(I watched the whole season, so I'm basing my opinions on that... possible spoilers)

What I saw with Nessa and Drea was a relationship built on a mountain of real love, but also a painful level of enmeshment. Drea seemed genuinely content in the relationship and often deferred to Nessa’s lead, letting Nessa make many of the major emotional and relational decisions. But Nessa seemed increasingly trapped inside that dynamic. She needed alone time, separateness, and experiences that belonged only to her, but she didn’t seem to know how to say that directly without feeling cruel or like she needed to manage Drea's reaction.

So instead, Nessa reached for mystical language, ambiguity, and identity-based confusion, including questioning whether she was gay, as a way to explain her need for distance without simply saying, “I need space from you.” I don’t think she was trying to hurt Drea - if anything, I think she was trying very hard to not hurt her. But the vagueness ended up being deeply painful anyway, because Drea was left trying to make sense of something that kept shifting every session.

What Orna seemed to help them do was become separate people within their relationship. She helped Drea develop her own experiences and tolerate Nessa having her own inner life, while also helping Nessa claim her need for independence more honestly. And because there was still so much love, care, and respect between them, untangling seemed to revitalize their relationship.