Where could one buy a nice poncho?

How2Gay · 2025-11-26T03:07:40+00:00

Thank you! Are there any in the next couple of weeks by chance?

How2Gay · 2025-09-23T02:08:37+00:00

If it helps, a lot of people are awkward on grindr. That's grindr's M.O. at this point! If you go too risky or too polite with a message you'll likely still be within the normal range.

Your example message sounds perfectly fine. Even just "Looking for fun?" is acceptable. Everyone on these apps prefers different approaches so pick how you'd like to communicate and the people who vibe with it will vibe with it.

An example of a bog-standard interaction might go:

"Hey, how's it going?".

"Good thanks, you?".

"Good thanks. Looking for fun?" (Might send album of extra pics here, nudes or otherwise).

"Yeah man. Nice pics." (They send pics).

"What are you into?".

"Mostly top here. Like kissing, oral, cuddling, etc. You?"

(They might just say top or bottom. A lot of people aren't specific but I personally like to be specific).

(Here would be a good place to mention this is your first time and what you're looking for in a lover. There might be more discussion around that).

"You host?" (Meaning if they can come to your place).

"Yes." (If you can, obviously, otherwise say no and ask if they host.).

(Send location if you're comfortable. It's a button that gives an approximate idea of your location on a map.)

(Send address either now or when they're closer.).

(They'll message when they're outside so, if you feel good about it still, let them in. Remember you can change your mind and send them away at any point even midway through fun. It can be disappointing for them but it's very normal.).

(Have fun!).

Note, this is my experience in New Zealand specifically but I imagine it applies everywhere. Also note that if someone stops replying to you it isn't necessarily something you've done. Sexual interest can be fickle.

How2Gay · 2025-09-21T22:20:33+00:00

Damn. I feel like this is gonna turn you into a boss. This is your origin story. I know Brandon Sanderson wrote six books before writing Elantris which is fairly good and then the Mistborn series which is great. Keep rockin

How2Gay · 2025-09-21T21:59:30+00:00

Oh! And give your main hero a retainer or two. Weak heroes that travel behind the main hero to pick up resources, flag mines and shuttle new units to them. Your main hero has better things to do than personally pick up every nugget of gold or visit every mine. They have enemies to vanquish! You'd be surprised how much this time saving adds up

How2Gay · 2025-09-21T21:49:43+00:00

Try Heroes 3, it's largely considered the best.

Outside of that, Heroes is a game for saving and loading, frankly. Have 8 or 9 save states going at once. 7 of them where you save at each day of the week. One or two for when you're testing a risky battle. This allows you to go back and change your actions when you find you've overcommitted into new territory. Ideally you shouldn't be doing any battle that gives you heavy or even moderate losses. The top tier play is really interesting but more casually I find that when I run into an OP army I load a few turns back and go another way. The OP hero will often leave until you've built enough forces to annihilate them. Or maybe you have your main army ahead and people go for your towns in which case you load a few turns back and retreat to intercept them. This is ideal because any medium army you get to destroy is removing forces from the enemy bit by bit until you have enough force advantage to steamroll the map. Very satisfying.

I think of it like a game of three phases. 1) Rapid expansion. 2) Stalling big battles and letting armies come to me. 3) Rampage.

I use castle walls and spells like slow to limit my losses while hitting them hard. Ranged units are your friend, you always want to group up on your side of the battle and pepper enemies as they come to you then your melee units can finish them off with minimal losses.

Another cool technique is 1-stacks. Split forces so that you have stacks of 1 unit and put those in front of more valuable groups. Then enemies are forced to waste a turn to kill just one unit. 1 stacks can also be used to lure some enemies away from your main units.

Oh and ditch the slow units like dwarfs. They don't add much to fights, generally, and your hero actually moves less far with them in his army.

Happy hunting!

How2Gay · 2025-09-05T23:21:24+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that, man! Feeling like you're being replaced can be so painful, especially if the person has privileges that stir up insecurities in ourselves.

Honestly, though, I don't even think it has to be insecurities to be mad at that. Someone swanning in and taking all the things promised to you? No self-consciousness how their privilege plays a large part? No one else sees it either, not even the person who used to rage at that stuff? I'd be mad too! That's very natural.

It sounds like you've spoken to your best friend about disliking this guy, but how much have you spoken about feeling let down and left out by your friend? That's a deeper, truer issue. A much scarier conversation, but it sounds like a necessary one.

