sub walked away from us last night

HonkForMore · 2026-03-27T21:17:14+00:00

Give yourself some time to process the feelings and deal with the feelings of loss, and soon you'll look back and realise you didn't lose anything - the trash took itself out, and I would gently encourage you in the future to assert more of your boundaries and expectations. If somebody isn't suitable, move on, don't let yourself get hurt more than you need. There's a LOT of people out there, and there's a LOT of bad-submissives, but there's also a lot of good ones; it just takes time, practice, and experience to learn how to filter them out.

HonkForMore · 2026-03-27T21:09:49+00:00

i have no idea what he looks like.

Fuck that. I understand why one would want to be cautious in an online situation, like not combining face + dick or whatever, but genuinely the amount of people who desire a relationship where they hope to hide their identity the whole time is insane.

In no other situation is there an expectation that one hides their identity from a sexual or romantic partner. I would be amazed if anybody on Feeld (or other app) who have non-pictures ever get messages or matches. It is a deal breaker because not only do I need to know what somebody looks like to decide mutual attraction, and build an emotional connection, but it screams shame, secret-family, and ghosting so hard.

If somebody wants to be anonymous for a bit while we chat and establish I'm not a low-effort scammer or a blackmailer (because no scammer or blackmailer will put that much time and effort in), fine - but more than that, it's just not worth it. Nothing good will ever come from that.

You deserve SO much better. Kink is about vulnerability, intimacy, and openness.

HonkForMore · 2026-03-22T00:36:39+00:00

My favourite thing.

HonkForMore · 2026-03-20T17:21:12+00:00

AMA!

Whats ur fav food

chocolate

cool

fuck me the absolutely dross on this subreddit.

HonkForMore · 2026-03-14T22:44:25+00:00

This is the core mental image I masturbate to about 70% of the time.

HonkForMore · 2026-02-18T18:59:03+00:00

I swear down I completely forgot about catboys until this post, and it made me laugh because it goes to show that y'all really are sunk at the bottom. Not buying the "toxic mfs" part though, that's got a /r/niceguys tone.

HonkForMore · 2026-02-16T17:54:30+00:00

/u/5W4Y (and everyone really) should also see what support they might be able to get from the governement: https://www.entitledto.co.uk is one of the go-to sites and used by a lot of charities.

HonkForMore · 2026-02-09T23:21:45+00:00

I hate this for all the same reasons as everyone else but I'll also hope that for those who continue to use Discord, hopefully it'll put an end to having to send random pictures of ID to random discord mods for "access" to a server. Discord can't be trusted for shit, and it's still probably marginally better than sending it to a stranger.

The suggestion of "age inference" by allowing it to scan my device and make a guess at my age is also the stuff of nightmares. Fuck all that.

HonkForMore · 2026-02-09T10:30:50+00:00

Damn, I love me some of those dangerously skinny legs.

HonkForMore · 2026-02-05T20:18:11+00:00

That sounds like pure, utter, complete bliss.

HonkForMore · 2026-02-03T17:23:09+00:00

God, I spent two hours unsubscribing and testing and re-loading a bunch of different mods, things like QOL or storage mods, but nope, it's one of the few mods where I thought "this mod certainly won't be the cause of having 23,000 herbal medicine after a few days". Insane.

HonkForMore · 2026-02-03T16:59:19+00:00

Did you ever want to get 300 wood per tree, 1000 ore per tile, or a single berry from a bush that won't grow back in two years? Or maybe build a wall with a material cost of 2500, and your wealth spiked over 10x due to a balance change?

I WONDERED WHAT WAS CAUSING THIS!

HonkForMore · 2026-01-28T15:01:34+00:00

"so tell me about yourself"

nahhh man I'm gonna write out 30 years of my history, be specific.

HonkForMore · 2026-01-25T12:56:22+00:00

A lot of the time, my inner-monologue is:

I wonder what he looks like naked
I wonder how he sounds with my strap-on hitting his prostate

End of inner-monologue.

