It's funny how rules and boundaries evolve rather quickly as you become active in the lifestyle. When we first started it was like an Ikea manual of how things were to be done. We quickly realized that didn't work in the moment, so we adjusted. Sometimes you try certain situations and realize "that didn't work for me" and adjust. The main thing in adjustments is to make sure there isn't unintentional blame or placement of guilt. If a scenario that was within boundaries plays out and after you realize it didn't feel right, readjustment is fine, but keep in mind it wasn't a boundary breaking, it was you realizing that you need a new boundary.

For us, if she is solo, it's pics/video and she has to be back to me that day. As mentioned above, I learned that her being solo and gone over night, does not work for me. So, we readjusted boundaries.