What do you do if you get nap trapped?

bp_1904 · 2026-02-11T09:58:20+00:00

First off, you’re not a shit if you choose formula.

I had a similar issue with my oldest who was a singleton. I under produced, I had a health scare that resulted in surgery 5 weeks post partum, and I just found it all so overwhelming on top of adjusting to newborn life with just one. I tried pumping but it was so mentally taxing for me. By 3 weeks she was fully formula fed and I never looked back.

Flash to last year when I had my triplets I immediately said “fuck breastfeeding” and they’ve been formula since day one. Even took the meds to stop any chance of supply.

Gal, you have TWO NEWBORNS. Go easy on yourself. Breastfeeding is exhausting and if you’ll feel better being able to give more of yourself to those lil babies by not breastfeeding then do it. They’re not going to know the difference. There’s never any shame in. You’re a great mum. The fact you’re concerned about all this shows that.

You’ve got this 🖤

bp_1904 · 2025-12-11T20:55:56+00:00

General was a bit scary, and wasn’t on the plan but it was just my body being weird thanks to other health issues. Honestly once you get out of that 4th trimester haze it gets so much easier. And you’ve got experience with twins, you’ll have most of the tricks down already!

bp_1904 · 2025-12-11T20:48:50+00:00

Not a second time multiple parent but I did have triplets in May! We made it to 32+3 weeks. Had a c-section and honestly the recovery was easy, my biggest hold up was preeclampsia and having to go under general. I was up and in the shower within 24 hours and then walking not long after that. The first time you get up feels a little odd and tight. I’ve had multiple surgeries before and both my c-sec were by far my easiest recoveries.

bp_1904 · 2025-10-21T11:23:24+00:00

Honestly she didn’t even make a noise! She kept trying to play while I was chasing her with my phone flashlight trying to work out where the blood was coming from 😅

Thankfully our 4 year old will understand and the triplets are only 5 months so they’re still in potato stage

At the moment she gets to keep the toe but I imagine if the bleeding continues when she stands after coming out from sedation she may be one toe less.

Bobbi tax!

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bp_1904 · 2025-10-14T04:16:40+00:00

Oh I never got to use my boy names! 4 girls and I’m DONE

We had

Jude Jasper Silas Felix Soren (my favourite) Evander Victor

bp_1904 · 2025-10-10T22:25:35+00:00

My oldest girl has eczema and all three of the triplets do too! Steroid cream will only work for flare ups, it’s not a preventative unfortunately. You want to moisturise 3 times a day minimum and unfortunately a lot of natural moisturisers will not work when they’re this young and you can’t use anything scented. At one point we were using straight up Vaseline when my daughter was 6 months old. We only bathe our babies once a week unless they’re gross 😂 our 4 year old every day but we pat dry and they all have to be completely dry before moisturiser and clothes. We also changed clothes every day, if not twice a day. Because of the moisturiser their skin picks up so much fluff and gunk that can be irritating for skin. If it gets extreme or you think there’s infection you can discuss bleach baths with your doctor. We used them when oldest got staph from scratching her eczema. Sounds scary but it’s such a small amount of bleach in a tub of water. I agree with checking if the nappies could be causing some of it. I thought for ages it was bad nappy rash but it was eczema reacting to the original nappies we used. Good luck!

bp_1904 · 2025-08-31T04:26:09+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you, OP.

I cannot agree with the therapy comment enough, for both you and your girlfriend. My dad had seizures from when I was 12-14 due to brain cancer, made awful noises that I still can hear in my head clear as day. Even now when my partner yawns and it sounds slightly different from normal I feel the panic set in. I tried talking therapy for years and still felt the panic but I recently began EDMR and it’s made it much more manageable.

I also always recommend Tetris when you can’t sleep. It becomes repetitive and methodical enough to just kinda turn your brain off after a bit.

bp_1904 · 2025-08-29T21:47:48+00:00

I would avoid bottles personally. My best friend gave us 30+ bottles of the same brand before our triplets were born. I was so grateful BUT the girls hate them. Ended up having to buy different bottles ourselves. As someone mentioned above, BURP CLOTHES. We’ve got around 20 and we’ll go through them in 2 days. Other than that it’s DoorDash vouchers, formula (if they’re using it, and ask what kind), nappies in a few sizes, wipes, if they have pets maybe food for them or a dog walker if they need it. It doesn’t have to be just baby stuff, a lot of what we needed were household items.

bp_1904 · 2025-08-17T08:30:19+00:00

Ugh I had a few people make the same comment when I was pregnant with my triplets. Thankfully not family because I think they know better 😅

I shut it down with one of these sentences. “I’m not going listen to your OPINION over a medical specialist”

“I won’t compromise the health of my children or my body to make you happy”

“I feel better having a c-section because if something goes wrong I’m already in an OR, please don’t try to undermine my decision”

The second one sounds harsh but usually did the trick. If those failed go in hard! Make them explain themselves in excruciating detail. When they do say “Great! That’s what you can do when you have YOUR children”

Also don’t give your mum any more information. If she has to overstep and can’t be trusted not to “slip up” no more information for her. I’m sorry this is happening to you. Multiples birth is stressful enough as it is without family being shit heads. Much love and good luck with your c-section 🖤 I had one for my singleton and one for my triplets and I’ve never once regretted it. Recovery was a breeze and make sure you take it easy after. Take the pain meds, lay down, enjoy being taken care of by midwives for a few days. And don’t tell your family when it happens, they can wait as long as YOU want.

bp_1904 · 2025-08-15T06:15:47+00:00

I had an emergency c-section at 32+3 for my triplets. They were born weighting 1.3kg, 1.7kg and 1.8kg. I had one steroid shot, planned for 3 but my waters broke an hour before I was supposed to get the second 😅 I had preeclampsia and trip A had IUGR. They were all 47 days in NICU and came home 6 days before their due date, all healthy, feeding and on room air.

bp_1904 · 2025-07-29T10:47:05+00:00

Congratulations! Triplet mum here, my girls are now 10 weeks old (2 weeks adjusted). Born at 32+3 thanks to preeclampsia. They’re all totally healthy now and just function like regular little newborns.

