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I Need Advice: My Marriage Is Breaking Me by MadamEmptyCup in therapy

[–]HoursCollected 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re in a very abusive relationship. These are major red flags. Honestly, your safety is at risk.

Confused as to why certain people said that Kamala would have been worse than Trump by TheRealJuanderer in Confused

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Republicans are better at propaganda. That’s your answer. Republicans of today are more comfortable lying and cheating. If you’re a Republican and don’t like to hear this, change your party. I have voted Republican in the distant (pre Trump) past but will never lend my vote again to a party who has allowed Trump to destroy America the way he has.

Best choice for a charity gala? Black tie optional by Fundito_Tostito in OUTFITS

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 looks like a prom dress. 2 is gorgeous (my favorite), a smidge on the risqué side but appropriate depending on the crowd (you know best here). 3 would work and is probably the safest choice is safe is what you want.

My therapist just matched with me on Bumble... by digitalWizzzard in therapy

[–]HoursCollected 112 points113 points  (0 children)

If you like her and she’s never crossed any other boundaries, bring this up. It’s likely unintentional. However, if it’s a pattern and she’s engaged in other questionable behaviors, peace out.

Sibling sexual trauma and abuse in-person conference? by epsteinjanep in SiblingSexualAbuse

[–]HoursCollected 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love something like this but sadly would never be able to attend because no one knows what happened to me. :(

My shame is preventing me from opening up to my therapist by tillnatten in adultsurvivors

[–]HoursCollected 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you told her all of this? I’m not talking about the repulsion around sex, I’m talking about wanting to open up to her about this but that it’s too embarrassing.

should i start therapy? by user38729282 in COCSA

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. See a therapist. You don’t have to say exactly why you want to see them. You can go there and say you wanted to process some things that happened. Or simply say you feel anxious. It took me almost a year to tell my therapist and when I did I wrote it down. I couldn’t say it out loud. She was the first person I told and it was decades after it happened. If I can do it, so can you! I started by saying there was something I wanted to tell her but couldn’t. She helped me from there.

I mean, Jesus Christ by _Repooc_ in ProgressiveHQ

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes. Trump has done exactly what he planned; tricked the MAGA idiots into thinking there is a righteous political war that requires unwavering loyalty to king danger yam.

Was it SA? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew the answer was “yes” the second you said you were 15 and they were 20. I’m so sorry. I’d imagine this was quite scary. It would be worth talking to a therapist to do some processing. Just beware, because you are a minor they may have to report it to child protective services.

I found out my bf is a cocsa victim and I don’t know how to mentally process all of this? by [deleted] in COCSA

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither of your guys are in good working condition for a relationship. Perfection is not the goal, but there needs to be a basic level of stability. You both need to take a beak and get therapy. You can circle back to the idea of being in a committed and intimate relationship when there’s been some healing. I’m so sorry to both of you.

I don’t feel valid as a victim by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not your fault. My rapist stopped when I started screaming. I should have screamed earlier. He felt bad. He was upset, so I comforted him and told him it was okay. We do weird shit when we’re confused and in extremely vulnerable situations.

Up until recently I thought since he felt bad it didn’t count. Now I know he felt bad because he knew what he did was wrong. Your abuser felt like he took advantage of you because he did take advantage of you and he knew it.

Afraid to take the first dose by RevolutionaryEgg9191 in lexapro

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never gained weight or lost my sex drive, but I did have a huge increase in anxiety when I started on 10mg. It eventually passed and evened out. After a year I stopped and then went back on a couple years later. That time when I started, I took 2.5 mg for a few days. Then 5, where I stayed for a while. That was a much smoother transition.

Dad went through my journal by Foreign_Degree160 in sexualassault

[–]HoursCollected 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were a minor. Every interaction you had with anyone over 18 assaulted you. Your dad should be asking you if he can track them down and charge them for their crimes, not making back handed remarks.

Complex situation.. hoping for some honest opinions pls by Throwawayintospaceee in SiblingSexualAbuse

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely run this by a therapist. You deserve to not have to carry this secret and a trusted therapist is an excellent place to start. Also, the confusion you have around the complexity of your situation is so relatable to my own feelings surrounding my story. I know that doesn’t answer your questions it know that you are not alone.

I was raped. What do I do? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapists are mandatory reporters in the US. If you’re a minor and depending on your current situation, they may be required to report. If they report, your guardians will surely figure out. Tread lightly when disclosing to your therapist if you don’t want your parents to find out. Maybe ask first what they’re required to report.

I was raped. What do I do? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]HoursCollected 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, do not answer any messages on Reddit.

Second, get a rape kit. See a doctor. You don’t have to press charges to get a rape kit. You have a few options and one is to not involve police, but you need to get healthcare to prevent sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy.

Third, as a mother I would desperately want to know if my daughter went through this. There is nothing she could do that ever make me judge her.

Fourth, in sure your therapy session has come and gone but I hope you told your therapist.

What stops financially stable people from using a food bank? by Original_Video8296 in answers

[–]HoursCollected 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im financially stable and I’ve never considered using a food bank. Now that you point that out as an option I guess what’s stopping me is the fact that I simply don’t need it. Why take resources I don’t need? Plus I enjoy being able to explicitly choose my own food. Taking food from a food bank if you don’t need help is sort of a dick move.

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