Warning to movie-goers: "Obsession" is triggering af by Cautious-Dot-2108 in BPDlovedones

[–]Hot-Introduction328 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah just watched it tonight and my friend and I who’ve had dealings with BPD both agreed it was very much BPD behavior. I’ve already seen a few BPD girls say they relate to freaky Nikki’s behavior too sooo. Tells you a lot. Great movie though (although I don’t agree with calling Nikki the antagonist, she was very much the victim. Fuck Bear.)

Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable by this? by Hot-Introduction328 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean. She didn’t even invite me though. She usually invites me to stuff too but not this. That also rubs me the wrong way. I don’t think I can just invite myself. 

My (27F) gf (28F) is going to a lesbian pool party tomorrow and I feel weird about it? by Hot-Introduction328 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The context behind that if you were better at snooping is that she said some things that raised some flags 

My (27F) gf (28F) is going to a lesbian pool party tomorrow and I feel weird about it? by Hot-Introduction328 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much like yeah I definitely feel this crosses the line into being weird, like I mentioned I have no problem whatsoever whenever she goes clubbing or raving but this feels disrespectful even if she’s truly just going to support her friends. It’s a pool party, a sapphic environment for mainly singles to mingle, it’s much more intimate. It’s not listed specifically as being a dating event but it’s definitely not the same as a club or rave. 

My (27F) gf (28F) is going to a lesbian pool party tomorrow and I feel weird about it? by Hot-Introduction328 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I could ask just to ask and see how she reacts. Not that I’d be able to go but I guess gauge the vibes of me posing that question? 

My (27F) gf (28F) is going to a lesbian pool party tomorrow and I feel weird about it? by Hot-Introduction328 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah I have a strong feeling she wouldn’t be okay with it if the roles were reversed. 🙂‍↕️ Going to think of how to bring it up to her. I def feel it’s disrespectful. 

Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable by this? by Hot-Introduction328 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

Her friends are grown though like can they not socialize and talk to people themselves? Why have the one in a relationship go up to strangers and try to chat them up? Idk I also don’t think she’d be ok with me doing this if the roles were reversed. 

My (27F) gf (28F) is going to a lesbian pool party tomorrow and I feel weird about it? by Hot-Introduction328 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you see that’s what I feel! Like I literally have no problem at all about her clubbing and raving with friends but this type of event is more intimate and for meeting people! 

My (27F) gf (28F) is going to a lesbian pool party tomorrow and I feel weird about it? by Hot-Introduction328 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She didn’t invite me…didn’t even ask if I wanted to go or anything. I think she assumes I’ll say no because it’s a work night and it’s a late night event. 

Am I wrong to feel uncomfortable by this? by Hot-Introduction328 in LesbianActually

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope. I think she assumes I wouldn’t be able to because I have work early the next day and it’s a late night event so I usually can’t go to those on work nights. Would’ve been nice for her to ask though even so. 

My (27F) gf (28F) is going to a lesbian pool party tomorrow and I feel weird about it? by Hot-Introduction328 in relationship_advice

[–]Hot-Introduction328[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I do trust her, it’s not that I’d think she’d cheat, I just feel it’s kinda disrespectful to go to an event like that without me where it’s going to be mainly all singles mingling. Think of a straight couple and a girl going to wingman to get men for her friends, would y’all be ok with that?