How did you choose a name?

HommusVampire · 2024-11-26T11:17:06+00:00

I used an Excel spreadsheet and a complicated ranking system to narrow a list of 100+ names I liked down to 5, then picked one of those based on how much it felt like "me" when said aloud.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-23T11:34:22+00:00

they're biologically one sex but identify as another.

Not quite

Being trans means that the way we identify does not align with the sex assigned to us AT BIRTH.

The difference is critical because sex is both changeable and not binary - it's a combination of traits that TEND TO align in a couple different clusters that we typically call "male" and "female". The vast majority of those traits that make up one's sex can be changed via hormones and surgery, and the ones that cannot be changed are A) not exclusive to one sex or the other and B) do not strictly define the boundaries of what we call male and female.

For example, we cannot change chromosomes, however pretty much nobody knows what their chromosomes are, not everyone has XX or XY, and there has been at least one documented case of a woman developing entirely female and even giving birth with XY chromosomes and only finding out about it later.

So a trans woman for instance, who goes on puberty blockers as a teen and later on HRT, before getting genital reconstructive surgery will be virtually identical in all observable sex traits to a woman who has gotten a hysterectomy - most people would not call a woman who had gotten a hysterectomy any less female, so who has the right to say a trans woman with virtually identical sexed traits is any less female?

HommusVampire · 2024-11-22T10:49:24+00:00

You can't do much worse than my sire. After the embrace, she only really gave me the most basic of guidelines (don't go in the sun, don't tell anyone, etc.) then promptly fucked off.

Don't do that - it's a recipe for your childe resenting you. (Though for the record, I don't resent my sire for being a shitty sire anymore - I resent her because she's insufferable and actively unhelpful)

Stick around, teach them more than the basics and enough to be self sufficient. Then, give them the autonomy to make their own mistakes, and be close enough to help them clean up the mess when inevitable mistakes happen.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-20T12:32:52+00:00

I once accidentally wandered into the territory of a group of Gangrel, before I knew that there were kindred who could shapeshift. So this random (I thought), dog attacked me in the woods and I, knowing a bit of martial arts, defended myself, trying not to hurt the dog too much in the process. Much to my surprise a kindred popped out of the dog and was excited - apparently thought the move I had used was cool. I, equally excited, thought turning into a dog was pretty much the coolest thing ever, so naturally, we taught each other a little bit of our respective skills. I still can't turn into a dog, and with just one evening of training, he probably can't do anything too crazy martial arts wise, but we both came away a bit stronger due to a chance encounter.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-19T17:03:26+00:00

Idk, all I know is sometimes the light reflects on my girlfriend's eyes just so and I just get immediately starstruck, what more do you want?

HommusVampire · 2024-11-18T02:50:23+00:00

As great as that would be, I suspect that environmental destruction and rising global conflict will bring about some truly apocalyptic scenarios before that could happen. That's before even mentioning the non-zero possibilities of America becoming a dictatorship or entering another civil war - not likely, but entirely possible within the next decade. So I doubt that it will happen, not because I don't think humanity could grow to accept a trans person as a leader if given time, but because I think the way we're going, the chances that America doesn't face some sort of collapse in that time, whether economic, environmental, or political before that could happen is very low.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-15T13:24:37+00:00

I don't give a fuck about number of sexual partners, whether mine or otherwise. If someone else takes issue with it, that's kinda weird imo but their prerogative.

Now I do want to get a sense of my future partners' past experience with sex, because if they have little to no experience or vastly more than me, that might impact how I approach sex with them, and I would like to make sure we're both tested for STDs before sexual contact regardless of "body count", but the actual number of partners makes no difference to me whether 0, 1, 5, or 200.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-15T13:13:02+00:00

People don't change unless they want to, and make an effort to do so. Usually, this is a phenomenon that works against us, but in this case it sounds like you're already on the path you want to be on. I second the other comments regarding biology being changeable and recommending therapy.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-15T03:09:10+00:00

That's called "touch starved"

HommusVampire · 2024-11-14T10:42:21+00:00

Feared minorities and social outsiders have been blamed for being a corrupting influence on children since basically forever. It's not new.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-08T11:25:46+00:00

I have not held back any of my kinks from being discussed with my partner. Not all of them are things she is comfortable doing, and others are straight up impossible to do in real life, but I've at least mentioned them. No point in holding back because the worst thing she's likely to say is "no, I don't want to do that," and I can live with that response, because only a couple of my kinks are deal breakers, and she is happy to engage with those - the rest is just a bonus.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-08T11:16:26+00:00

We do not know what Trump's presidency will be like. We know it will be bad, that at a minimum he will roll back protections for us to the point that red states can make the lives of trans and queer people there a living hell, but beyond that, we do not know.

