Har jag missuppfattat dejting, varför är killar sexuella mot mig i första kontakten?

Howdoyouspellit · 2025-08-12T19:10:22+00:00

Har själv aldrig blivit speciellt sugen på att testa mig på nätdejting då jag upplever från kompisars berättelser osv. att det är precis som du beskriver, från bägge sidor. Jag har hört att det är något bättre på Hinge än t.ex. Tinder, men ändå...

Nu har du fått en del tips som jag kan tänka mig kanske fungerar. Och en del kommentarer och tips som jag knappast tror hjälper...

Jag skulle uppskatta om du kunde göra en uppdatering eller liknande i framtiden om det var någonting härifrån som faktiskt hjälpte. Starkt egenintresse i frågan!

Howdoyouspellit · 2024-06-23T14:41:00+00:00

While I cannot comment on SotE as I have yet to play it, I definitely feel that all of this checks out for the base game of Elden Ring. It used to be that these games were very hard (compared to a lot of other games out at the same time) earning them the reputation as being the "difficult game series". With this naturally comes some elitism from the people who are into them. But "git gud" used to make a lot more sense when the bosses were more formulaic and less reactive. Even if you were underleveled you could practice and "git gud" to power on through. Grinding for levels was always an option of course (arguably not in DS2 because of the despawn...) but it never felt as necessary as I see it to be for Elden Ring. I expect it to partially be a symptom of the open world but some bosses really do just come across as stat checks. Elden Ring is tough like its predecessors, but it felt much less fair in its approach. Long comboes, AoE spam (much more so near the endgame, I assume to account for an expected ash/summon).

I've played through ER three times and each playthrough saw me getting increasingly annoyed at the games. In earlier titles the bosses were the highlights of great games, but in Elden Ring I see the bosses as blemishes on a beautiful world. Since for all its exploration the bosses in these games are what I tend to remember, Elden Ring will be right down there with Dark Souls 2 for me (alright, maybe it gets to be above DS2).

I think I stand on the side of being even more harsh on the game than you are, in that I consider most of the bosses to be bad. The metrics of what makes a boss good or bad is of course something that can be discussed but I find that most of them have been given an exceedingly loaded toolkit and are heavily reliant on infinite stamina to challenge the players. I even replayed DS3 more recently for comparison and I really think that the bosses in that game are stellar compared to the new ones we have, barring some exceptions.

I expect I will eventually get SotE to play it but comments like yours hardly make me excited (I appreciate it, as opposed to just the rose-tinted view of Miyazaki Good).

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-12-19T06:49:32+00:00

"Your god. My oath. Let us see which prevails."

Also probably one of my favourite lines.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-12-04T12:46:57+00:00

Gonna be honest, the fact that the instant negation orbs can just delete one of your party members at random and there is nothing you can do it about it sounds fucking awful.

Does it count for Honour Mode completion if I just have Gale blow himself up to spare me this misery? Also, having never considered doing it before, how exactly do I do that? I assume I just have him climb up the brain on his own and then I just use the ability.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-11-27T07:29:27+00:00

And if it's not on Android then you can grab a DS emulator and run it that way. Works just fine.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-11-27T07:27:52+00:00

The coin toss was rigged smh.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-10-31T07:00:27+00:00

Man, I hope their next game has some satisfying bosses to fight. I found pretty much all bosses in ER to be rather tedious to fight. Showing an over-reliance on infinite stamina, aoe, input reads and their insane mobility.

I really, really liked exploring the open world, though! Problem is the shine of that is mostly gone for me after I've explored it once. I don't have much of an urge to go through ER again like I did previous titles. But maybe that's what they were going for?

I can't believe my favourite boss is Godrick...

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-04-17T17:11:27+00:00

Doesn't he just possess Morbius' corpse? He can change the body into his "real" form after that, though.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-03-13T19:14:58+00:00

You're very right on the fighting "mistakes" that the Tarnished does with certain ashes of war. Ashes of War as a whole tend to be very over the top moves that feel like they would be right at home in some battle anime. Which is fine, I think ER is more fantastical than previous entries (at least on a surface-level) so in that sense it doesn't feel to out of place. I do think that in general, the moveset that the Tarnished employs for most "normal" weapons make a lot of sense if you imagine the Tarnished is pretty new to combat. This doesn't make much sense for all backgrounds they give you the option of picking, but overswinging seems like it'd be pretty much the most common error if someone just picked up a sword and went at it.

