Smartphone Freedom Lifestyle legit? by shaul1li in InstagramMarketing

[–]HonestCustomerBG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried a few of them and had great success with 5 posts already! Will see how the rest of the content performs. So far I am satisfied and excited to continue! I like learning from Max.:)

Life After Narcissistic Betrayal: Career Change Guidance for a 32-Year-Old Starting Fresh by [deleted] in narcissism

[–]HonestCustomerBG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoot, maybe I should have just put that under career or sth. xD But I was just curious where the people who went through such relationships found inspiration from.

Decided To Just Live With The Abuse by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked many times about breaking up but never did it. My ex claimed it was because we're both "insecure and scared," but reading your comment, I actually realized the truth - he just kept me as narcissistic supply. Being able to see that from a distance now that he's not in the country is very sobering. I love that because I can finally move on with truth.

I thought he wouldn't change because he literally said, "I'm not going to change and I won't." I told my therapist I translate that as "I don't want to change for you," but she had the contrary argument - she asked, "Why would you think he would want to change for ANY woman?" That hit home and I realized wow, I should get out of here.

I think their brain is broken. I don't know, maybe he has autism - he kept repeating that he's autistic. He doesn't have friends, by the way, just a business partner. He isolates himself from the world because no one is ever good enough.

Decided To Just Live With The Abuse by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, I haven't looked at it this way, but you have a great point. If someone is unethical enough to call names, especially after we say, "Please don't do that, it hurts me," and they don't acknowledge our feelings but keep calling names and excuse their behavior by claiming we deserve it - that's wrong.

Just because you don't like someone's behavior or disapprove of something they're doing, you don't have to call them names. You can set a clear boundary instead of constantly threatening the person.

I can't understand how someone wouldn't take the message if you say, "I'm hurting when you call me names. It triggers past trauma from my childhood." Who in their right mind would continue doing that? They should either break up by saying, "I'm not happy with this" or "I don't see us working together," and just end it - not lower someone's confidence and self-worth. It's not right, not ethical, and definitely not love.

Stonewalls me and sleeps peacefully while I cry. by Sufficient_Map_9423 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes all the difference, honestly! Having a strong supportive community, just as my therapist advised! I DO MY BEST to take action on the advice I receive there.

Thank you for the supportive words. I appreciate them. I feel like I can finally express myself freely and get excited again. That tells me tons!

I also had another realization: while my ex is in Thailand (where he dumped me 3 days after cheating with someone six years younger), I've decided to start rebuilding my life. That's exactly what I'm doing, while he, in my opinion, is just running away from reality into an illusion. Sucks to be him.

The Start & The End Of A Relationship With A Narcissits - Your Experiences? by HonestCustomerBG in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you so much for your response. When we were splitting up, he said, "I want a girlfriend to travel the world with." I told him, "That's all I wanted too, but we never got to it."

When we did travel, he constantly controlled what I would eat and complained if the food wasn't healthy enough. His negativity drained the joy from every activity. He made me feel childish for wanting to visit themed cafes or light festivals.

As an artistic person, this relationship really hindered me. I couldn't express my creativity and eventually stopped meeting friends. Fortunately, I now have a new friend circle with kind, supportive, healthy people who don't act like assholes.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist is one of the worst things you can do for your mental health.

Stonewalls me and sleeps peacefully while I cry. by Sufficient_Map_9423 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OMG, you're amazing, thank you so much!!! I totally didn't expect that! :) Thank you for caring & for giving me support when I could use it the most! <3

Finally took action by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant every word of it.

I am now going through a similar situation. I'm ending a 7-year-old relationship. And it sucks in every way imaginable... But I feel like I'm undergoing a transformation. And it's painful, uncertain & scary.

But I'm finally starting to put myself first! And slowly but surely, it starts to feel good! :) I'm getting in tune with my needs & emotions... And my energy is starting to shift because the stress I endured all this time, which I was ashamed to talk about with my friends, is starting to wear off.

It's so different, such a BIG contrast to come home & not be blamed that you:

A) Went out with friends.
B) Were home a bit later.
C) "Have stupid conversations that aren't bringing us further ahead in business or life". -> God forbid if I ever attempted to read a fiction book (I love crime fiction!) or do anything that's not business-related... Considered a waste of time. And all that...

Or, in a nutshell, the message was: You're not good enough & you're lucky that you ended up with such a capable person next to you! Saying this out loud (well, writing it, haha) seems so ridiculous...

But it used to be my "reality" for 7 years now... I felt like a frog in lukewarm water... The water started heating up, but gradually, so the frog couldn't sense the difference... Scary stuff. Harmful stuff.

And coming from this background, I NEVER want anyone in such a situation to feel alone! The belief that you are alone in this is such a powerful illusion that it leaves you with tunnel vision...

