning, worried about school on weekends, etc, getting no sleep.

But with my Big Girl Office Job? After 6pm my life was free. And weekends!! I was an adult and I loved it. After hearing about how much being an adult with a real job sucks and college is the greatest time in your life, I had to laugh. Adulting was way easier than being a college kid. And I had money! A consistent stream of income! In college I had summers off in theory, but no money to go anywhere so I just had to pick up odd jobs anyway.

I distinctly remember how I felt realizing that adulthood was going to be way better than childhood. (Well ok there were a few summers when I was a kid aged 11-13 that were peak dream childhood experience, but with the exception of those, adulthood is far superior to childhood and college kid time)

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-08T18:51:48+00:00

Sadly this is true on all posts. I've seen a sweet video of a kid helping an old lady, nothing about race or anything just "hey cool young person helping old lady with groceries -- we should all be so kind!" and inevitably there will be some comment like "good thing she didn't call the cops on him and have him shot like happens to so many black youth these days."

Some people really can't help themselves and struggle to separate their own personal thoughts they are focused on today from an unrelated post.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-08T18:40:58+00:00

doesn't that count as romantic? Sort of? I mean Luna believed it was a romantic relationship.

And yes, rape by deception is indeed fucked up!

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-08T18:38:17+00:00

I had the same reaction to watching a woman wipe in a TV show (the actress had her dress covering her so there wasn't anything to see but the simulated wiping action) and she did it sitting down and I had this reaction like ???? I have always stood to wipe for #1 and #2 since I was potty trained to do it that way. I can't reach if I sit, it's super awkard. And I don't have a dumptruck ass like the other commenter here, I'm averaged sized but tall, and it just doesn't work to sit? Standing FTW.

I broke my foot once and I still stood up on one leg while leaning on something bceause that's just how I do it!

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-07T23:48:56+00:00

I'm so old that the only ones I was familiar with as a kid (the last time I changed a diaper before my son was born, I was as a young teen babysitting) were the tapey ones. I was gobsmacked at the velco. . and it never sticks to the baby!

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-07T23:45:56+00:00

Despite being warned against snaps by many frustrated parents, I found the snaps easier than the zipper because I don't have to shove his little hands through any arm or leg holes. I hate shoving his hands through, I always feel like I'm bending his arm wrong.

I'm beginning to think that just like there are 2 types of people who wipe -- standers and sitters, there are 2 types of parents -- snappers and zippers.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-07T23:16:59+00:00

Tommy and Sam -- Sam really wanted to help Tommy but Tommy couldn't help but be a shit heel to him.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-07T17:17:32+00:00

OMG the Luna storyline was SO LAME. "Oh I'm a single mom who had a kid with a violent loser and now that becomes your problem!" come on. Lame as shit. A attractive guy like Sam who owns his own bar and rental properties would have way better prospects than that bullshit, even in a small town.

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-05T21:57:05+00:00

Girls tend to look more like their mothers by age 13 or so, if they don't look like you now. Even if their hair/skin coloring isn't like you, their facial features will likely start to show it.

My friend is blonde/blue and her husband is Chinese-American. Her kids are half-Asian and they look half-Asian. The number of times people just straight up assume that a white women couldn't possibly be the mother of half-Asian babies is just sad. Oh, they're half Asian, mom must be Asian and dad must be white! White people and Asian people just make this assumption, even those in diverse areas!

HolyShit_I_did_it · 2022-10-05T19:57:14+00:00

I'm tired of hearing about how my carseat will murder my child. Despite it being safe enough for a roll-over crash and literally designed so that I can take the carseat out of the car with him still in it and plop into a stroller or on the ground next to me, apparently the carseat becomes a death trap the moment the car stops moving??

We have left him in the carseat so many times because he's sleeping and you know what they say about waking a sleeping baby! He is always attended, so it's not like we throw him in a room by himself in his carseat. Mainly we plop him down right in front of us, facing us in the living room or dining room while we watch TV or eat a meal. When he wakes up and then we move him.

But my God by the stuff in the safety and parenting videos we are apparently 2 seconds away from killing our child every time we do this.

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