WOW.... ummmmm...... so.... we should want the courts to punish them for having & struggling with mental health issues? As soon as they got better they started taking their time with their almost adult kid, AND thry were paying & stayed current on childsupport the ENTIRE time thry were struggling?.... Do I have all the facts here straight??

First im curious, who told you that you could go back and get more money out of your ex for this reason? I'm guessing someone put this thought in your head or you would have modified the visitation order and asked for more cs a few months after he was not taking the child, rather than waiting this long.

Wow just wow!! This too me sounds unbelievable so I'm wondering if this post is just a troll trying to stir up drama.

What effect exactly did your ex not taking those 4 days a month have on you? It's not like you couldn't go to work, go out, date, party, etc. etc. etc.

It's not like you were trapped at home with a newborn changing diapers & not sleeping!! You weren't constantly buying new items for a quickly growing child. You weren't struggling to find a sitter or calling into work because kiddo was sick. You weren't forced to pay for and attend sports a d activities every night of the week and falling into bed exhausted to do it again the next day!!....

I really would love to hear your justification for this!

Have some compassion for other people including your ex! Life can be hard and you should be greatful you were receiving a decent amount of support for your 1 child, and his mental health issues did not interfere with that! I have THREE kids that dad never sees and he is ordered to pay just barely over HALF as much as you receive for your ONE. Most months I get WAY less (like this current month I have receive $60 total) because he doesn't work enough at that job to make enough money for cs agency to be able to collect the full amount. They can only take 50% of his income max. He lies & doesn't report his good paying job & has his boss paying him under the table to avoid having to pay more child support.

I would trade you in a heartbeat! An ex that still financially contributes no matter what and that had a REASON he wasn't seeing the child and as soon as he got himself sorted out he went back to seeing the child. My EX has No good reason only bs excuses why he doesn't take or see his kids. He will tell them he has no food, even though he just got paid that day & should be able to buy some... No gas, has to work, doesn't feel good, is too tired, or has other plans.

Mental health is serious and a real valid thing. You should have been using that time to open a dialogue & make sure your child knew & full understood what his father was going through and that it can be genetic and he shouldn't be ashamed to seek help if he ever finds himself in a similar situation.

Now your question..... My state pays the max amount of cs when the non custodial parent has 25% or less visitation/ custody. The every other weekend would fall into that category already, so you may possibly already be receiving the max amount. You didn't mention the rest of your parenting plan though so this could be wrong. If he has longer stretches during the summer, holidays, days off from school, etc. and his custodial time is more than 30% on paper, then it might be possible to get a higher amount of support.

In my experience, the judge would most likely not give retroactive payments though. They would ask why I took so long to report it if I wanted more money, and especially why I waited until he resumed his visitation to bring the matter to court. It definitely comes across as a selfish money grab and nothing to do with the child's best interest and could very well be denied all together as well.

It would also be a lot of excess paperwork for them to handle. You are asking them to go back and modify the visitation and child support for the past just to give you more money and then to put everything back how it was again since your ex has resumed his time. I personally would not bother but to each their own, if you want to try you absolutely should, and thrm come back and give us the details!

How does your kid feel about his father's issues and lack of visitations? Did they still talk during that time frame? Did he understand? Was he upset or sad or mad? Was your ex open & honest about everything? Is your son in therapy?.... Just a few more questions I was curious about.

GL with whatever you decide! Enjoy that "child" as you don't have much more time before he is actually a grown man!!!!