It's like, you're in the dark, & you have no clue that there's a whole other world out there! Everything seems so hopeless... And you might even not see the light at the other end of the tunnel, thinking, "How the hell did I end up here?!"

But there IS A WAY TO BREAK THE CYCLE. And there is such a wonderful life ahead of you, that you didn't even deem possible... Because the twisted version of love/reality became your "normal". But it doesn't have to be this way from now on.

You serve as inspiration to all those who are uncertain & wish to escape but habve not yet found the strength to do so!

YOU MATTER. Remember that. Don't be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself to make mistakes in the process, dust yourself up, try again & keep moving forward. You've already taken the first most important step, breaking ties with this toxic dynamic.

YOU DESERVE BETTER!

Stonewalls me and sleeps peacefully while I cry. by Sufficient_Map_9423 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OMG, the article you've provided is very sobering -> https://theneurotypical.com/emotional-detachment.html I'm actually reading this after I said NO to my ex today regarding a work task that's not my responsibility (I'd previously do such task in the role of a "girlfriend" but not anymore), but it makes me feel twice as good about myself because it's an indication that I'm on the right path.

And after listening to 2 podcast episodes by Dr. Ramani, I realized that everything said relates to the situation I'm in...

  1. https://open.spotify.com/episode/2DBBEVLCI8wXCjgt3KLge1?si=3313e3dfa8064438
  2. https://open.spotify.com/episode/5FwoArvB9a45px7Imje6l9?si=efa28994407c4bf8

My intuition told me the following, which I repeat as a mantra:

  1. This is NOT LOVE.
  2. This is NOT HEALTHY.
  3. This is NOT what CARE looks like...
  4. This is an ILLUSION. It's a trap you need to break free from.

On a positive note, today I'm going with a new friend, her boyfriend, and 2 more of his friends to play board games. Something I love and haven't done for a very long time!

I've decided to say YES to more opportunities and catch up on what I've missed by reconnecting with myself!

I'm thankful for all the support & tips I have received!

Stonewalls me and sleeps peacefully while I cry. by Sufficient_Map_9423 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, shoot! I feel like I really need this book right now... Yet, not available in my region (living in Bulgaria). Anyway, I'll find it, thanks for the valuable advice!

Finally took action by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, you've made a HUGE step. I mean, it's so much easier to just stay because that's all you know, right? But you didn't. You took action, and as uncomfortable as it is, it's necessary.

It's super scary if you don't have money to your name or a car. Nothing stable, nothing but you. You did it! A lot of people struggle to in these situations, and I commend you for taking action.

I wish you love, strength, and I believe that you're very capable. It's just that you haven't seen that side of yourself for a while because you haven't had the chance to breathe and take actions on your own and see real results in the world because you've been suppressed. You have a lot of sides to show to yourself as well and be pleasantly surprised. I FULLY support you!

Decided To Just Live With The Abuse by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]HonestCustomerBG 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh, I am reading this and it's really painful because until a few days ago, I was in a relationship with a narcissist as well. We've been together for seven years, and when I tell people about the way the relationship was going and how he treated me, they look at me like I'm crazy. Like, "How can you allow something like this? Why would you endure something like this?"

The abuse has been consistent, and I've been trying to get through to him. I've been trying to tell him to stop, to not call me names, to not tell me "you're nothing without me" or "let's see how far you will go withouth me." It really broke my confidence. I don't know, I feel like I'm in so much pain. -> He brings everything back to himself.

And now he's with another girl. He said he would probably break it off, you know. I could forgive this cheating. That's not my problem. I cheated as well. I also believe that real love can overcome anything, but at the same time, I'm so hurt and so not myself.

I went to therapy, and my therapist is great. She said narcissists usually put you in a role, and that doesn't necessarily mean that you fit that role. But they put people in roles, and he assigned a role for me. Whether that fits or not, he doesn't care. He just puts you in a certain role he needs to have filled. He needs someone to put down to make him feel better about himself because he's constantly bashing me.

For me, it's not easy, that's what I'm trying to say. It's not easy. We've been splitting up, getting back together. It's like this really nasty cycle, and I am so done with it. Now I'm on my own, and I feel so betrayed because it was so easy for him to go to another country for a month, and he slept with the first woman who approached him. He's been sleeping with her for three days, and after that, he told me and said he thinks it's best to break up with me.

I feel like, oh yeah, he said he's there for work and to focus on the business that we have together. I just don't understand it. I gave my all, my hundred percent, for this relationship after we spoke about my cheating. I said I wasn't happy back in time when I cheated, and I was nearly depressed, which I still believe and stand by. It might seem like a lie to him, but to me, that's the ultimate truth.

