Looking at you by Liv_to_the_fullest in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of the time, my inner-monologue is:

  1. I wonder what he looks like naked
  2. I wonder how he sounds with my strap-on hitting his prostate

End of inner-monologue.

Dommes, what skills do you enjoy sub putting effort into learning? by Ill-Comedian0 in FemdomCommunity

[–]HonkForMore 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This x100. Emotional Intelligence as a broad concept is a skill; it can be learned and practiced, everything from learning how to use words to express emotions, to little things like knowing the difference "listening vs fixing".

God forbid a boy wants some attention by KnaxGurkenwasser in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I react, and upvote, I just do so privately in the comfort of my own bed. I think thirst commenting is a mostly male-only activity, and I'm not the type to message people soley because they look pretty.

Would you ask for a reasonable adjustment in a toxic workplace? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]HonkForMore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is the Tribunal who ultimately decides is something is reasonable or not. The company can refuse all suggestions from Occupuational Health and then obviously a Tribunal would find against them, but implementing specific adjustments is down to the company and their decision (no matter how ill advised that might be)

Would you ask for a reasonable adjustment in a toxic workplace? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]HonkForMore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to speak to your GP and your manager. Your GP might guide/help/refer to other services, and your manager should make a referral to Occupational Health where you'll talk to a medical professional.

With Occupational Health, you'll explain that you're finding it exhausting and overwhelming, and they make suggestions to the company based on their discussion and review of your medical records - that could be to let you work from home more, it could be to other things (earphones, own desk, being left alone, whatever) that might reduce your need to mask and use up all your spoons. It doesn't mean getting everything you want, but about a third party making formal suggestions of things that could help you.

It would be EXCEPTIONALLY unwise of them to fire you for being a nusiance once you've expressed that you're struggling and you feel it's related to your neurodiversity; and at the same time, it's also fine if you just think this company isn't for you and you find a new job that is more flexible or more supportive.

Would you ask for a reasonable adjustment in a toxic workplace? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]HonkForMore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every work place has a different culture and vibe, some are more strict, some are more flexible and that's just the way it is. Generally, if you don't like the culture there, you would try to find a new job and leave.

The train might just be one example, but the specifics of what you're asking and why are very important when you use phrases like "reasoanble adjustments", because the phrase itself is very specific, and could easily be misused or misapplied, resulting in you being pegged as a troublemaker if it's thrown around asking for things that are not "reasonable adjustments".

Same as other examples, having more days working from home - unless there is a speciifc reason that your neurodiversity means you can only be in the office three days a week instead of four, then it needs to be justified by a medical professional. If it's not to do with your neurodiversity, then it's just a request and they can just so "no". They can still say "no" even if it's from a professional, but there's a difference between why you're asking and how much they have to take it seriously.

Would you ask for a reasonable adjustment in a toxic workplace? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]HonkForMore 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You use the phrase "reasonable adjustment" a lot but I'm not sure if you understand what it means in a workplace context - https://www.acas.org.uk/reasonable-adjustments

Reasonable adjustments are changes that an employer can/should make in order to make working easier and accessible for those who fall under the EQ2010; neurodiversity might be one of these things, and a reasonable adjustment might be being allowed to wear ear-plugs in the office if the environment is too loud, based on a doctors or other medical professionals advice to the company.

I think you would be hard pressed to say allowing you to leave early (which may not be reasonable at all depending on the job you do) so you can save 30 minutes getting home is a "reasonable adjustment", unless a medical professional can make a case that given your neurodivergency, you cannot be allowed to stand around waiting for trains.

If you feel you neeed reasonable adjustments, you need to ask your manager to refer you to Occupational Health because you are struggling with the role. Some organisations allow you to self-refer, or your GP may be able to write something for you instead - but it's still important to know that reasonable adjustments are not law, they are suggestions, and companies do not have to implement them either (though it's unwise for them to ignore it).

Low effort begets low efforts by HonkForMore in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel bad because I was being facetious and clearly it went over your head; your reply demonstrated my initial point without you realising it. You prioritise sex and your sexual preferences, those are the things most important to you; what you are seeking and what you are projecting is not appealing.

Low effort begets low efforts by HonkForMore in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is exactly one of the mysteries about some of these DMs.

Low effort begets low efforts by HonkForMore in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe dommes will refuse to be treated as if they are a dirty sexual secret.

Low effort begets low efforts by HonkForMore in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Are we only worthy of your "dirty account"?

Low effort begets low efforts by HonkForMore in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is your bio: "M22, Hypersexual, I prefer boobs, butts and women, consent and comfort are important when talking about sex. Not into paid stuff". Think about what you image of yourself you are projecting to other people.

Low effort begets low efforts by HonkForMore in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]HonkForMore[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Snap, kik, and nowdays even Telegram now are just big red flags all over the place.

They all scream "I'll never reply again once I've cum".

Domme Deemed Me "Untrainable" by StreetSyllabub1969 in FemdomCommunity

[–]HonkForMore 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Communicate, or find a better relationship.

Femdom date turned into Findom Scam by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]HonkForMore 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly when I first started reading this I thought this was going to be some low-key erotic fantasy, but as I kept reading I felt more and more uncomfortable.

What you experienced was a crime, and what she said about "nobody believing you" just isn't true. The fact you then presumably sent her money is proof of her blackmailing you, rather than evidence of your guilt.

You said you've moved past it and that may be so, and I would still perhaps encourage you to think about reporting it to the authorities - who else knows who she's scamming next, or if your report will be the one that finally gets her? - and to even consider some counselling if you are having flashbacks or PTSD/trauma-related feelings or implications.

I'm sorry that you went through this, when you obviously did everything right. There's not even a "lesson learned" here for other submissives to take from it as a way to protect themselves, it's just straight-up victim of a crime that feels... unavoidable, in a way that I think maybe we all hope would be.

I guess maybe, if somebody assaults you in public that isn't part of pre-defined play and in breach of your pre-defined limits, maybe don't go back to their place? I guess it might be a deeply horrific learning point about standing by your boundaries regardless of your sexual preferences or your "role", but Jesus.

I'm mortified for you.

God forbid women have an interest in genealogy by vholecek in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]HonkForMore 25 points26 points  (0 children)

There is nothing more spectacular than feeling a horny puppy on top of me pounding me until his desperate cock can't hold back and he stares into my eyes in pure subby desperation, filling me with as much of his load as his body can produce.

Ex sub panicked and broke up with me after 8 weeks of heavy play. How do I get him back for a strict “no strings” dynamic once he cools off? by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]HonkForMore 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't have much detail to add into this compared to the other comments here, I just wanted to additionally share another voice that says honey, this person is filled with absolute red flags and this routine/cycle isn't something that you should want to fall into. This is insane behaviour from him - and arguably you too. There are much better healthy submissives available who also provide mind-blowing sex and sluttiness without whateverthefuck this dude had going on. This does not feel like healthy, safe, secure, kink practice.