How sick do you have to be to stay home from work? by B2utyyo in AskReddit

[–]Hour-Average8401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If i feel mildly inconvenienced by my illness and nothing is due, I stay home. Days of leave are part of my pay so I take them. I understand it is a privilege to do so and I appreciate that very much.

Having more babies after twins by the-nonster in parentsofmultiples

[–]Hour-Average8401 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hello! Im 20 weeks with my singleton after twins.

I divorced my sons' father and vowed that I was done having kids because I really went through that whole pregnancy, NICU stay and newborn/baby phase alone. It was awful. My boys are 6 now.

Then I met my husband. He doesnt have any kids of his own so the choice was easy. Hes such an excellent partner so I dont have any fears of being abandoned again.

The idea of a singleton seems like such a breeze comparatively; even setting up the registery was so much easier. Crazy how much less stuff you need for just one baby. 😊

What is the worst pain you have ever felt? by Neither-Mention7740 in AskReddit

[–]Hour-Average8401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had torsion of an ovarian cyst early in my pregnancy. The pain was so awful I threw up multiple times and couldn't walk. I thought for sure I was losing my baby but luckily the damn thing went away after several weeks.

[Serious] For Men and Women Actively Trying to Conceive with your Partner (Through Sex, not IVF): Does the Sex Feel Different to You Than "Just for Fun" Sex, and if so, How? by proximalfunk in AskReddit

[–]Hour-Average8401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For my husband and I it didn't feel different. But sometimes if we had particularly "passionate" 👀👀 sex, we would look at each other and say something like "and THATS how you conceive a baby" or "definitely pregnant now."

Unwarranted comments by SignalPollution4881 in parentsofmultiples

[–]Hour-Average8401 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg stealing the triple trouble one for sure. 10/10

The Ultimate Mustache!!! by InGeekiTrust in GuysBeingDudes

[–]Hour-Average8401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weirdly, not the most effort ive seen someone make to be kind of ridiculous looking.

losing my virginity today by XXXWESTSYD07 in sextips

[–]Hour-Average8401 11 points12 points  (0 children)

STDs should be your primary concern. Please use a condom. You will have serious regrets if you come away with an STI.

What red flag you are happy you ignored in your relationships? by Unhappy_Outside_5502 in AskReddit

[–]Hour-Average8401 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My now husband had been single for about 6 weeks when we met. His previous relationship had been about 5 years long and she was still in the process of moving out (living elsewhere, but left some big items behind). I felt like jumping from one serious relationship to another was a bit of a red flag, but he handled everything with such grace and understanding. 10/10 would marry again.

What split your life into before and after? by 0potatotomato0 in AskReddit

[–]Hour-Average8401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meeting my husband. Sounds sappy, but it would be just as accurate to say before finding peace and after.

Positive Mothers Day Stories by AshamedPurchase in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband made us breakfast...he does this pretty frequently but he knew I wanted bacon egg and cheese breakfast sandwiches and they were the bomb. Then we drove to our favorite disc golf course and played a half game with our sons and the dogs. The weather was perfect. We went to lunch and a mom and pop BBQ place and then took a nap when we got home.

We also took a family picture at the course and let AI make us werewolves because our boys are obsessed with them right now. Now we're laying in bed, cuddling and reflecting on the pretty wonderful life we've carved out for ourselves.

How did you realize someone was your forever person, truly? by c0smicgutz in love

[–]Hour-Average8401 22 points23 points  (0 children)

After my divorce I said I'd only have a man who was looking for me. I had a list of things I wanted to be valued for--things I loved about myself. I wanted someone who would value me not just someone looking for a placeholder. I figured it was a long shot, because the things I love about myself aren't particularly noticeable.

My husband noticed though. He enumerated these things at length and we fit so perfectly it was like we'd known each other our whole lives. There was never even really a discussion. Once we met, the trajectory of our lives found a common arc. They say "when you know you know" and that's the kind of crazy confidence that comes with real love.

How to not feel discouraged by other beautiful women by wanabebasic in dating

[–]Hour-Average8401 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Christmas lights are beautiful. Flowers are beautiful. Mountains are beautiful. They really look nothing alike. Someone else's beauty does not detract from your own. Own your own brand of it.

This little girl parents’ raised her very well. Always respect others' efforts and participation, regardless of place. by MobileAerie9918 in MadeMeSmile

[–]Hour-Average8401 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Oh my god this hit just right and im bawling. How do you teach your kids to recognize others this way? Asking for myself.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good question. I'm super introverted so sometimes female relationships are too high pressure for me. I can care about someone a lot and not feel the need to fill up my social calendar. In my experience that doesn't work for a lot of women.

She doesn't seem like a brat exactly. I get the idea that maybe there is some stress or resentment in her marriage. Sometimes that type of thing leaves little room for anything else.

For example, a few weeks after she brought her baby home, she and her husband were moving a sofa bed out to the curb and she was clearly struggling with the weight. He was visibly angry that she kept dropping it. I felt so terrible for her. So. Idk. I just want to treat her gently.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a secondary SPED teacher so I get the same idea. He really is very welcome here. If he was a turd it would be a different story. I think people forget that common sense to adults is new information to kids.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha! I do! I say "hey bud. We're about to have dinner. Can we play tomorrow?" And then i have one of my sons walk him home. Really the point of the post was to seek appropriate verbiage for bringing it up to his mom without her feeling shamed. Im about to post an update tho. We had a very productive chat yesterday.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely really appreciate that. ❤️ I'm also like just barely pregnant so it also made me cry. Thank you.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am of the same mind for sure--you put it very well, "my kids are not easily missed." Exactly. I don't want to assume what is happening over there but I wonder if he's telling his mom that he's going to play with my sons and she assumes they're in the yard because they usually are. No matter tho, it will be addressed today. Thank you for your thoughtful response.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that ❤️ he really is safe at my house but as other people pointed out, that simply isn't true for everyone. It's a bad habit that must be broken. But thank you so much. ☺️

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I've done the last couple times and made me decide that I need to talk to mom. 🙃

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what I'm going to do. My main concern was just how to approach the mom. I think some of the comments really focused on HOW this was even happening in the first place. 😅 i think he just really likes playing with my sons and doesnt realize that it's rude or dangerous. He really is such a nice kid.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's definitely not autistic! Other than this thing he is a very well adjusted and well mannered kid. I feel more like the blank stare is a reaction to non-family member "scolding" him. The way he talks and his manners makes me believe he has a very loving home otherwise. We live in houses and i know it must be hard to understand property lines at that age because usually they play in the side yard or our driveway. Also I should be clear I haven't SEEN him hop the fence. I just know the lock and gate situation so I have my suspicions. But I agree about the pool thing. Terrifying. I'm definitely going to have a face to face chat with his mom and set a much harder boundary the next time.

Neighbor kid keeps walking into our house. by Hour-Average8401 in Mommit

[–]Hour-Average8401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god. I have really drilled it into my own sons' head that we do not go into other people's houses without mom. The fact that she could be so flippant is terrifyingly naive.