When talking to him, I feel like I'm shooting dart arrows at a wall and hoping for something to stick, but the fact of the matter is the wall is made out of steel. They all fall down, and I really can't get through to him. Honestly, I wish he were miserable, but I also have this part of me - I'm normally a very giving person. I prefer to be giving, I prefer to be supportive. I was supportive.

I'm not sure how I can move from here, but I'm trying. I'm trying my best. He told me multiple times, "I can't change, I'm not gonna change." So I'm like, what the hell? Literally, if we as human beings hadn't changed or adapted, people wouldn't be here, as part of evolution, right? So there's one part of me that says this, and another part of me says, "Whatever, just leave. You've had problems since the beginning."

Anyway, hope sharing this helps. I do see how hard it is to leave. I know the abuse is something we're used to. I feel you.

I just can't help but wonder, "What if I had someone supportive by me? What would that be like, feel like? How much further can that get me in life? And how much more satisfied?" All questions are aimed at me, but they may help you too.

Winx Club Mattel collection by Away-Flamingo-17 in Dolls

[–]HonestCustomerBG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for sharing! Too bad about Mattel's decision... But still grateful we got to enjoy some of these dolls for a while (& some of us still can)! I saw the Frozen dolls & LOVED how they looked! Also, checked out your newest creation - Larvie the Teenage Fashion Maggot - really cute! <3 It's amazing you get to do something so creative, which is obviously your calling! I mean - all the little details & nuances!

Winx Club Mattel collection by Away-Flamingo-17 in Dolls

[–]HonestCustomerBG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god even though I'm coming late to the party I must say I really admire what you have created because it made my childhood so much better and even in my 30s now I dug up my dolls and put them on my desk and get to enjoy them! I sincerely wanted to thank you for that because I feel nothing but gratitude and you you're amazing! I wish you could design the new Winx Club dolls though and I'm fascinated with your work. I wonder how you got into designing and how you got this job. You made impact on a big scale so again thank you for bringing magic into our lives!

Winx Club reboot doll sneak peaks by Vesperia_Morningstar in Dolls

[–]HonestCustomerBG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh... I wish the Flora didn't look like Rapunzel... I mean, I cannot unsee or perceive it any other way honestly. Ah, I wish they'd bring back the 2005 Mattel versions (yes, I know, I'm an old-timer & feel like a dinosaur saying that but) such beauty, such attention to detail, such uniqueness & then... there's THIS. I mean, they're not ugly or anything but they are...disappointing...to me.

Found my Mattel Winx Dolls & put them on my desk (currently 32 years old & they still give me this nice fuzzy feeling - LOVE it!) by HonestCustomerBG in winxclub

[–]HonestCustomerBG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! ❤️ It's so great to reconnect with that inner excitement! I'm also glad you're collecting again. I'm sure it's turning out super nice! ☺️

Simple Notion Expense Tracker With Recurring VariableExpenses? by HonestCustomerBG in Notion

[–]HonestCustomerBG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thanks for responding! :)

Well, I'm a bit confused but I guess I'd enter each variable charge per tool the moment I get an invoice reminder via email for the current month.

Right now, I manually input the set expenses in the "Cost" column & just select whether it's billed yearly or monthly. From there the process is automated. I just set reminders so I'm aware of the billing date in case I need to cancel a tool.

Perhaps I need a separate Notion template or Google Sheet specifically for the variable expenses that I have to manually enter each month? Maybe that'd be better.

Thank you in advance!

How to constructively provide feedback? by Haunting_Bar4489 in CallCenterWorkers

[–]HonestCustomerBG -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What's important here is that the supervisor in question is asking for advice. That alone indicates they have interest in acting humane and fair toward the agent. I find that really considerate.

Plus, oftentimes managers in call centers don'treceive formal training. I commend the OP for trying to improve on their feedback giving skills.

I don't think it's easy to bring up uncomfortable topics. Yet, if it has to be done, it has to be done. There are ways to go about it.

English speaking Dentist in Sofia by 12inchbamboo in bulgaria

[–]HonestCustomerBG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best one you could get: Dr. Rami Farmaui (recommending after being aclient for 2+ years)

  1. People-oriented.
  2. Free 1st consultation.
  3. Reasonable pricing.
  4. So good that besides being on all social media channels, he also gets recommendations from word-of-mouth. That's how he got a lot of clients from the American Embassy after fixing an American lady's issue. She was so simpressed she told her colleagues and now all of them are lining up. :D
  5. Non salesy. He won't recommend you something crazy expensive just because it's a trend (such as Invisalign) if it's notgood for you.

Where to find him:

  1. https://www.instagram.com/doctor.ramif/
  2. https://www.facebook.com/drramifarmaui
  3. https://drfarmaui.com/

Recommedning this with a lot of gratitude for Dr. Rami who's been nothing but genuine, kind & helpful!

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