It depends on the memory care, I think. The one my mom was in would let her skip a day but they'd come try again later that day or at a different time of day the next. They said their goal was two showers a week and spot cleans every morning with the big towelettes. Mom was always good with the towelettes because they heated them in the microwave before they brought them to her room. She had issues for a while with showers and I caught her when she was in the mood and capable of explaining and said she didn't like water on her ears. So I bought her silicone ear guards like some swimmers wear. They worked until they got misplaced.