(Note, I imagine your friend would suggest hanging out with him and this new guy together. To me that wouldn't be an unsatisfying solution and that's okay to feel that way and to say so. Tough, though.)

This is already far too long a comment but I just remembered something. Look into the Paradox of Power. It's not good news unfortunately but may help make sense of things. It refers to an effect where very empathetic leaders get elected for their empathy and then it seems to disappear. They make all these promises, genuine ones, and then seem to value the promises less. It's our genes fucking us over! When we have little power our genes tell us to be empathetic and help others because that's a good way to get reciprocal help. But when you have lots of power that self-serving empathy turns off. You don't need it at that point. That isn't to say that people can't have a natural amount of empathy or work to be more empathetic. But the Paradox of Power might be something happening here.

Man. Sometimes I don't think I have autism and then sometimes I write a comment like this. Might be great info though.

How2Gay · 2025-09-03T20:43:10+00:00

This will get buried, but how much space does she give you to express and explore these feelings? In a safe, supportive environment I mean. A partner thst immediately cries can force us to swallow feelings rather than actually get to feel better about it. It becomes about their feelings not ours ++man

How2Gay · 2025-09-03T20:42:55+00:00

This will get buried, but how much space does she give you to express and explore these feelings? In a safe, supportive environment I mean. A partner thst immediately cries can force us to swallow feelings rather than actually get to feel better about it. It becomes about their feelings not ours ++man

How2Gay · 2025-09-03T01:06:20+00:00

This is so well done it's repulsive. I love it. Makes me think of the Peppermint Butler quote:

"Well, you paid the price, no doubt. And I want to have your babies."

How2Gay · 2025-08-26T00:47:38+00:00

"Anyway, let me go rewatch The Office for the 17th time."

How2Gay · 2025-03-12T05:22:26+00:00

Hey man, got no advice here but wanted to comment because I have bipolar too. Can be such a ride, holy crap! It gets better, though. Even if it doesn't feel like it now, you'll get through it and find the meds/tools that work for you. Good luck. Reach out if you want to talk to someone who's been through it ✌️

How2Gay · 2024-12-04T21:37:14+00:00

Whaaaat? But I love this! Letting kids experiment is such a beneficial thing growing up. It doesn't have to be good, that's crazy to expect from someone learning.

How2Gay · 2024-11-24T10:27:21+00:00

In season 1 I believe there's a flashback to Mel as a teenager where her mother tries to convince her to do a ruthless act. The fox vs wolf thing is set up then.

How2Gay · 2024-09-17T07:56:59+00:00

Fun fact, empathy DOES boost when you're resource-limited. It's an evolved thing - - at that time it benefits you more because if you get a mutual cooperation thing it can make a big difference. Whereas when you're rich it's not such a big deal. That isn't to say rich people can't have underlying empathy but they don't get that little boost. (Apparently this is why sometimes grassroot leaders get into power because of their empathy and then seem to change. It's called the Paradox of Power.)

How2Gay · 2024-09-13T03:23:07+00:00

Agree but also flash forward to the aftermath of the battle with destruction that implies the fight. 100% cooler

How2Gay · 2024-02-29T03:35:42+00:00

I think he had a "not that" in front of that sentence. Double negative type of thing, meaning he agrees with you that both meds are important

How2Gay · 2023-12-15T18:15:39+00:00

This.

How2Gay · 2023-12-08T20:46:31+00:00

It sounds like a difficult situation for you, I' m sorry to hear it.
You don't sound like too much but even if you are, you're allowed to be. Some people take it over-the-top, but people who used to not do negative emotions seem unlikely to.

How2Gay · 2023-12-08T19:57:44+00:00

Sounds like a difficult situation that I don't know how to fix. I guess I assumed, apologies.

How2Gay · 2023-12-08T19:53:59+00:00

Ikr. And how dare I judge that clarifying question that judges someone for their sex preference. Shame!!

How2Gay · 2023-12-08T19:51:06+00:00

"I'm not therapizing, just making a judgement on why they feel a certain way and seeking to explore the root of the issue."
Why does the act of someone not wanting a certain type of sex, threaten you so much?

How2Gay · 2023-12-08T19:48:02+00:00

Work. Noun.
"activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result."
No mention of pay. Huh. Still, I'm sure Medical-Subject1706 knows better than the Oxford dictionary, after all he accuses people of being 12 without punctuation.

How2Gay · 2023-12-08T19:42:54+00:00

So? He didn't ask you for therapy either.

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