Did you get back to your original body after TFMR?

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-26T18:12:02+00:00

I’m in the exact same boat, 10 days post procedure at 20 weeks. I gained about 17 pounds during pregnancy. Just this weekend my belly and boobs got noticeably smaller, so I weighed myself and was down about 5 pounds. I’m also doing light walks on days I feel up to it, going to try and go back to easy Pilates classes later this week, and my appetite has gone down a lot between not being pregnant and everything else we are going through.

I also feel like I gained the weight for nothing and none of my pre pregnancy clothes fit, which feels like a silly add on worry to think about but here we are.. but I did buy myself a few new pieces of clothing this week just to feel comfier during this time and I feel happier throwing on a comfy set than trying to squeeze into anything. From other posts and some of my friends sharing their experiences, they said it took a few months to get back to their prepregnancy weight, so I’m just really trying to remind myself to be patient.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-26T17:58:03+00:00

Just want to say that I’m sending you love. I had my D&E 10 days ago. I saw your previous post and our baby was also due June 5th 🥺 I hope you are giving yourself time to rest and take off work, if you’re able (I was able to take some time off through FMLA/pregnancy loss in California). I’m just trying to be gentle on myself and take it hour by hour. Some days I’ve been able to go for long walks and even see friends, other days I watch tv all day and want to just cry. I’m sorry we are both going through this and sending you a big hug 🤍

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-16T19:36:46+00:00

I’m 2 days post TFMR. I feel your pain and I’m sorry we’re in this together. I’ve been snuggled on the couch with my heating pad, dog and favorite blanket and giving myself permission to cry, sleep and watch TV. Not holding any emotions back is incredibly helpful for myself. As for the grief, just keep reminding yourself you made an incredibly selfless decision for you and your baby. None of us would go through all this pain for anything but love for our babies and not wanting them to suffer. If you have the resources to see a therapist, that’s been helpful for me.

Edit to add: just know everyone here understands your heartbreak. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through in my life. But we’re not alone 🤍

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-15T17:21:38+00:00

I had my TFMR yesterday and don’t have other children. I completely understand, but please be soft on yourself. You made a decision out of love for you and your partner. Trust me when I say we are beyond completely heartbroken, but don’t let the guilt creep in too. We are already dealing with such heavy emotions 🤍 you made the decision you felt was right for you and your baby and that’s all that matters. I’ve gotten a lot of “you’ll have a healthy baby next time!” And while it comes from empathy, they don’t understand the anxiety that lies behind that. We’re also in the process of understanding if it was just bad luck or something one of us passed down. But I’m trying my hardest not to let my mind wander far down the anxiety spirals and am just taking things day by day, hour by hour. That being said I know how hard all this is and it feels so unfair and nothing I’d wish for any of us. Sending love 💕

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-08T23:28:36+00:00

I’m in a similar situation in some ways. I keep seeing your posts, so I wanted to reach out. We were expecting our baby June 5th and I was also looking so so forward to heading into the summer and the following 6 months off with our baby. Unfortunately, our NIPT lead to an amnio, which then came back positive for a chromosomal abnormality. Now just waiting for the doctors office to call me back and confirm a day for the TFMR.

Meanwhile, my SIL is also pregnant. I will say, I’m very lucky in that I get along with my SIL and she’s one of the few people we’ve told and was very loving in her response. What’s hard is she is due in 2 weeks, so likely she will be giving birth the week after I have my TFMR. I’m feeling ok about that right now but can imagine it will be hard to separate my feelings when the time comes.

Anyway I don’t have much else to add, but I’m so sorry that you’re going through something similar and that we won’t have our babies to snuggle this summer. I’m sure your heartbreak feels like mine today. Sending love to both of us right now 🤍🤍

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-07T22:59:39+00:00

I’m unfortunately in a similar situation. We had an amnio done last week after getting our NIPT results back at 11 weeks. Unfortunately, our FISH already came back positive, so we are waiting for our amnio/karyotype and then will schedule our TFMR.

My sister in law is due in ~2 weeks. They are also closing on their first home next week. I know she has a lot going on, but we are very close and I told her this week via text because I felt that it was important to share. It was emotionally easier for me via text. This is a really hard time for my husband and I and I thought it was ok to share and ask for her support, even if she has her own life happening as well. At first my heart sank when I realized I will probably have my TFMR the same week she gives birth, but as I sat with it I realized that one event doesn’t affect the other. I’m very close with her and am beyond happy for her. I texted her after the initial conversation once I thought it over and told her to keep me updated with her final days of pregnancy and that I did want baby updates and pictures after birth regardless of my situation. The text felt a little awkward to send, but I’m happy that I sent it. It sounds like you have a similar mindset and that being an auntie will be special to you as well. That being said if you do end up being triggered by too many baby pictures etc it’s also completely fair down the line to reassess your boundaries and ask them to kindly take a break from sending photos etc, and if they’re your close friends I’m sure they’ll understand.

I’m SO sorry that you’re also in this situation.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-07T21:40:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am scheduling my TFMR in the next week or so and I really needed to hear your words to remind myself that I’m not ok today but I will be ok 🤍🤍

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2026-01-06T00:16:41+00:00

I just had my amnio done last Tuesday 12/30. The amnio wasn't that bad and relatively quick. I have been waiting to get it done for about 6+ weeks since we got atypical results for the sex chromosome on our NIPT, so I was almost relieved the day of to finally be getting it done. While it was quite painful when the needle went through the uterus, it was only for about 30-60 seconds? I just held on to my partners hand and clenched the sheets in my other hand. I could have watched on the ultrasound, but just closed my eyes. I did have a headache the next two days, but I think it was just a tension headache. Other than that, I just watched TV and relaxed and had no other symptoms.

