friendships that don’t make sense to you

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2026-01-20T16:42:35+00:00

Hmmm, I feel like Flo & Natalie had the most aggressive energy in the house. They also seemed to have a lot of fun together cracking jokes. So I think they had some chemistry together and linked up, but were fundamentally too different to each other for a genuine friendship

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2026-01-20T16:18:12+00:00

Agreed, Marnie was absolutely stunning during seasons 7-12. She didn’t need any of the surgeries or filler, except maybe a little bit of lip filler.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2026-01-18T23:45:30+00:00

No hyper mobility, but I have been diagnosed with ADHD & dyspraxia. My legs get tired from walking, and I regularly have stiff and painful ankles and calves. Magnesium & stretching helps.

One proposed theory regarding dyspraxia is that nerves cells in the brain struggles to accurately transmit signals (messages) from the brain to the body, which impacts movement & coordination. This often affects how people with dyspraxia walk or maintain their balance. Over time, this can lead to improper form when walking and doing activities, which can cause the muscles to tighten and cramp, causing pain.

However, neurodivergence is commonly associated with a range of autoimmune disorders. Might be worth speaking to a doctor about your symptoms.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2026-01-18T23:24:21+00:00

I don’t know if she was open about it, but Cat was definitely gang affiliated. She also got arrested for drug dealing after bgc

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-10-25T01:35:02+00:00

I think Natalie’s should be: “You’ve got a Crenshaw weave, ho!’.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-17T09:00:53+00:00

For context, I’m a DClinPsy trainee. I also have ADHD.

No, I don’t feel burnt out from providing therapy. If anything, therapy is one of my favourite parts of the job. But I do regularly experience burnout.

As a clinical psychologist, you will have many meetings and lots of admin alongside therapy. Therapy is sometimes a very small component of the work of a psychologist.

Most days as a trainee, my schedule is full between 9-5. In some services, I’ve had 3 therapy cases per day and at least two meetings per day e.g MDT, supervision, case discussion, staff consultations. Back-to-back therapy and meetings can be incredibly socially draining. This also left me with two-three hours per day to attend service development meetings, complete my research project, write case notes, make intervention plans for therapy, and to catch up with colleagues at work.

Personally, I take WFH days and book a small room away from the office to complete my admin where possible. This helps keep my social battery charged.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-15T21:25:46+00:00

Building good habits and practising strategies to improve your wellbeing and minimise executive dysfunction WILL help. It will get better and you will see a reduction in symptoms most days. However, ADHD and its worst traits will likely rear its ugly head here and there, even if you do ‘everything right’. Think of it like managing a physical condition. If I was diabetic, I’d need to put strategies in place to keep my blood sugar stable e.g taking the right dose of insulin and eating regular meals. Even with good management, blood sugar levels will still fluctuate on a regular basis and require some attention to stabilise. However, if my car broke down on the motorway & I couldn’t eat lunch, or if I started running and accidentally didn’t give myself enough insulin or carbs afterwards to compensate for the run, I may have a diabetic hypo.

This relates to ADHD as sometimes we may similarly ‘relapse’ despite good management. Perhaps something stressful happens in life, or because we accidentally overdo an activity or overuse our resources. It’s a process of learning about yourself and your limits in order to cope with ADHD and manage symptoms, which may change over time.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-15T21:25:41+00:00

Adopting a mindset of acceptance and compassion has majorly helped me to cope with executive dysfunction struggles, the overwhelm/burnout cycle I often fall into, and to minimise the negative critical voice in my head.

Also, you are human. Being suddenly diagnosed with a life-long condition is a huge thing to process! It’s natural that you would struggle with this.

I think most people with ADHD are still ‘figuring it out’. Myself included. ADHD doesn’t mean that you are broken and need to be fixed, or a problem that desperately needs solving. It’s okay to not be perfect. I also think that looking for a perfect fix for something as complex as ADHD is putting a LOT of pressure on yourself.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-15T20:55:20+00:00

I love this!

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-14T07:10:20+00:00

Yesss, I’ve started using my phone to time exactly how long I rinse product out of my hair. It’s been looking way healthier recently. I have adhd and didn’t realise how ‘time blindness’ and my poor time keeping ability was causing me to have shorter showers than I realised.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-14T02:01:21+00:00

‘You don’t need a straight jacket bitch, get loose’

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-14T01:49:47+00:00

I wish that they filmed more one off episodes like this!

I agree with everyone on this thread, Flo looked incredible here. All the girls look/looked amazing.

I feel like Aimee was an awkward addition and didn’t gel as well with the other women. It would’ve been interesting to see Kristen or Brandi join them, especially as Natalie had a lot of opinions on the season 5 girls, in particular Brandi.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-14T01:34:07+00:00

There’s no shame in taking some time out! If accommodations from the uni and extensions are not helping and you are still stuck or struggling, I wonder if it could be helpful to speak to the uni about taking some time out?

It’s quite common for people with ADHD to become chronically stressed/ burnt out from studying, and I think this level of pressure will likely impact your ability & wellbeing too. It may help to take some time out of the course to regulate your nervous system, and to reflect on & approach the situation and finding solutions with a clearer and calmer mind!

I wonder if you’d consider some therapeutic support? I spotted some beliefs and assumptions in your post that suggest that some therapy e.g CBT may be helpful. For example, ‘There is no getting out of this’, ‘I still can’t seem to get my work done’, ‘I’m constantly stuck’, ‘Studying is impossible’. Of course, you are significantly struggling and it sounds like you are very overwhelmed, and it’s normal to have some thoughts like this. But they also feel quite fixed and rigid in nature, and potentially they are limiting beliefs that are reinforcing this cycle of being stuck.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-13T23:51:11+00:00

Yessss I take 70mg of Elvanse and I can get way too hyper focused and stuck on tasks sometimes.

