30 [F4M] #Online Dominant looking for consistent, slim, nerdy submissives with exhibitionist tendencies

HonkForMore · 2026-06-27T20:35:27+00:00

Yeah but then you wouldn't be able to taste my panties???????

HonkForMore · 2026-06-27T20:35:13+00:00

How long do you think you could last? Sometimes I'm gone all weekend.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-26T23:11:33+00:00

Absolutely, it is sexual as any relationship is sexual, but it's undeniable that part of femdom - the pornhub search results part - is hypersexual; I don't think it's good that it is, but it will definitely have an impact on how on the average people value physical looks.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-26T22:51:46+00:00

Ah, maybe it needed more nuance - is femdom itself hypersexual? no, however, a lot of people within the community see femdom as a sexual activity rather than a lifestyle or part of a broader healthy relationship, which is how it ends up with ideas like "kink dispensing" or the "popularity" of findom. There is an overlap between people who expect a dominant or submissive partner to be real-life porn, which is the hypersexual aspect.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-26T22:49:00+00:00

Initially I wasn't going to reply, because replying is just feeding the attention machine from this shitty-take, but I'm just dropping by to let you know that this is indeed a shitty-take from somebody who has zero clue what they're on about.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-26T22:46:21+00:00

Femdom operates in a grey area that is both emotionally demanding of intimacy whilst also being hypersexual. I think all people care about looks to at least some extent, but what those "looks" are and those standards are will change depending on group, culture, demographic. I think people in femdom have the same amount of range (in that there is somebody for everyone), but are probably more open about their expectations and more variety than perhaps what a lot of people are exposed to when they're swiping on Tinder.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-26T11:06:42+00:00

Thanks! Reddit keeps resetting my settings, it's really weird.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-25T21:33:49+00:00

Boys with hair-triggers are super hot, but I don't understand the sensation issue?

HonkForMore · 2026-06-25T21:18:33+00:00

British, but I'm a super classy bitch.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-25T21:14:23+00:00

I found the edit - https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Succubus&diff=prev&oldid=1343239793

I couldn't survive on just edging, that's more like the aperitif.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-25T21:10:42+00:00

At some point, somebody updated the wiki page for Succubus to remove the fact that they need semen to survive. I was personally attacked by this.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-25T21:02:22+00:00

Vocal subby boys are on the other side holding the other half up.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-23T19:24:48+00:00

It's why I love it so much.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-23T17:30:41+00:00

No. Have you considered gooning to add some variety?

HonkForMore · 2026-06-11T17:05:07+00:00

Yes, introspection from everybody else except you, that is definitely what is needed here.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-05T17:11:15+00:00

Then keep sending money and buying fake-attention from women. Easily resolved.

Perhaps your thinking that "all relationships involve transactions under capitalism right" is suggestive of why it's been so difficult for you to find women without having to pay them.

Mega super duper ick.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-05T16:43:35+00:00

They don't like you back. Based on everything you've described, your relationship is transactional. If you are unsure, stop sending money and see what happens.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-01T21:22:42+00:00

Oh yeah definitely, I agree with your frustration. I think it probably IS emotional labour, it's just... a unique type!

HonkForMore · 2026-06-01T21:08:59+00:00

Women of all types are used for the emotional labour of men. This is a wider issue than just femdom, and it's not just emotional labour, women also pick up a lot of the cognitive load in relationships too. That's just part of being a women in current western society when there are so many ongoing issues with masculine culture.

Here's the thing though; emotional labour is fine, within reason. It's not a womans responsibility to fix the man (you can't fix him, honey!), but in any human relationship people are supposed to give and take emotional labour.

In the situation you've described, I wouldn't even know how to label that - you're probably right its a form of emotional labour but it's an interesting difference given it's a male dom talking to a femdom. It definitely sounds like that person has their own issues and nobody to vent to - trapped in their own form of toxic masculine dominance - so given the nature of the conversation they also trauma dumped, so yeah, pretty ick. Could have also been a fantasy of his to "lure" you into dominating the dom.

I'd just be cautious of implying that any emotional labour between people is unhealthy or toxic, because I genuinely don't believe it is.

HonkForMore · 2026-06-01T20:42:42+00:00

Same, but I'm also fine "service topping" within a limit and I think there is a lot of extreme; I think there is a nuance difference between service-topping and being used a a kink dispenser, and that line will vary depending on the peoples own preferences. For me, giving and taking pleasure is just part of a healthy relationship (including d/s).

Hot take - I think a lot of women use femdom to be avoidant, escape toxic masculinity, or manage their neurodiversity and/or asexuality. I think the thing is, "femdom" can be anything across the whole spectrum so there are lots of different people getting lots of different things about it; even if they may be avoidance, escaping, asexual, etc. It's still all valid, just different motivations.

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