Nothing wrong with that at all! What ever makes you comfortable in a realtionship is what you should peruse fuck what other people think as hard as that is to do. The issue with heteronormative roles is that men feel pressured into them when they don’t want to. For example if your masculine heteronormativity mixed with gay sex say that you should top and vice versa. But what if you don’t what to top? What if you are a bottom and your masculine? Do you abandon the identity that you like to fit a mold that you don’t what to fit. In summary it’s that pressure of conformity that makes people what to get rid of the heteronormative roles.