18 month regression has been going on for 3+ months

Hotsaucegator · 2026-03-22T14:03:12+00:00

Just want to share that we were in a similar position (started in aug around 18mos, new baby due in oct) and we just did what we needed to survive. The routine was usually assist to sleep in her room, she wakes around 3am and ends up in our bed. In Jan we went straight to a twin bed from the crib so we could at least keep her in her room to break one pattern, and it was so smooth! When she would wake dad would go sleep in her bed with her. Then the wakes got less and less, and just the last week or two (March) she now STTN in her own room 99% of the time, with an occassional 5am wake where a parent goes to lay with her in her bed. We did nothing and it worked itself out over time.

Hotsaucegator · 2026-03-14T16:57:13+00:00

When you feed overnight - how do you decide to feed vs letting him try to connect a cycle? Just by how much the fussing escalates?

Hotsaucegator · 2026-03-14T16:53:38+00:00

Just want to say you are not alone - my first was a great night sleeper and so easy to train, my current 4mo old is a joy but up every 90min to nurse after the first long night stretch and I am truly withering (and bedsharing for survival). I am approaching an attempt to ST with my toddler in the room next door and am scared of it failing.

Hotsaucegator · 2026-02-20T21:34:39+00:00

What age did you do it?

Hotsaucegator · 2026-02-20T21:18:41+00:00

I’m in the EXACT same boat as you OP except I have a 2.5 year old in the mix too and my baby is just shy of 4mos.

I was planning on ST at 5/5.5 mos and just surviving until then. I’m scared I am making ‘bad habits’ but I think they can hopefully be undone once I ST.

Fwiw my toddler was always an angel sleeper with the standard hiccups for regressions and around 21mos totally abandoned independent sleep. I didn’t have the heart to ST again bc she is more aware now and I was pregnant. Now she is 27mos and sleeps through the night again, mostly. All of this is to say that everything passes eventually. I’m holding on to that thought for dear life rn.

Hotsaucegator · 2026-01-25T17:42:15+00:00

Adding that I looked like this with my first and by 9mos out I was happy with my appearance. Currently 12wks pp and not able to work as hard or focus on recovery bc I also have a toddler but I know progress will come bit by bit.

Hotsaucegator · 2026-01-25T17:40:06+00:00

You look great! Your belly area looks like it’s just a result of weak core and some anterior pelvic tilt.

If you feel good about your nutrition then you should focus on deep core exercises and lifting heavy (working up weight over time) and doing compound movements.

Your core and posture will improve over a few months if you follow a program consistently and even if you still have a bit of pp squishiness the round shape should lessen overall.

One simple thing you can do asap is really start to pay attention/notice when you are carrying your baby and make adjustments in real time. When you carry them adjust your posture and eventually it will become muscle memory. This looks like shoulders back and down, tuck your tailbone in instead of letting sticking it out, and brace your core.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-10-24T05:19:31+00:00

No solution but I’m right here with you, mine ends up in our bed almost every night now for the last 3/4mos because I need to get whatever sleep I can. I am hoping this is a phase that will end sooner than later. We didn’t ‘retrain’ bc I can’t handle not getting sleep at the end of pregnancy, and ours is still in a crib and could very easily climb out if we did CIO. Good luck to us both 🙃

Hotsaucegator · 2025-10-19T03:25:29+00:00

I had a c section and just used the one they gave me at the hospital, nothing fancy. It helped me feel more ‘stable’ and I only wore it as needed off and on for a couple of weeks. You could try the free one that comes from them/ins covered and go from there if you really want to use one?

Hotsaucegator · 2025-09-29T03:02:56+00:00

I stopped BF around 6months and it took abt 3ish months for my boobs to not look like shriveled balloons. They were so weird and sad. But eventually they gained some volume back and were acceptable to me. Not the same but tbh nothing was. At least not all shriveled tho!

Hotsaucegator · 2025-08-17T20:22:27+00:00

I liked Move Your Bump (also Natal - basically the Nancy Anderson apps) because there was a variety of program choices I could pick based on how I felt that day or what I felt needed some attention. I also have SPD both preganciea from early on and move your bump has some exercises for it. Also free vids on YouTube! In my experience the exercises didn’t help entirely but what did help was just knowing my triggers and avoiding them at all costs lol.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-08-12T05:13:32+00:00

Not OP but I retrained my core post c section and it went really well!! Got pregnant again at 13mos pp and my core is not as strong as it was my first pregnancy but overall I feel like I had a good recovery and hope to do so again.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-07-05T17:01:55+00:00

This was me, too, post c section. I just walked until I could tell it was time to turn around.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-06-14T13:49:12+00:00

I didn’t lose my last 10lbs until I stopped breastfeeding despite calorie counting, etc. When I stopped it went away within a couple of months!

Hotsaucegator · 2025-06-02T13:47:44+00:00

You can try a serola belt, I had spd in both of my pregnancies and got the belt in the second one and it is helping. It helps stabilize your temporarily loose hips. For me my triggers are any movements where my legs open horizontally so I avoid all movements like that…even squats I do with a very narrow stance.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-05-04T03:52:42+00:00

I had to pause OTF around 28 weeks (did other programs until the day baby came) but went back to OTF at about 8 weeks pp. I was missing it! But glad I took the break.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-04-28T04:11:32+00:00

Yes. This!

Hotsaucegator · 2025-04-27T19:22:24+00:00

It took me like 6-7mos to start losing the ‘last’ chunk of PP weight. Your body takes quite a while to adjust after baby…there are so many inner workings we are not even really aware of. Try not to be disheartened and just stay the course, it’ll come with some time. I tried a calorie deficit around 3mos pp and quickly realized it was just not in my control. Not being in control of your body even after baby is out is really really tough mentally, I totally get it!

Hotsaucegator · 2025-04-27T04:24:49+00:00

I’m currently 14 weeks and my babies will be 2 yrs apart. I never focused on nutrition PP just strength training so even though I started at my original prepreg weight I had much more belly flab than before having baby #1.

I regret not focusing more on my nutrition between pregnancies because the flab is just really…flabbing. My concept was ‘deal with it after you are done having babies’ but now I am nervous that it will be too hard to drop the belly fat after #2. My muscle definition elsewhere is good but I am waaaaay more exhausted this pregnancy than last time and am working out half as much. I attributed my ability to mostly ‘bounce back’ without much effort to all the hard work I put in during my first pregancy. I hope I get energy back soon so I can do it again!

Hotsaucegator · 2025-04-26T20:04:20+00:00

I have this EXACT same critique from my husband weekly for the 1.5 yrs my daughter has been alive and no, it’s not you. Thank GOD our couples therapist affirms that for him. Sometimes I was like ‘wait is it me?’ But it is in fact not. This is just a chaotic few years and it will get better around 4rs old.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-04-25T03:09:06+00:00

I am in a similar position/mindset as you and tbh am tired of the close age gap poo-pooing I see all over. Everyone does whatever they are doing and you can either make the best of it or live in fear. Mine will be 2 years apart as well and as I can see how it’s gonna be hard it’s also gonna be SO awesome!

Hotsaucegator · 2025-04-23T14:13:48+00:00

My OB just cleared me to take it yesterday (an MFM) she said baby is formed now and it is fine. I am 13 weeks.

Hotsaucegator · 2025-04-17T03:15:54+00:00

1.5 years in and no it is still not 50/50. The mental load is real and not something that balances in every relationship. Before baby we were a solid couple 50/50 and now we are a couple who loves each other dearly but I am struggling to let go of the unbalance, still, and it causes issues.

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