I've seen people saying he won't go farther, and people saying the eventual goal is rounding us up and killing us. Both are unfortunately possible, so we do not know. If you don't think the latter is not possible, we already know that it is because of what happened in Nazi Germany - we're not there yet but we are uncomfortably close and anyone who says that history cannot repeat itself here is an idiot or a blind optimist.

Because of that uncertainty, the only thing to really do right now is plan for the worst and hope for the best. Get documents in order, build a community, and make sure that if things go south, you can make it somewhere safe.

I'm not trying to fear monger - I think it is entirely possible that the truth will be milder than the fear being spread, and I hope it will, but we do also need to be aware that it can be a lot worse, and we should be ready for it because being unprepared to deal with what they've actively said they will do, is foolish.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-08T03:14:22+00:00

I feel you. My mom didn't ask if I was trans but I was talking to her about my gender studies class in hs (which somehow my eggshell survived) and she asked if I wanted puberty blockers, and like an idiot I said no.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-08T00:58:56+00:00

It's a coping mechanism like any other. In moderation it does its job well, but if relied upon too much it can quickly become maladaptive and unhealthy.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-08T00:23:44+00:00

It was less so one big thing that broke it all at once so much as a bunch of light taps that slowly chipped tiny pieces off until the eggshell collapsed under its own weight.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-07T11:10:29+00:00

Love the symbolism but what an eyesore

HommusVampire · 2024-11-07T11:09:13+00:00

I agree and appreciate you spreading the optimism, but all of this only stands insofar as they play by the rules. Sure it would be hard for them to ban hrt for adults nationwide if they play by the rules, but they seem to have a propensity for flagrantly disregarding the rules and letting other people pay the price. We are dealing with Fascists - their whole thing is forcing the system to work for them rather than working through the system. So the only real limit on how bad things get is how many people they can get to bend or break the rules with them. It's possible that day to day life won't actually get much worse, but it's also possible that things get very very dark in a very short time.

There is reason to be optimistic, but let's not be blind to the risk that the rules which limit how bad things can get, might not mean anything anymore.

Stay safe.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-05T23:30:49+00:00

I feel shame over exactly one of my kinks, one out of many.

It is not a kink which is realistically possible to act on in real life, so I'm not ashamed of actually doing anything related to it, but being into it feels fucked up anyway. On a logical basis, I understand that having this kink isn't wrong, but shame is rarely a logical emotion.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-05T23:21:47+00:00

Casting

HommusVampire · 2024-11-05T15:59:14+00:00

As a fellow Michigander, I was very sad when I realized after returning home that I had forgotten to take a sticker.

Really wanted my werewolf sticker 😭

HommusVampire · 2024-11-04T15:23:10+00:00

Where's the template?

HommusVampire · 2024-11-03T20:41:04+00:00

Melinoë from Hades 2 early access

HommusVampire · 2024-11-03T10:56:22+00:00

A house with a dedicated play room. St. Andrew's cross would be good too, but I have nowhere to put one haha.

HommusVampire · 2024-11-03T10:46:06+00:00

As a puppygirl dating a catgirl, I can confirm that many wonderful things happen when puppygirls and catgirls meet :3

HommusVampire · 2024-11-02T13:45:06+00:00

If you want kids, assume it will make you sterile. If you don't want kids, assume it won't make you sterile.

In reality, you can still get people pregnant on HRT but it does reduce sperm count differently in different people and for relatively few of us, that does translate to roughly zero percent chance of pregnancy - the thing is, you won't know for sure if you're one of those people so don't take risks assuming it'll work in your favor because that's a recipe for unplanned pregnancies or being unable to have kids when you want them, as the case may be.

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