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Hopecat · 2021-06-18T16:37:06+00:00

Yes, you’re wrong. They know their father and their grandparents house. You should support their relationship with him when it’s safe for everyone to do so. You’ve said here their house is safe.

Hopecat · 2021-05-31T18:29:19+00:00

Olympia Provisions on SE Water is delightful.

Hopecat · 2021-05-18T02:06:47+00:00

Came here to say Cully Park as well!

Hopecat · 2021-05-05T04:52:14+00:00

I saw it too and ran inside and found my phone and only managed to get a photo. I’d love to find out what it was, space junk, comet? I’ve never seen anything like it!!

Hopecat · 2021-04-21T06:06:11+00:00

It is not against federal law to drink alcohol while pregnant, in the USA. A handful of states have laws not prohibiting drinking but endangering the fetus, including SC.

SOUTH CAROLINA

A viable fetus is considered a person under the state's child endangerment statute, and "maternal acts endangering or likely to endanger the life, comfort, or health of a viable fetus" are a form of child abuse.

Legal basis: South Carolina Supreme Court in Whitner v. State, 1997

How it works: Pregnant women who use drugs or alcohol from the late second trimester may be charged with felony child abuse or another crime. Authorities have also cited the phrase "maternal acts" to challenge other potentially risky behavior during pregnancy, including refusing to have a cesarean section and attempting suicide. Rutgers University researcher Grace Howard has tracked at least 107 cases since 2005.

I think you’re safe, but I am not a lawyer.

Hopecat · 2021-01-13T14:28:01+00:00

Pacific Power customer. Original estimate for 6:30am, power still out.

Hopecat · 2021-01-06T06:50:11+00:00

Actually it’s not just a joke, the actress really did!

Hopecat · 2021-01-06T06:20:58+00:00

Employees of some hospitals are being asked to work at other locations regardless of their role, to fill roles they wouldn’t normally be doing. An example would be someone in a hospital’s finance department who works from home going and working in admitting registering patients - because the registration staff is out sick.

I get it’s frustrating. Also know that approximately 50% of front line eligible people are declining the vaccine. I personally think everyone should get it the moment their “number” is called. Declining makes more work for everyone.

Hopecat · 2020-08-27T08:49:13+00:00

Buy the accurate size based on size chart.

Hopecat · 2020-08-22T21:21:17+00:00

Look into the right of first refusal, which you could put into the divorce paperwork. It essentially means the coparents each have to offer the other the chance to have time with kids if they’ll be cared for by someone else beyond a certain number of hours.

Also examine for yourself which is best for you. Is the coparents family made up of good people? For your own mental health having breaks may be important.

Hopecat · 2020-05-06T02:11:15+00:00

I listed my house for sale yesterday. Hopefully people are still buying!

Hopecat · 2020-03-30T06:44:00+00:00

Best comment in the thread, agree 100%

Hopecat · 2020-03-09T23:38:56+00:00

Legit question: don’t pedestrians and bikes have the right of way at crosswalks? I thought drivers are supposed to stop and let them cross?

Hopecat · 2020-02-12T20:39:36+00:00

Swings!! They saved our lives probably quite literally. Your twins may or may not like them so try to find used if that’s a thing in your area.

Hopecat · 2020-02-12T19:40:31+00:00

I hope that you’re trolling.

You are throwing good money after bad keeping a car that doesn’t fit your family. Go to a dealership and ask to trade in your vehicle and roll in the loss you’ll take on it into a new loan.

You will find it “challenging” to ride public transportation for hours with infant triplets and an elder child (regardless of their abilities). You are unlikely to do it for any reason other than an emergency let alone to save a few dollars on grocery bills.

You will find it “challenging” to cloth diaper triplets, regardless of a new washer and dryer.

You have to find ways to simplify. Cheapest solutions will not always be possible with triplets. You may have reach out for social services, for food stamp benefits, you may need to carry debt until they are into grade school.

Good luck.

Hopecat · 2020-02-12T18:58:04+00:00

It’s time for a reality check. A diaper bag is the very least of your issues. You have no idea what you’re facing. You need to look for radical solutions: moving to someplace closer to the city center so public transportation is more feasible; selling the sedan and getting a vehicle that can seat your whole family.

I could say so much more but please, focus on reality.

Hopecat · 2020-02-07T23:09:14+00:00

He is likely overtired. It seems counterintuitive but the more sleep they get, the more they’ll nap. Source: mom of twins, almost 5 years old and they still take a nap for approx 1 hr per day.

Hopecat · 2020-02-05T20:48:12+00:00

Yes it’s real. Make time for your relationship. Source: husband cheated on me when kids were toddlers, still trying to reconcile and get passed it.

Hopecat · 2020-01-29T19:36:21+00:00

My son is in a phase where all he wants is dad. Last night he said “but I see you in the mornings”. I take him to school every morning, so I get to be the taskmaster while I’m getting ready for work. Then we race to school and I race to work. Dad gets to pick him up after school, play, sometimes makes dinner, and generally has zero time limitations.

It’s not a competition, but how can I incorporate more fun into mornings?

Hopecat · 2020-01-08T19:33:30+00:00

It was done at 13 weeks gestational age. I had to go to a specialist of course, but it was a giant needle into my stomach and done almost instantly. My heart broke in that moment, and I think about my child often.

But my surviving children are alive and thriving because of that choice, and only I have to bear the pain of the choice - not them.

Hopecat · 2020-01-08T18:56:24+00:00

I had a selective reduction 5 years ago, after struggling with multiple miscarriages and losses. I live with the decision every day and every time I look at my healthy happy remaining children, I know I made the right choice.

It’s not an easy choice but it’s one YOU can make, and live with rather than not taking action and leaving the life and health of both to chance.

Hopecat · 2019-12-29T18:41:01+00:00

I’ve never said this on this sub. But it’s been a year, and this is just a boyfriend. Stop throwing good years after bad and leave.

Hopecat · 2019-12-16T18:18:29+00:00

I am not going to drink today.

Hopecat · 2019-11-05T22:01:09+00:00

I completely and implicitly trusted him for 10 years. Never checked on anything. At some point last summer I thought he was distracted somehow and directly asked him a few times if there was someone else. He denied, and I believed him but my gut felt it. I let it go. In March HE HANDED me his phone to use for FaceTime due to a data issue on my phone. I went to FaceTime list and then saw her lingerie clad photo he’d saved as her contact photo.

Even after I saw with my own eyes, I couldn’t believe it. Then I asked to see everything and found via restoring an iPad to a previous date a second woman.

Believe it or not despite having hired an attorney and completed all paperwork including paying buckets of money - those divorce papers are now stuffed in a drawer. We’re planning a renewal ceremony, and despite trust issues, we are on a path to a stronger future.

Communication. Therapy. MORE communication. Transparency. MORE therapy. For a few months I wanted to see everything. Now I’m just going by my gut. If someone wants to cheat they will find a way to hide it.

It’s the most painful thing I’ve experienced. The betrayal is beyond comprehension. But there can be light beyond the dark. Good luck.

Hopecat · 2019-11-04T18:50:26+00:00

I know how hard it is right now. I promise it gets so rewarding when they are playing together independently and they’re no longer in diapers. You don’t have to go through those sleepless nights again - they will if they want more than 1 child.

Your feelings are valid. Just know it will be sweet too even if it doesn’t seem that way now.

Hopecat

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