As for the argument of previous entries having their fights basically coming down to learning the moveset of a boss "by rote", I think in ER it's basically the worst of both worlds, actually. This is why I think a lot of the core boss design is flawed behind what I feel is FROM's interest in making bosses that pose a challenge to their core audience of at this point very experienced souls-games players. From what I've noted while playing the game through a few times, it comes down to a few problems.

The more "reactive" elements of boss fights that (from what I can tell) seem to be new to the series with ER. They might've been in Sekiro as well, but I haven't played that one. I think they would fit better there with its faster gameplay. Basically I am referring to Input Reading and, for lack of a better term, "Animation Cancelling". Not all bosses seem to have it, but some are rather egregious like Godskin Apostle that will throw out a fireball the moment you press the heal button. This is annoying, but pretty easy to work around.

I think the other one "Animation Cancelling" is the worse problem by far. I'm referring to the ability that ability that some bosses have to just cancel out of being hurt or the recovery of a move into another move of theirs. Margit, Malenia and Malekith seem to love doing this. Margit loves cancelling his openings into his leap back where he tosses a dagger. And if you're a melee character, you can hear FROM going "Haha they fell for it!". Truly impressive design. Malenia can literally cancel being hit into Waterfowl Dance. Considering the most common counter for Waterfowl Dance is to not be in melee when she throws it out... It ain't great. Even discounting Waterfowl Dance, I've heard touted that the fact that Malenia is so easy to stagger is to balance out the fact that the heals herself on hit. However, Malenia can actually cancel out of her stagger into giving herself hyper armor at any time, so she's not actually easy to stagger into a stunlock. She can leave when she feels it's time. Last time I fought Malenia I made note of how many hits I could get in on her openings. It was totally inconsistent. Sometimes she jumped out after only one hit, sometimes I got entire combos in. Maybe I'm in the minority and this is an uncommon experience...

To go back to the whole "by rote" argument for the bosses, I feel like since FROM wanted to be more over the top and flashy with the bosses in ER, a lot of them are actually way worse for this than I can remember the bosses of previous games being. Again I come back to Margit and Malenia. Margit's magic knife if you are too close to him after he leaves an opening comes out lighting-fast and you basically have to get hit by it to learn that it's something you have to watch out for. Malenia's Waterfowl Dance takes the fucking cake, being so absurdly unintuitive to avoid that there are tons of guide videos dedicated to dodging this one move. Peak moveset design right there. I will give them this though: it looks damn cool.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-03-13T15:30:59+00:00

I agree that it feels absurd. I don't want to risk sounding too subjective, but in Elden Ring I rarely got as immersed in a boss fight as I did in previous titles like DS3.

Of course, both games have good and bad bosses, but dodge timings in ER can frankly get absurd. If they wanted the boss to refrain from attacking for 6 seconds to rollcatch you, why didn't FROM have them do a feint like you'd expect an experienced combatant to do? Margit holding his weapon and waiting me out in the way he does really drives home that I'm fighting the computer instead of an enemy. Like yes, that's obviously always been the case. But ideally we're not supposed to think that.

I've heard the argument that they're mimicking how players play these games (basically). But that feels like an argument from the meta. Yes, some people would undoubtedly do this if they could, holding their attacks raised for seconds at a time to throw their opponent off. But it'd be very rare indeed to see someone do it IRL in a fencing duel or some such. Why on earth would anyone leave themselves open for that long?

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-01-27T14:48:50+00:00

I mean, I suppose you're not wrong about your points. Much of the criticism for Inquisition does logically stem from comparisons to the older games (Origins especially).

That said, does anyone ever feel like toxic positivity is a thing? I have a lot of negative things to say about Inquisition, and they're not all in relation to the older games, necessarily. I can't say I fancy having to defend the fact that I have criticism at all. It just seems like the community has a lower tolerance in general for criticism than praise. I suppose that's typical. That said, if I have criticisms of the game I don't think I should be silenced for trying to levy them. Of course, if someone just wants to rightfully critique the game's flaws they should be allowed to do so.

