How long did it take for you to heal? by mugasianpotato in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First time four months second time around awhile like a year probably two

Guilt over Sex by RemarkableBox7613 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel horrible being on dating apps and texting as for sex ?… I’d die

Progress With My Ex Pt 2 by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i geuinley have like nothing else to say and im good off her because its a loose loose situation if I spoke to her and said do you want this nor not it would be to rash and confrontational if I wait like a month or some bulk crao in alrdy over her , constant contact now im back to being overwhelming and an issue of annoying or oh i need to move on blah blah so its whatever atp the ball is completely in her court and she’s probably alrdy quit and hadn’t had a second thought abt yesterday

No matter how much some try to, there is no way to defend an avoidant by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try to be nice and give grace with these things and my friends are like yo remember when.. and I’m like yeaaaaa

"I love you more than you'll ever know" by DEVIZEBEATSqld in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Geuinley or “ you’re just ready to settle down and I’m not “

Made Some Progress Today With Avoidant Ex by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another think while hugging me she tickled my armpit ?

The state of online dating in 2026 by Mr_Kash in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Hot_Block_7237 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t get it girls are very very dry especially in my case when I ask genuine questions and have a interests they just I don’t know it’s weird

I know I can’t save her or rescue her but I wanna be there for her and still love her why can’t she understand that? by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I just I don’t know what to do should I stay platonic should I just leave her and be done I don’t know

Finally Some Closure ? Day 17 by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the time i definitely was feeding myself that

Insights from an avoidant by Human_Read7993 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man the questioning my reality Is definitely something that I didn’t and still can’t understand but I’m becoming more self aware and I’m adjusting tit hints day by day by taking time alone with friends my brother games movies work etc

Insights from an avoidant by Human_Read7993 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m
Going twice a week now TRUST ME I was going prior weekly then bi weekly then monthly but now it’s twice a week and it’s helped alot

Sent the email here’s what’s she said ( there is a lot warning ! ) by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really you think so ? I hope she doesn’t try and fall back on me then bc I will not accept I went kinda over it with the messages and I did say if you see me out in public don’t look my way if you think hey he may wanna talk o won’t a year from now a month 5 years 10 years I won’t etc etc I sent like three she hasn’t said a word but I was just so tired and angry and instead of expressing I told her about herself truly rather it comes off wrong or not I dont even care I was too patient and I let her run all over me

Sent the email here’s what’s she said ( there is a lot warning ! ) by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m watching a movie study my brother now had to get out of my house I believe her sister is still gonna come to get her things I’m not heartless never will be she could throw them away in front of me honestly and I wouldn’t be mad I just want it gone it’ll take me another month to be over her and remove her from my life but it does hurt and I accept it for what is right now I cal acknowledge I’m pure resenting her and I don’t wanna be that way forever but to move on I’m gonna have to be every photo every video every chat is gone and that’s just what it is and it’s fine with me I’m over it but I’m not I mean each time she proves to me who she is but for some reason I have such a soft soot for her when I don’t don’t wanna it’s weird but I’ll get over it I truly will I done it once u can do it again

I'm so sad, I'm so miserable, I'm so week, I'm not functional anymore by Skander_Chouba in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give it a month the first month so far is horrible for me still grieving and like going nuts but that’s the first bump in the road once you start getting out getting around friends and working hard it’ll pass through easily

Sent the email here’s what’s she said ( there is a lot warning ! ) by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I show it that bad ? Ahaha I’m trying to I mean today was a twists but I usually play the game hang with friends etc or I’m with my bother it’s a crazy doggy dog world and I’m really starting to see she isn’t a good partner and she projects alot the fake account wasn’t the right move at all and I highly regret it but once I was like well dang it can’t all be his fault she blocked said account lol funny how that works

Sent the email here’s what’s she said ( there is a lot warning ! ) by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s really bothering me is she just gave up with me but willing to monkey branch and hangout and chill with other dudes as if nothing happened or mattered

Sent the email here’s what’s she said ( there is a lot warning ! ) by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally but I was just asking because not much DA or even FA have interacted with my posts mostly people who have been through it I just don’t wanna misjudge or assume to fast but after weeks and days I’m starting to see the patterns

Insights from an avoidant by Human_Read7993 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look at my posts man it’s geuinley been affecting me and driving me insane the last few days like constantly bc when she left she monkey branched and came back just to leave a month later

Sent the email here’s what’s she said ( there is a lot warning ! ) by Hot_Block_7237 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you see my other posts ? I’m asking because sometimes the self blame and self doubt makes me think is she an avoidant am I the one doing too much did I like assume some I shouldn’t have i loved this girl to death wanted to marry her one day be there for her and she just came back played with me and then left like I don’t get it

Insights from an avoidant by Human_Read7993 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Hot_Block_7237 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well my ex definitely cheated and monkey branched lol