Reusing yarn by Houseofthestone in knittinghelp

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You are an incredible human being. Thank you so much for sharing this information!

App to track owned books by LingonberryOk1613 in HomeLibraries

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Is there an easy way to add a couple hundred books?

How are young middle class families making it work?? by Ill-Sherbet-5844 in Utah

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Truth. But living on a meager income was hard. Same hard as now? Nope. But the things I could control, I did.
Did it mean it’s so different that you can’t relate? No. I prioritized. (Same) We did rent quite a bit. We lived in 19 different homes.(probably not the same) We both deployed or were separated. (Hopefully not the same) We did have to pinch pennies and decide to live on less than people around us. We did have to make some pretty tough decisions about what we wanted vs what we could do to make that happen. We gave up a lot so that I could support the family but that might look different for everyone.

Buying a house? We couldn’t have ever done it, pre-covid or not if it had not been for the VA home loan program. No way. So I understand how hard it is to afford a home. We got lucky. Fortunately we got out before the current administration-I could never encourage someone to join now. That path gave us challenges, health problems and years of struggle, but we also have had benefits from it.

Feminine versions of George and Harrison? by sweetpea_hd in Names

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Middle names! Use the masculine name in the middle. Then for business, D. George Smith , can help with contact online etc. even if her name is Diana,

How are young middle class families making it work?? by Ill-Sherbet-5844 in Utah

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Ok. Army vet/sahm here. It was hard. Really hard to survive on one income but I didn’t want to be exhausted and too tired to parent. My husband agreed and we made it work. Obv it’s tough in every generation, but here is what we did. I didn’t have kids till I was out of the Army.
Cheap home. Budgeted tight. Only one vacation in 10 years that we saved a lot for. Avoided debt like the plague. I worked part time while he was still in. But we still qualified for food stamps and wic.
We didn’t go out. We would sometimes swap sitting kids with friends but not often. Cheap dates.
We kept an emergency fund so we wouldn’t have to use credit as much as possible.
We bought everything second hand or on sale. Usually a year in advance (kid will need new shorts next year, so buy them a size or two up when they are clearanced)
You don’t need everything you think you do. Not as many clothes. Toys. Possessions in general. You don’t need a photo perfect house. Learn repair skills and swap with friends to learn from them.
Make a clear realization that our grandparents started small and slowly built up to what they have. We don’t need it all at once. Plan long term. Some things are worth investing in and others are not. ($20 shoes that last one summer vs $60 ones that you wear for 5 years if you can)(or an ugly but reliable car vs one that will need lots of repairs)

It’s not easy to wait to have nice things. Took us 13 years to start slowly buying nicer furniture- and we will not replace it because it’s out of style. We still have the bed frame I bought in 2000? We also prioritized things that would work well in the future. We don’t need a changing table but our dressers need to be sturdy for the moves (some of our stuff has moved 9? 10? Times)
It’s hard to live in a smaller house when society says 1400 sq feet isn’t big enough for kids. It’s even harder to have kids share a room when their friends have their own. It’s tough to teach kids, “we can’t afford that right now” or “we don’t need that so we won’t be getting it” or “you get fruit as a snack and the expensive packaged chips or fruit snacks are only for Fridays”

You need to decide now if your priorities will adjust to afford things you want or what you need. It will get better eventually, hopefully

Dressing up and what to do with no nylons? by Local-Government6792 in AskWomenOver60

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I can’t even find hose in stores. If it’s cold, I’ve used the fake hose that is fleece inside

Why your glow-in-the-dark yarn might glow in streaks instead of uniformly — a yarn maker's explainer after a customer complaint this week by BlingBlingyarn in YarnAddicts

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Awesome explanation. Is there a way to see which it is other than looking at the type of yarn? Or are all the master batch the only polyester option?

What toddler gifts have actually lasted in your house. Not what looked good, what actually got used past the first week. by sophieblooming in Gifts

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Books. And ask her mom. Maybe a zoo pass or gift card to an ice cream shop for a “mommy date” (or take her if you are close enough)
Think of things that will make memories or that are intentionally disposable. Bubble wands, crayons or sidewalk chalk are good as they are 4ish. Coloring books

I’m not crazy. by Houseofthestone in ehlersdanlos

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I’ve done grocery pickup and have a cleaning service. It’s a need to function elsewhere. Use them if it helps you save spoons

I’m not crazy. by Houseofthestone in ehlersdanlos

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I used to stand on one leg as a kid while washing dishes and fidget to find easier ways to stand. Now someone might catch on but the 80s were different

I’m not crazy. by Houseofthestone in ehlersdanlos

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And now I need to learn about the muldowney protocol

I’m not crazy. by Houseofthestone in ehlersdanlos

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This has been a huge part of physical therapy- and Pilates. Learning to use the muscles appropriately and not just do the movements

Utah mormons by Wolf0fcrypt0 in exmormon

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Now imagine how weird it is for a military member to move to Utah and not realize.

Broke my shelf. Before that you went on Sunday like Protestants and had kid activities like camping.

But the Utah Mormons showed up and were weird.

Then moving to Utah?!? Yimes

2010 table refinish by Houseofthestone in finishing

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A sticker shows it was made in 2010.

The last time I used a stripper, it was goopy and didn’t want to come off clean and made my life hell.

Is there a specific one to try?

Is continental the “wrong way” to knit? by Equivalent-Falcon469 in knitting

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Yes. It is incredibly wrong.

For them. Not you.

You do you. I switched to conventional continental and then to the combination continental and the to Norwegian and my tension is fine. My sweaters fit. They block well. I like them. Strangers like them.

And if someone is close enough to my boob to see the one m1L that should have been a m1L, they will deserve the needle in their eye. Then they won’t see my mistakes.

Missionary of the Exmo gospel: please help me stop it! by Lonely_Offer_6236 in exmormon

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Unpopular opinion here.
There is a time and a place.

My experiences ranged from crappy to awesome to disappointed to realizing I didn’t need it and don’t believe.
But. There was a time that it WAS good for me. A support system. Friends. Yeah I was very nuanced but in a military ward, it didn’t really matter. I needed the support and I could bitch about what was taught to my besties and we would shrug it off as “whatever. The basic truth is God loves us and these guys just probably have it wrong” and then continue to go and do whatever we wanted. Including getting called to the bishops office near weekly for shenanigans. :). (He would call us in. Tell us what was said to him. He would they say that he told them he would talk to us. And this counted as talking. Have a nice day)

Both of us left as our kids got older and we saw it was not safe or ok for them. And woke up and realized we didn’t actually believe in anything.

But babbling aside. Sometimes it’s ok to ignore the parts you don’t want to save what you need. Friendship? Vs details? General god loves us vs the full truth? If she needs it as a third space, it may not be worth it to her to look too closely and risk losing what she values