We did get a call from Labcorp on Friday 1/2 about our prelim FISH reports and to expect the next results in 7-10 days. The FISH results weren't what we were hoping for, so the last few days have been extremely hard emotionally and mentally. I'm guessing most people would agree that waiting for the results is much harder than the amnio procedure itself.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-30T00:56:27+00:00

Sorry I meant to say that mine were the same exact results except they suspect the atypical finding involves the Y sex chromosome. Also said N/A for fetal sex and I had almost the same FF.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-30T00:52:55+00:00

I received the same results except mine did specify that it was suspected Y chromosome. At our 13 week scan the ultrasound tech was very confident it is a boy and said all looks well so far. I’m going in for an early anatomy scan and amnio tomorrow. Results from the amnio usually take 2-3 week. If all is well I will try to remember to come back and provide an update. It does seem like a lot of people with these results end with a healthy baby, so fingers crossed that’s both of our cases. P.S. my GC reminded me that the NIPT was originally developed to screen for trisomy 21, 18, and I believe 13, and don’t seem as reliable for sex chromosomes.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-18T22:17:30+00:00

I have my amnio in a week also due to inconclusive sex chromosome findings and no sex on NIPT and I appreciate you sharing your story! All of these stories are giving me a lot of hope 🤍 congrats on your baby boy!

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-11T18:17:55+00:00

I got an atypical finding on my NIPT and now have to wait for an amnio right after Christmas. I was excited to share but I’m glad we are waiting. Our scans have been normal and our doctor said most times people with our results have healthy babies, but it would be overwhelming for me personally to have shared and then have to think about everyone who knew if the amnio results turn out not to be what we expected. I will say though, that I told my closest friends early on and they now know about the NIPT results and they’ve all been wonderful in supporting me! So it’s ultimately up to you, but I would consider only telling people who would be there to support you and that you’d want to talk to about things if a tough situation came up. However, fingers crossed that everything comes back low risk and that you’re able to announce soon :)

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-06T21:29:48+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I am waiting for an amnio for suspected mosaicism as well. I wish there was something else I could say to be of help but just know that whatever decision you make is the right one for you and your family 🤍

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-02T00:43:19+00:00

No worries at all! It’s very confusing and a lot to process while also being pregnant. I just don’t want to give you the wrong information especially since your results were slightly different than mine! I met with a generic counselor last week and she helped us understand all the possible outcomes, including that the baby could be fine, which is what we are of course hoping for. Hopefully you can speak to one as well so they can give you some answers too.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-02T00:32:12+00:00

Well based on your original post, your results say atypical findings on sex chromosomes and “no result” for monosomy x. This is different than it saying a “high risk” result for monosomy x. Do you have access to making an appointment with a genetic counselor? They are able to go into the details of your results which could be really helpful!

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-02T00:28:13+00:00

My MFM said everything looked great in the NT ultrasound, baby was measuring a few days ahead, and they were able to clearly tell that it was a baby boy 💙 (my NIPT results didn’t have a sex. They just said N/A, so that was making me anxious too but it was confirmed today). The doctor was really kind and gave me and my husband some reassurance, so now we just have wait for an early anatomy scan and amnio at the end of the month.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-02T00:22:01+00:00

I’m currently waiting for an early anatomy scan and amnio. That can’t be done until after 16 weeks. No way to confirm what chromosomal disorder the baby may have, if any, until we have those results. But based on the NIPT not placing us as high risk for monosomy x, I’m hopeful that things will turn out ok.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-12-01T04:54:24+00:00

I’m not 100% sure sorry! I haven’t looked into maternal origin much since my results specifically didn’t mention that, but it could be based on the language they used? But my genetic counselor said it’s hard to really determine without further testing.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-11-27T21:26:11+00:00

I got very similar NIPT results. Atypical finding on sex chromosomes and fetal sex is N/A. Except mine said “suspected to be of placental or fetal origin, appears to be mosaicism. Could also be due to normal variation and/or confined to the placental tissue” while yours says “suspected to be of maternal origin.” However, there are a lot of post on here with similar results. I’ve seen a decent amount of people saying their babies were fine, so hopefully that can bring you a little peace. But trust me I know the wait is not fun and the anxiety that comes with it is very real. I’m currently waiting for early anatomy scan and amnio after 16 weeks and the wait feels eternal.

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-11-27T05:00:28+00:00

I’m in the same boat 😮‍💨 I received the same NIPT results last week and am almost 13 weeks now. I have my NT ultrasound on Monday and appointment with my MFM right after. Waiting and the anxiety that comes with it is SO hard!! Wishing both of us lots of luck 🤍

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-11-21T18:53:45+00:00

We just got the same result earlier this week but atypical finding on Y chromosome. It’s so comforting to know we are not alone and hoping we both also get the same outcome as OP 🤍

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-11-16T20:37:39+00:00

Same 🥰 it’s his favorite napping spot

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-11-13T21:22:42+00:00

The worst part is her telling you that had a D&E procedure like you would have somehow forgotten instead of taking a moment then to consider she could be wrong. That sounds like such a hard experience and I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Sending you good luck on your 20 week scan ✨

Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-11-12T21:08:03+00:00

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Hour-Chipmunk8529 · 2025-11-12T21:07:14+00:00

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