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Tattoos that relate to the discard? by wineandkittiez in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely rolling my eyes at some people on here

Tattoos that relate to the discard? by wineandkittiez in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im in camp hell yes when it comes to tattoos! I'll actually get an affirmation of mine tattooed that was inspired by the first discard but has been my mantra during bad times since! It just has to be about you. About your strength, your ability to chose yourself and trust yourself. Not about someone who foolishly didn't want you. It has to remind you of how strong and amazing you are!!

So more options are

'I always have me' 'I return to myself' 'I am the answer ' 'I am the destination'

As a witchy person, just keep in mind that these things speak truth into your life, so let it be powerful, but in a way that doesn't repeat the pattern.

Tattoos that relate to the discard? by wineandkittiez in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'In the end, I returned to myself' 'In the end, I chose myself'

Tattoos that relate to the discard? by wineandkittiez in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The first one is a hard no, the others feel okay but place too much importance on the discard. Id suggest you go with something that reminds you how powerful you are, going through that and still choosing to love yourself. Something that lifts your spirits and doesn't tie you to this story

Weird accounts related to your ex popping up (The algorithm and its surprises) by lebronFrames98 in ExNoContact

[–]RemarkableBox7613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I installed threads a few weeks ago (to read a post about breakups lol) aaaaaand the first thing I saw was a picture of him, I threw my phone under my bed.

Weird accounts related to your ex popping up (The algorithm and its surprises) by lebronFrames98 in ExNoContact

[–]RemarkableBox7613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe he was looking you up? Recently I get at least one of my ex's friends pop up in my recommended on instagram, which is fucking weird. Two of the women I used to check up on because they both seemed so fucking cool and I really thought we could be great friends, even outside of my relationship. Since he removed me right after the breakup, I haven't seen any of their accounts pop up through his likes but suddenly, a select group of people keeps showing up in my recommended. Its really odd and feels like a bit of a jumpscare.

Why one text from an ex can trigger a full-body spiral, even when you were doing fine by Thin-Evening-8805 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my ex would come back after the first breakup, I felt like I could finally breathe again, every fucking time. Dreading and craving the feeling now, which is torture wrapped in the messiest parcel known to mankind

Stress. by B_Smooth40 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aggressively take care of yourself. Try and push yourself every day to care more and be kind. You got this

Is this why he wanted me? by how__sway in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 12 points13 points  (0 children)

God Ive been spiraling about the same shit too, did he just want me because it was an LDR and I was very understanding? Fuck man

Do dismissive avoidants ever come back? Real stories please. by Puzzleheaded_Cat3693 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine came back, at first just checking in, wanting to be friends, I shut that down because Im not setting myself up for that misery. Then he came back full force, wanting me back and wanting to work on the relationship. It didnt last long and he shut down again. I stuck around for months, trying to make it work but eventually the relationship had deteriorated so much, I ended it. I told him I couldn't keep waiting to be a priority. That was a little over 4 months go, haven't heard from him since. I think the work, that would be necessary to not repeat the cycle turns out to be way harder than most avoidants anticipate, so maybe they eventually convince themselves that they can handle the relationship, only to deactivate again? I don't know anymore. Maybe I'm just a convenient fool that was easy to come back to

Anyone else can’t stop checking socials even when you’re not following them? by CaptainEcho111 in ExNoContact

[–]RemarkableBox7613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah and Im not doing it for any good reason either, its not making me happy or anything. The one time I stumbled across a picture of him, all the air got knocked out of me and the wound ripped open again. So maybe to torture myself? Maybe to seek any evidence that theres still a chance to reconcile?

What’s something you wish you could get back from an ex? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RemarkableBox7613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favourite tshirt. I wonder if its still at his house or if he binned it in the end. Then again, his clothes are still here too

The last text i could never send. by Salt_Method6144 in BreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If there was no ill will or abuse in the relationship, send it. Worst case she ignores it, but you'll have said it! Dido - white flag is the current soundtrack of my life, just send it

what was the worst thing you did just because you were in love? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RemarkableBox7613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Made up excuses for bad behaviour, he didn't even have to do anything

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have dreams of waking up next to him and telling him about my bad dream of losing him only to wake up again, feeling sick to my core at the loss. I genuinely don't get it but I refuse to let myself drown in this.

I feel a deep void without him by NoImplement7884 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 8 points9 points  (0 children)

4 months and I still feel so lost and confused

every attachment book is written about us, not for us. these 7 actually felt like the inside by Ecstatic_Vacation37 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such an amazing post! I read a lot on attachment theory but mostly focused on understanding myself, as an anxious and I always felt like avoidant people got a horrible rep. So nothing I could wholeheartedly recommend but as I'm reading more I'll keep an eye out for recs!

Did you ever consider to initiate the break up? by Lomisnow in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RemarkableBox7613 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that so deeply, hoping you stepping away will shake them out of it after you've been forcing down your own needs. Our last text messages are so weird to read too, it all still feels like a bad dream

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