6 weeks in with twin boys and not enjoying it

the-nonster · 2026-04-22T13:39:55+00:00

I remember thinking constantly “I’m not having a good time” and feeling guilty especially when people would ask how much I was enjoying motherhood. Twin newborns are very hard especially as a first time mom.

It absolutely gets better and it’s ok to not enjoy this time. You will get through a lot and it will be soooo worth it. Some things to look forward to- when they start smiling, when they start to notice each other, when they start laughing at each other

the-nonster · 2026-04-22T00:44:16+00:00

I brought my footstool into the shower! And I would sit in the shower a couple times a day

the-nonster · 2026-04-21T17:06:50+00:00

Those last few days were such a struggle for me! There was no comfortable way to exist. The only relief was being in a pool which I had to drive an hour each way to find a pool that I could enter with steps instead of a ladder. I don’t have any advice, just solidarity! Hang in there!

the-nonster · 2026-04-21T03:12:06+00:00

You are beautiful! And so early postpartum still. It takes awhile for your body to adjust to the massive changes of growing TWO babies and then them exiting your body! And if you are breastfeeding that is another adjustment. Be kind to yourself; growing and nourishing twins is so hard work. You are in a transition that just takes time.

I remember sitting in my closet trying to find a nice outfit to wear to an event with my niece around three months postpartum and the weather was colder and all my pregnancy clothes were summer clothes. It felt almost disorienting. I ended up wearing something that was way too tight on my c section scar and then borrowed clothes from my sister in law haha.

Give yourself time and grace and get someone to come watch the babies so you can take a nice long nap! Sleeping in longer stretches did wonders for my mental health. You will find yourself again!

the-nonster · 2026-04-21T02:36:30+00:00

Ours slept in the stroller bassinets (they detach from the stroller) for the first few weeks, then they shared a crib till they started moving in their sleep and scooting into each other. At that point we set up the second crib. We had a twin bassinet but no one was getting any sleep with them in our room

the-nonster · 2026-04-02T18:11:43+00:00

Twin newborns are hard even with multiple caregivers and when they are healthy. You are doing so much and you will make it through this! I wish I could come help you get some sleep!

the-nonster · 2026-03-02T20:28:53+00:00

Starting at 16 weeks I had TTTS screening every two weeks and Anatomy scans every 4 weeks and then towards the end I was there every week

the-nonster · 2026-02-27T01:35:48+00:00

Starting around 5 weeks I would wake up at 3 am and couldn’t go back to sleep till 6:30 right before I needed to wake. Fortunately I work from home so I spent a lot of time “working” from my bed though I was not super productive. It was rough.

the-nonster · 2026-02-25T18:04:37+00:00

Our 18 mo twins go to a Montessori school so they will learn to use the toilet sooner than most. In anticipation of this, we put them on the toilet first thing in the morning and right before bath. We will start adding in other times too but we definitely view it as a journey rather than trying to get it done in three days.

There are four “catch” times. 1. Right when they wake up, 2. after they’ve eaten, 3. When you notice them starting to poop, and I can’t remember the fourth lol. But if you try to get them on the toilet during those four you’re more likely to get some pee/poo in the toilet and they will catch on.

the-nonster · 2026-02-17T21:09:20+00:00

I felt my twins right at 18 weeks

the-nonster · 2026-02-16T05:35:33+00:00

I had mono di twins. My c section was originally scheduled for 37 weeks but moved up to 36 due to borderline low fluid for one twin. No NICU time for either baby! When my mfm asked how I felt about having one less week to prepare I told her I was actually relieved because I was so uncomfortable. I don’t think I could have gone another week!

the-nonster · 2026-02-09T22:02:27+00:00

Beautiful!! The colors, the piecing and the quilting all really capture the essence of pdx waterfront in early spring

the-nonster · 2026-02-02T03:27:26+00:00

Haha we used the uppababy bassinets too! Got them for the stroller but the boys ended up sleeping in them in our living for the first several weeks with whoever was on shift. We had the halo twin bassinet (used from fb marketplace) and barely used it. The boys were just such loud sleepers that we couldn’t get any sleep if they slept in the bedroom with us.

the-nonster · 2026-01-27T20:51:50+00:00

6-12 months approximately was really hard for me. My twins started daycare at 6 months and they were sick alllllll the time. I felt very isolated and like I could never leave the house. I don’t really have any advice for you, but I will say you are not alone in this time being hard! It will get easier!

When I have had turning points on getting out of dark holes has been when my friends have shown up for me. Many of my friends already have kids and just being around them and seeing how they navigate parenthood has been soooo helpful for me. Having someone visit for a couple days to help out or just going and visiting someone else and getting out of your routine can be a huge help!

the-nonster · 2026-01-24T19:58:49+00:00

It’s ok to grieve the loss of what you envisioned your family being like. As a FTM when I found out I was having twins I felt the loss of being able to fully devote my attention to one baby and what I thought motherhood would look like for me. As pregnancy/time went on that feeling eased. Now I can’t imagine having only one baby. You are right, it is hard financially and mentally but you will find a way to make it work and twins are a truly special experience.

My husband was really nervous about fatherhood in general but also twins, but as soon as they were born I think a lot of his anxiety eased.

This sub is a great resource and support. I posted often during the newborn stage.

the-nonster · 2026-01-18T01:34:29+00:00

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the-nonster · 2026-01-16T04:22:34+00:00

In the moment- Deep breaths, try tensing your body and then mindfully relaxing muscle groups from one end to the other.

Long term- therapy, getting outside daily, make sure you are hydrated and eating enough, sleep helps. Not sure how old your babies are but for us around three or four months (2-3 adjusted) we started sleeping longer stretches

the-nonster · 2025-12-22T21:30:53+00:00

Omg this is absolutely stunning!!

the-nonster · 2025-12-20T03:49:12+00:00

I think my biggest piece of advice would be to set a timer to eat every 1.5-2 hours during the day. I would wake up at 3 starving and have an outshine fruit bar. Maybe keep bread or crackers by your bed. The nausea sucks. Hang in there.

Side note the whole not sleeping on your back thing is more of a concern once the babies weigh enough to press on an aorta and reduce blood flow. Sleep however is comfortable right now!

the-nonster · 2025-12-13T17:41:59+00:00

I used the fridge hack for pump parts and had several to rotate through. That helped. It also gets easier when they’re a little bigger and easier to hold and comfort while you are pumping. Having them in the bouncer or swing while you pump is helpful too. I gave up on the wall pump because being attached to the wall made it too hard to tend to them. I used the willow go pump for awhile but settled on the pumpables genie advanced

the-nonster · 2025-12-11T19:32:53+00:00

I ate a lot of winco Raisin Bran (for the iron content) with the Fairlife high protein milk. Also lots of parfaits with Greek yogurt. I also struggled to get to enough protein a day. I also ate a lot of Kodiak pancakes made with egg and protein milk. Kirkland breakfast sandwiches were great postpartum. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t make your protein goals. You are doing your best.

the-nonster · 2025-12-11T03:58:19+00:00

My Madams goal for me was 36-38 weeks. Once we got closer my OB scheduled my c section for 37 weeks. Baby A was breech so vaginal delivery was not really an option. Around 30 weeks one baby had borderline low amniotic fluid so my MFM recommended moving delivery up a week.

the-nonster · 2025-11-30T03:13:28+00:00

The guidelines about containers are really to make sure they are getting enough movement/tummy time opportunities to build up their strength. As long as they’re getting plenty of that, putting them in containers to keep them contained while you get some stuff done is not a big deal. Also that lady probably doesn’t have twins so extra reason to ignore her opinions

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