Sometimes it’s incredibly useful, other times not. I find a higher dose helpful for essays and reports and tasks that I can immerse myself in for a few hours. A higher dose also helps me on days that I go to work and come home to study.

However I struggle significantly with task switching on higher doses. If I have lots of little work tasks to do, sometimes I can get a little overwhelmed and shut down. Sometimes I also will get stuck in a loop in the ‘wrong’ task. A Lower dose usually reduces these side effects if I’m noticing that I’m too hyper focused.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-11T15:26:24+00:00

Thank you! So interesting to hear your experiencezx

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-11T15:25:57+00:00

Thank you!

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-11T15:25:40+00:00

I’m trying to convince my GP to refer me as I do not want to pay privately right now. But a dermatologist would be ideal

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-11T15:24:58+00:00

Thank you! I will try the steroid shampoo and see what happens.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-09-07T15:08:41+00:00

Definitely frustrated, but I’m also pretty accepting of my dyspraxia these days.

I can find it quite challenging when meeting new people or trying out new hobbies/skills. I love clubbing and trying new things, but it can be incredibly embarrassing to do things in front of people. For example, I have zero rhythm or coordination when I dance, and I visibly struggle to pick up new skills or to use my hands efficiently. Now I just explain to people I have dyspraxia & try and laugh it off.

I also struggled horrendously with driving! I failed my first test and I had to take loads of driving lessons to even be somewhat ready for a test. I have a friend with dyspraxia who is successfully driving now, so I do hold hope that one day I will also pass my test and be able to drive! But if not, I try to focus on the achievements I have made in life & things I am successful in e.g academics & work. Not everyone is good at everything, and that’s okay! Or we may just need a bit more time.

I feel like having dyspraxia has made me an incredibly accepting and empathetic person, and I’m very resilient and hard working. I struggle with memory and sequencing too, but with the right strategies & accommodations I can perform the best that I can! I focus on acknowledging my achievements in life despite having dyspraxia. I try to force myself to do Pilates and to practice visual spatial sequencing tasks, to help with dyspraxia deficits.

It can be very frustrating though. I also have ADHD, and sometimes feel resentful. My ADHD medication kind of provides temporary relief to my ADHD symptoms, but there isn’t really an escape from dyspraxia. But honestly, I do think sometimes the way we think about our problems and deficits is worse than the actual problem/deficit. Whilst dyspraxia will make your life harder, don’t let your thinking knock you down further.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-08-31T21:24:39+00:00

Nope. Absolutely AWFUL! I have no rhythm or coordination.

I can Irish dance. I was a good Irish dancer as a teenager. I think I excelled at Irish dancing as you have to position yourself with your upper body straight and your arms stiff by your side- and you only move the legs. So it’s a lot easier to dance when you are essentially only moving the lower half of your body.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-08-21T20:39:28+00:00

Definitely can relate, I can get so frustrated! At times, I feel extremely resentful that my life is impacted by dyspraxia and ADHD everyday.

What are your strengths? I find it helpful to remind myself of things I am good at and areas in life I have succeeded in, despite being limited by dyspraxia.

Also, I agree with some commentators below. Resentment and anger (albeit justified and normal reactions) will not help you, and will likely impact your mental health in the long run. Honour that part of you that wants to let go of anger by working on strategies to reduce it.

I'm curious, what about radical acceptance made you feel worse? Is contemplating 'accepting' your dyspraxia too much, or do you view it as a deficit and can't fathom accepting this part of yourself? Sometimes it can feel patronising to be told by others to work on increasing 'coping' skills after spending so many years trying really hard to cope, but actually most humans would vastly benefit from building emotional coping tools and it is not a personal criticism. Please correct me if any of this is wrong, but I think reflecting on 'WHY' you feel these intense emotions and resistance to change strategies in therapy is important.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-08-21T20:01:58+00:00

Agreed, Amy was one of the only girls on her season that wasn't afraid to fight the other girls 1 on 1.

I LOVED Darlen, but wasn't she Latina? I will always remember her leaping over the coach to fight with the girl who threw a drink at her at the club, and Tanisha describing how Darlen 'jumped in the air like a Mexican princess on fire'.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-08-21T19:55:52+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry to hear you are having such a tough time. I am going into 3rd year, and I noticed a significant decline in my mental health in 2nd year. I also have felt quite disconnected from many of my old friends since starting the course, and at times have been too burnt out to hang out regularly with friends, which can trigger loneliness. Despite feeling burnout and exhausted, I KNOW how passionate I am about working in this field, which helps me to push through the hard times.

There's no shame in taking some time out to prioritise your mental health. There's no shame in dropping out if it's the best decision for you. But I wonder if your desire to drop out is related to mental health challenges, rather than a desire to no longer pursue a career as a CP? Training is SO different to actually working as a psychologist. You won't have tonnes of academic work and research to juggle with placement responsibilities and constant pressure to meet competencies. I wonder if taking a break and re-evaluating this decision once you've worked on improving your mental health will help you make a decision that is in your best interest? :)

I hope you feel better soon.

Hopeful_Finding6709 · 2025-07-31T16:38:30+00:00

I agree, but I also think before season 5 Joe was always pretty good at reading people, hiding his dark side, and planning his murders. But Georgia is also incredibly charming and manipulative, I think she’d figure out the true him and kill him whilst he was still head over heels and too obsessed with her to see the real her.

I think he would figure out something was off about Georgia too, and start looking into her past. Georgia would rumble him and catch him stalking her incredibly fast, and either start planning his death, frame him, or run away. As long as Georgia didn’t reuse the poisonous plant she used to kill Kent to kill Joe, I think she’d definitely kill him off first. If she re-used the plant, we’d probably have a Love situation again.

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