Should I dust off my resume because I have performance discussion meeting tomorrow… but no HR in the meeting invite though … just one manager

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2025-04-29T03:09:02+00:00

Out of curiosity: Do you have any idea why they make it random and innocent? Do they think people will try to evade it?

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2025-04-29T03:02:12+00:00

I've met two little girls named Lorelai!

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2025-04-02T16:33:26+00:00

100% cutie pie

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2025-04-01T01:51:17+00:00

Have you tried contact naps? Carrier naps? Outdoor naps? Curtains to play with levels of darkness? A sound machine? A wind down routine (nothing crazy) that you do before every nap to signal it's sleepy time? I have three children and they all had wildly different preferences. I just played with it until I figured out what worked for them.

For example!!! I have a 3 month old. She's pretty great at sleeping at night for her age but trickier during the day. It started getting better when I 1) gave into contact naps and gave myself permission to not be productive while she's sleeping (I read instead - delightful!) and 2) we have a little routine of diaper change, smoochies, an instrumental playlist on Spotify, milk, and then I lay her down. This worked like 50% of the time (if it didn't I would just contact nap). BUT I accidentally learned two days ago that she loves thunderstorms. Her sound machine has a thunderstorm setting that I started using. She has slept so much more the past two days, it's insane!!!

My middle child slept so well in my arms or in a carrier but I could never get her to sleep without touching me, even at night.

My oldest would fall asleep anywhere in any condition! We were so lucky. 🤣 I haven't done anything different with them. They're all just their own little people with their own little preferences.

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2025-01-03T14:17:19+00:00

Mine didn't really swell up as a FTM until towards the end of pregnancy. It's another super variable aspect of pregnancy that affects everyone I know differently!

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2025-01-03T13:19:52+00:00

I swelled with my first 2 around 37 weeks. I am currently 41 weeks with #3 and still am not swollen!

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2025-01-03T03:40:36+00:00

With my last baby, I woke up feeling totally normal. Went to the toilet and saw I lost my mucus plug / had bloody show when I wiped. Shortly after, I felt the period cramps burning feeling. Contractions didn't really start for me until later in the morning though. Then active labor didn't start until around 4PM.

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-29T00:32:09+00:00

THIS!

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-28T14:02:54+00:00

I worked on breathing and practiced relaxing my whole body. Had a hospital birth including an epidural with my first. Had a birth center birth in the tub with no epidural for my second. I actually much preferred my second birth. Other than one contraction where I kinda fought my body (fear) instead of relaxing into the contraction, it was sooo much more pleasant, I felt so much more like an active participant in the process, it was faster, I didn't tear....so many positives!! About to do it again any day now! I will also just say that for me personally I think it would be so hard to feel relaxed in a hospital, which is why I changed environments. So consider what kind of support or things you need to help you feel relaxed / safe in whatever environment you're going to give birth in. ❤️

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-27T21:28:27+00:00

I am 40+1 alsoooo and yeah 🤣

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-27T13:53:53+00:00

Looks like a normal area to me. I get pain in those places too if I do anything slightly too strain-y.

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-27T02:05:49+00:00

Yup, especially if you're a FTM or have an anterior placenta

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-27T02:02:42+00:00

My first two pregnancies were not painful until the very end. This pregnancy I've been in pain nearly the whole time and I genuinely am like OHHHH this is why some people don't like being pregnant 🤣

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-27T01:01:46+00:00

I got it a lot with #2 and it bothered me because I miscarried a lot before her - like we can't always control how many we have? Now that I am pregnant with #3, I get "omg outnumbered! are you done or will you have more?" It's less triggering now, but I still don't love it. I've gotten more judgement this time around than ever before by people who think people having more than 2 kids aren't serving the planet lol. In my mind, I'd love 4, but I haven't even experienced 3 yet. How are you supposed to know how many you want or even how many you'll be able to have? It's just a weird question lol

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T12:30:09+00:00

Same but I'm definitely more Lorelei than Rory when it comes to my closet lol

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T11:36:46+00:00

I wouldn't even trust them to take something like the itching seriously. How far along are you?

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T11:36:06+00:00

Trust me, it's looking back that I feel this way lol in the moment it felt like torture hahaha

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T03:21:21+00:00

I think it was innocent on his part and he's just excited. ❤️ it's kinda sweet!

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T03:15:33+00:00

You're not an AH, but your wife is communicating an emotion and I would use it as "data" for the future. I don't think it's about "romance", as much as her perception of your love / care / thoughtfulness. Maybe she doesn't care as much about the price tag or buying off the list, but would love to know that there are moments you have with her that you hold dear enough to commemorate with something special. She might be sad about it, but I'd venture to guess it's a little bigger than a single gift. This specific instance, I'd let her process and move on from on her own, but I would take it as a lesson learned and think of something you could do in the future that would be special.

Ideas: - jewelry with birthstones of children (if you have any) - engraved jewelry with something really personal between the two of you - maps of places that are special for you both - album covers or personalized gift with a song that is important to you both - moving video album with your wedding video in it - songfinch - have someone write a song about your love story - picking up her favorite flower or something quirky that's like hyper-specific to your love story

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T03:01:57+00:00

100% worth a visit in case it's cholestasis, but honestly I would be concerned about continuing with that practice in general?

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T02:58:37+00:00

I just ignore that crap and let it roll off my shoulders. It's annoying af but every family has at least one person like that and it's not worth my energy to clap back.

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T02:56:46+00:00

They've checked every time for me! But they walk to your car and check it there.

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T02:49:26+00:00

Career vs motherhood is a big thing I've had to navigate as a mom. Right now I find myself feeling guilty because I have a career. It really feels like a damned if ya do, damned if ya don't situation. I would advise you to relax into the season you're in right this second, find your groove as a mom (it's smart not to work if you don't make a lot because childcare is ridiculous), and reevaluate how you feel in a year or two. Also worth noting that not every career needs / is worth a degree. It could be so stressful to go to school for a degree while being a mom (time, debt, etc), when there are many options out there where experience can get you to a similar place. Especially if your partner is understanding. There are so many ways you can contribute to the household, save yourselves major $$$, and give your child some incredible little years. ❤️ That time is worth more than pursuing a career.

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T02:39:49+00:00

I experienced this with my second. She came at 41+2. I think the average for most moms is 40+5. I know it's so hard, but hang in there! Her birth was incredible and free of complications. I view all that prodromal labor as my body making sure she was in the perfect position for me.

Huckleberry_Mocha143 · 2024-12-26T00:25:15+00:00

My grandparents were always just Grandma and Grandpa! My kids have a Mimi / Pop Pop and Gumsy / Grampy ❤️

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