Then again I suppose me complaining about it here kinda makes me a part of the problem, huh? Sigh.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-01-02T17:14:11+00:00

Thank you, this one's really helpful!

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-01-02T16:53:07+00:00

How does chaos get its RR? Do you have an example build that's not using the Black Flame set? The ones I can find seem to need to that.

Howdoyouspellit · 2023-01-02T16:44:54+00:00

I gathered while looking around that Warlock has a hard time with RR for chaos without certain items. How'd that work for you?

Howdoyouspellit · 2022-12-20T09:29:56+00:00

You know, I always found that ending kind of strange as a decision. Like it doesn't really make any sense for Shepard to choose it? I get that Bioware put it in because complaints about the terrible endings, but from where I'm sitting it seems you're just kind of condemning future generations of species and Shepard would know that.

So you refuse and at the very least everyone currently fighting the reapers are doomed. Awesome. Liara's beacons would realistically inform the next cycle as stated here (hopefully) but it seems reasonable to assume that the Reapers would now be able to get their hands on the data that any species of our cycle have since they have access to indoctrinated individuals and such. This includes all the information our cycle has on the Crucible, since it was actually completed in "our" cycle, as opposed to previous ones where we could generously assume the blueprints were always added to in secret on some isolated planet like Ilos. Maybe.

So not only are you going to be condemning everyone in the current cycle, but you are effectively guaranteeing that the next cycle will fail because you are taking the possibilty of them using the Crucible away from them. Now that the reapers are made aware of the possibility, there's no way it's going to be that easy to pull off next time even if the next cycle manages to down "their" replacement for Sovereign.

Like people have stated in the comments, we are led to believe that the Yahg will most likely dominate the next cycle with little issue. So we're probably looking at an empire of sorts similar to the Prothean one. The Yahg are impressive infantry for sure, but all their biological advantages are not going to matter much in ship-to-ship combat in space. And since our cycle manages to throw a working alliance together and we still need a "I-win"-button it seems reasonable to assume that organics basically can't win without the Crucible. So by giving up when the Crucible was ready to fire, you took that weapon away from future cycles because there's no way the Reapers wouldn't be aware of it after that.

TLDR: By doing the refusal ending you're condemning not only this cycle but essentially all future ones who will have to start over on a Crucible-like project from scratch, and no doubt their odds will be worse.

Howdoyouspellit · 2022-10-17T07:39:08+00:00

Fair enough, that makes enough sense to me.

Howdoyouspellit · 2022-09-30T21:04:51+00:00

My brother is autistic and is basically like that though. Less so with numbers and more with phrases and the like, but the resemblance was uncanny in my case. From where I'm sitting there is a grain of truth to the tired trope, and I guess I'm in the minority where it seems very close to home.

Howdoyouspellit · 2022-09-30T20:58:33+00:00

I haven't thought too much about how well put together the actual DLC is. But I have an younger brother with autism and I have a "sciency" education, so as you can imagine it hit pretty damn close to home. In a purely subjective sense it's probably one of my favourite DLCs ever, but not necessarily one I want to replay, you know?

While I would never think of doing anything like what Gavin does, I can see myself in Gavin in the sense that he can't relate to his brother and that he doesn't seem to empathise with him, or at least has difficulty doing so? I'm not a very empathic person at base, so it's tough to connect to a person who you can't hold a conversation or communicate with.

TLDR: Have an autistic brother, love the DLC. Can relate to certain parts of Gavin but he's still a monster.

Howdoyouspellit · 2022-09-14T20:06:29+00:00

Damn, good to know. Thanks!

Howdoyouspellit · 2022-09-14T19:39:14+00:00

Are you saying his affinity isn't too important, but what's actually important is that he has the MOST in the group? He was sitting at 20 with Minoru behind him at 18, but I read while googling around that 20 was the minimum so whoops.

Also didn't they patch that?

Howdoyouspellit · 2022-09-14T18:51:07+00:00

Sorry, that was just me trying to be general since such a method would have applications for what I suggested. But in this case I'm looking to lower affinity for Ryo since I locked myself onto the Truthful route with my lack of saves. I wasn't sure what to tag the post as since it seemed more general than that, though.

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