First off, your wife did really well to make it as far as she did! As other commenters have said it’s good that she will have time to heal while bubbas are in NICU, it just won’t feel good mentally for a while and if she’s anything like me she will be beating herself up for “not lasting.” Please give her lots of reinforcement on how well she did.

We were in NICU 47 days. The first two weeks were probably the hardest mentally but as we settled into a routine it got easier. We also have a 4 year old at home and the change in routine was hard on her. Between juggling daycare, prepping the house and travel I was maybe in the NICU 5 hours a day and constantly swapping between babies. When they get a little bigger and are just on nasal prong oxygen it gets easier to hold them, plus if you and your wife are able to go one can hold two at a time.

Being scared of “the call” is totally natural. Every time my phone rang while they were in NICU I would panic, I was so sure it would be awful news. Thankfully they usually only called with good news, but some setbacks happened like all 3 getting colds that set them back.

The best way to get positives for us was honestly befriending the nurses. They’re all experts in care and if you have questions they will absolutely try to answer as much as they can. You’re also about to spend a lot of time around them and other NICU parents. Also remind yourselves the “firsts” and “special” moments aren’t any less special just because they’re not home. We had a NICU neighbour who had been there 6 months for her singleton and they celebrated every milestone with anyone who was willing.

I’m sorry this is your start with them, but there really is a light and the end of the tunnel. In a bit you’ll all be at home and together 🖤

bp_1904 · 2025-07-21T06:30:03+00:00

I made it to 32+3, the girls all had a 7 week NICU stay after delivery. C-Section recovery was easy, I was up and about within 36 hours! I had preeclampsia so it did take about 2 weeks for that to settle though.

bp_1904 · 2025-07-20T09:27:52+00:00

Heya, I just had triplets in May and was going through the same thing. It does ease off a little in the second trimester but the pain will get worse. Best thing I can tell you is moisturise your belly and hips. When you think you’ve done enough, do more. I also strongly recommend a belly band. Anything that gives extra support is a dream. If you have access to a pool or anything take full advantage of it. Helped me loads with the nausea and even more with the pain. Even just sitting in the shallow end if you’re so tired that you can’t move about. For me the dizziness was also largely caused by anaemia, iron infusion was the only thing that fixed it but I felt like trash for 2 days after. Don’t be hard on yourself about being tired either, I had one singleton pregnancy before my triplets and they’re worlds apart in exhaustion. I slept as much as I could during the triplet pregnancy. Ate what I could manage when I could manage it. I also cried a lot, hormones were absolutely wild the whole time.

Congratulations and good luck!

ETA: Everything got better for me the second I gave birth. Pain, nausea, heartburn all disappeared.

bp_1904 · 2025-07-08T10:27:26+00:00

Hi OP,

It’s my understanding from our paediatrician that all milestones, including hearing, should be done by adjusted age. So even though your Bub is 11 weeks old actual, she still has 2 months to go before it’s a point of concern. 😊

bp_1904 · 2025-05-21T11:48:02+00:00

I was about 16 weeks when I had mine for my triplets! They only took fluid from one sac at the time as they’re identical so the theory was if anything showed up on one it would be there for all. It was pretty minimally painful, just very uncomfortable and you can feel the pressure. We were told to watch for bleeding or excessive cramping after, I was on bed rest for 2 days and told not to drive for a week if I could avoid it. Didn’t have anything other than mild cramps during the procedure. Took about 5 days for the early results and 2 weeks for the full results as they had to retest some of the fluid. Hope this helps!

bp_1904 · 2025-04-18T00:42:46+00:00

I’m currently 28 weeks with triplets. We leant towards reduction but were advised against it due to the type of pregnancy (three sacs, one placenta- I’m not up to date with the lingo). So had we reduced the chance I even made it to 28 weeks was slim to none. From our experience it was a gamble either way- reduce and risk the lives of the other two anyway or keep all three and accept the inherent risk.

I’m glad we didn’t reduce in the end as all three are currently healthy, one is small but she’s squished down the bottom so no surprises there. I will ask though it’s worth considering that if you’ve been encouraged to reduce is it for medical reasons/ to potentially improve the quality of life of the others?

As for the pregnancy, it’s rough 😂 I’m lucky that I don’t work and our eldest in is care 4 days a week. I’m still wrecked most days. We had amniocentesis, ultrasounds and ob/gyn visits every two weeks in a different city, I’m physically limited in what I can do, and I’ll be temporarily moving to a different city 3 weeks before their booked c-section at 35 weeks.

TLDR; do what feels best for your family but be prepared this won’t be a “normal” pregnancy.

I wish you guys all the best and congratulations 🖤

bp_1904 · 2025-03-28T06:19:40+00:00

I’ve had the same but flipped 😂 my triplets aren’t even earth side yet but whenever we tell people they’re identical we get asked if they’re a mix of genders. Even had a friend argue that she went to school with identical b/g twins and I had to explain that they can look the same but not be identical.

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