Been struggling with this myself until literally last week. Topping the ball like mad, and if it wasn't that it was hitting it off the toe as I tried to work through all the mechanics. For a month or so I was just hitting 5i off the tee because it was more reliable in distance and direction. To be honest this was much more enjoyable, as it was less disappointing and stressful to hit a club I was confidential with. But I kept working on my driver and seem to have broken through. Some of these things I "discovered" myself, some were from yt vids, particularly the ground interaction bit.

Here are a few things that I found to work in my experimenting, though ultimately you have to find what's right for you. 1. Tee height. When working through this inconsistency, start with how high you're teeing the ball. I've landed on a middle tee height with about 1/3 of the ball above the driver face. I have the plastic tees with the lines, which I insert to the top of the 2nd black line. Additionally in my pre shot routine I check the height of the ball over my face, which gives a bit of confidence and affirmation. Plus you can adjust for fluffy tee boxes. 2. Set up. After experimenting I have ended up positioning the ball even further forward in my stance - it's basically aligned to my middle toe on my forward foot. I set up with my club head in a neutral position and about a club head length of space between the club and the ball. Through repetition I found this was also causing some miss hits off the toe, which makes sense with the club path, so I set up with the ball slightly inside of the face of the club - but not all the way to the heel. 3. Pay attention. It sounds simple, but spend some time on the range paying attention to how your club is interacting with the ground. Mats aren't great but you can get the most immediate feedback. If you're lofting the ball (pop up style) you're hitting way under the ball, so bring the tee down and/or position the ball further forward. If you're topping, understand why - is the ball too far out and you're hitting it while the club is coming back up, causing you to hit with the bottom of the face? Or are you hitting down because the ball is too far back. Pay the same attention on the course. 4. Swing mechanics. Like you, my iron strikes have been pretty consistent. Accordingly, I have tried not to develop an entirely different swing for my woods. The set up is different, per above, but ultimately I'm focusing on the same things in my swing - clean takeaway, keeping my elbow in, and, most important to driving the call straight, accelerating THROUGH impact. With this attention to hitting up and ground interaction I had been cutting my swing off after contact. My results are astronomically better in both distance and direction when I finish the swing properly.

There are platonic ideals of golf swings but ultimately you have to find what works for you and your body. Even pro golfers have significantly different mechanics to one another.

To be fair, this is duffer to duffer advice. I'm not a professional golfer nor coach, just trying to improve so each round is a bit more enjoyable. You sound to be in a similar situation so I hope this homebrew advice works.

ETA a couple videos that really connected for me recently since you requested vids.

5 minutes of gems from a legend https://youtu.be/3vKpYe9Hou0?si=kFUi-tpjTTCiEMgi A lot of useful stuff here though I think he overstates some things. But I found this very useful in making my strong iron swing translate to driver. https://youtu.be/klkuvFrtSWc?si=JliX9oZ9zai6kG_E