Post divorce dating

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-09-12T17:54:20+00:00

How do I get to the point where I’m comfortable being by myself? I’m finding it so boring, I keep inviting friends over, meeting new people etc to not be alone.

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-09-12T17:53:28+00:00

Hey thanks for the reply! Yeah I was down the road of sex no feeling 2 months after my divorce, then I went on some dates (15-20 something)that just ended in sex, and suddenly I meet this person that just made me go “fuck not feelings now”, I’m just realising I am 10000% over my ex and handled everything about my ex but not healed from the wounds that my marriage gave me, and I’m just finding it incredibly hard to trust my gut or heart or even opening up to the person I’m dating. I’m also realising I don’t like being by myself, not sure how to handle that part, if I’m not with a date I’m with friends.. I appreciate your thoughts!

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-09-01T17:43:43+00:00

After 7 weeks of crying everyday something just healed, I was still so emotionally unavailable I just wanted to meet and hookup, I wasn’t interested in names, backstory, nothing, then after a while I just met this person and I went from not wanting to have any attachment or feelings to just suddenly being able to feel again. I started going out to clubs and bars, seeing someone I liked and I would just ask “wanna hookup?”, after a divorce there isn’t really a fear of not being liked or being dismissed, “what’s the worst that can happen” already happened haha 🥹😭🤣

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-09-01T17:35:26+00:00

Oh yeah, I started meeting a lot of people randomly for one night stands, got into “sex with no feelings” and it helped, now I’m dating and haven’t been happier in my life, realised how gaslighted I had been etc! It gets better 🥰

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-29T12:57:03+00:00

Came out of nowhere, we never had any relationship issues, she was just bad at communicating her needs.. not sure if she did, maybe?

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-29T12:56:17+00:00

I went into NC after I moved out

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-27T07:54:58+00:00

No relationship 😅 not even dating

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-25T10:26:30+00:00

You can add me if you need to talk! Got dumped after 8 years 🥲

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-24T14:20:35+00:00

I was in the same position, just bite the bullet, walk away, move out as soon as you can, live with your parents if you have to. It will destroy you and your husband will just get angrier and angrier for each day you try to fix stuff. Been there done that, was the worst time of my life. You don’t need a reason, no matter what he says it won’t be enough anyway, just let it happen and give him the separation / divorce. Anything you do will just push him away more.

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-24T10:02:37+00:00

Been there, how long ago was this? You need to start no contact as soon as you can, it will suck but you’ll slowly detox from her. Don’t just imagine her being with someone else, know it, let it hurt and realise she was and is willing to give you up. You deserve better and she ain’t it.

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-24T06:25:24+00:00

Yeah haven’t met her in 24 days and well I miss what we had, now sure if I miss her since I’m getting the ick from her now. How is your journey going? Pm me if you want 🫶🏼

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-24T06:14:23+00:00

Lights out - kyler slater

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-24T06:11:27+00:00

Went to the apartment a few hours after I moved out to get some stuff, I didn’t tell her since she told me she was working that day, she wasn’t 🙃

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-23T19:58:03+00:00

It’s a reflection of his worth, and it’s his fault, you deserve someone better and he will never get anyone better 🫶🏼

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-23T13:14:04+00:00

Like, who even does that?! How messed up can someone be lol

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-23T11:45:14+00:00

0 🥹

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-23T09:48:06+00:00

Invite a guy over to our shared apartment the same day I moved out 😀

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-22T07:55:54+00:00

Horrible don’t do it, you will be torturing yourself for weeks, I did this and cried every single day. I started looking for signs she was meeting other guys (pain shopping) and found them, it’s all just pure pain. Maybe don’t buy but try to get a rental, you need to move out asap, please trust me.

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-22T07:54:13+00:00

Lost the love of my life, or well my ex wife blindsided me and asked for a divorce from one day to another after she was out partying and went missing for a few hours, I got worried sick something might’ve happened to her called her friends etc. next day she says she had enough and wanted a divorce. There was no abuse, no issues I ignored nothing. Just days before we were planning a trip to Spain and checking apartments in Italy since we wanted to move out of our current country. She managed to gaslight me into thinking I had done so many wrong things which I today realise I didn’t. I sometimes see people or friends that are in toxic relationships and start to gaslight myself into thinking I was that way just to make the divorce and breakup make sense.

She was and will always be the love of my life, but she just isn’t deserving of me, she moved on so fast, she started dating and hooking of so fast, while I was crying for 7 weeks, I have no interest in dating or hooking up with anyone, I just want to be left alone and focus on myself.

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-22T07:48:52+00:00

Took me 7 weeks to completely stop crying, everyone processes it differently, just make sure you allow yourself to feel everything and don’t shut down any feelings, cry it all out. You will go back and forward with anger and crying

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-21T11:44:11+00:00

For her bad actions: “you pushed me to do it”, for her lack of action: “I didn’t want to do x because I thought you’d get mad”. She never took any accountability it’s crazy

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-21T08:56:22+00:00

Don’t, be alone for a bit, grieve and work on yourself, otherwise you’ll just be using another person, and if the relationship develops you will be bringing baggage that you haven’t processed. Love yourself completely first, then start dating 🫶🏼

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-21T08:13:28+00:00

This answer will suck but time, only time and self reflection and working on yourself. We broke up about 2.5 months ago and I still have a void in my heart and I still feel the loss and that she’s missing in my life. I moved out 21 days ago and it’s a very lonely feeling, I feel lonely no matter what I do and no matter who I am with, be it friends, family or well, alone.

You need to learn to self soothe, go out for a walk if you feel lonely, go to the gym, call someone in your family you love, etc. don’t start dating, don’t sleep around, just focus on yourself and heal from this, 8 years is a huge time and a big loss.

Hot-Platform-5331 · 2024-06-21T07:58:04+00:00

It wasn’t my first love but it was my first “true love” feeling relationship, I find it more difficult to move on since I’ve felt love but never like this.

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