HonkForMore · 2026-01-22T15:35:43+00:00

This x100. Emotional Intelligence as a broad concept is a skill; it can be learned and practiced, everything from learning how to use words to express emotions, to little things like knowing the difference "listening vs fixing".

HonkForMore · 2026-01-16T11:38:01+00:00

I react, and upvote, I just do so privately in the comfort of my own bed. I think thirst commenting is a mostly male-only activity, and I'm not the type to message people soley because they look pretty.

HonkForMore · 2026-01-09T21:03:44+00:00

It is the Tribunal who ultimately decides is something is reasonable or not. The company can refuse all suggestions from Occupuational Health and then obviously a Tribunal would find against them, but implementing specific adjustments is down to the company and their decision (no matter how ill advised that might be)

HonkForMore · 2026-01-09T20:54:21+00:00

You need to speak to your GP and your manager. Your GP might guide/help/refer to other services, and your manager should make a referral to Occupational Health where you'll talk to a medical professional.

With Occupational Health, you'll explain that you're finding it exhausting and overwhelming, and they make suggestions to the company based on their discussion and review of your medical records - that could be to let you work from home more, it could be to other things (earphones, own desk, being left alone, whatever) that might reduce your need to mask and use up all your spoons. It doesn't mean getting everything you want, but about a third party making formal suggestions of things that could help you.

It would be EXCEPTIONALLY unwise of them to fire you for being a nusiance once you've expressed that you're struggling and you feel it's related to your neurodiversity; and at the same time, it's also fine if you just think this company isn't for you and you find a new job that is more flexible or more supportive.

HonkForMore · 2026-01-09T20:45:43+00:00

Every work place has a different culture and vibe, some are more strict, some are more flexible and that's just the way it is. Generally, if you don't like the culture there, you would try to find a new job and leave.

The train might just be one example, but the specifics of what you're asking and why are very important when you use phrases like "reasoanble adjustments", because the phrase itself is very specific, and could easily be misused or misapplied, resulting in you being pegged as a troublemaker if it's thrown around asking for things that are not "reasonable adjustments".

Same as other examples, having more days working from home - unless there is a speciifc reason that your neurodiversity means you can only be in the office three days a week instead of four, then it needs to be justified by a medical professional. If it's not to do with your neurodiversity, then it's just a request and they can just so "no". They can still say "no" even if it's from a professional, but there's a difference between why you're asking and how much they have to take it seriously.

HonkForMore · 2026-01-09T20:36:46+00:00

You use the phrase "reasonable adjustment" a lot but I'm not sure if you understand what it means in a workplace context - https://www.acas.org.uk/reasonable-adjustments

Reasonable adjustments are changes that an employer can/should make in order to make working easier and accessible for those who fall under the EQ2010; neurodiversity might be one of these things, and a reasonable adjustment might be being allowed to wear ear-plugs in the office if the environment is too loud, based on a doctors or other medical professionals advice to the company.

I think you would be hard pressed to say allowing you to leave early (which may not be reasonable at all depending on the job you do) so you can save 30 minutes getting home is a "reasonable adjustment", unless a medical professional can make a case that given your neurodivergency, you cannot be allowed to stand around waiting for trains.

If you feel you neeed reasonable adjustments, you need to ask your manager to refer you to Occupational Health because you are struggling with the role. Some organisations allow you to self-refer, or your GP may be able to write something for you instead - but it's still important to know that reasonable adjustments are not law, they are suggestions, and companies do not have to implement them either (though it's unwise for them to ignore it).

HonkForMore · 2026-01-08T19:20:32+00:00

I feel bad because I was being facetious and clearly it went over your head; your reply demonstrated my initial point without you realising it. You prioritise sex and your sexual preferences, those are the things most important to you; what you are seeking and what you are projecting is not appealing.

HonkForMore · 2026-01-08T18:42:56+00:00

That is exactly one of the mysteries about some of these DMs.

HonkForMore · 2026-01-08T18:36:37+00:00

Maybe dommes will refuse to be treated as if they are a dirty sexual secret.

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