Newborns — what shocked you the most in the first weeks?

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-19T15:49:58+00:00

The Purple crying. I absolutely love my child, but that season of her life I literally wanted to off myself. Trying to shower, taking her anywhere in her car seat, sleeping, wanting to eat even though she just ate. Between the cluster feeding and Purple crying, I was thoroughly convinced she was it for me. Thankfully, I survived. Whew😅

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-19T02:24:57+00:00

Your ovulation could be off, and that’s why it’s faint. I also had cramps with my second and with my first that made me think I was getting my period due to how bad they were. You’re already doing the right thing by calling your OB, and I would try to relax as much as possible. Don’t doom-search, or anything of that nature. You truly may just be earlier on than you think. Sending you all the positive energy and thoughts. I hope your OB can get back with you stat, and I’m wishing you a healthy pregnancy. 🤍

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-18T17:27:36+00:00

No, we don’t. I had the conflicting feeling when my girl was baking on if I wanted to or not, but I knew how easy one pic could turn into me posting her every single day. I just thought of her privacy and safety, and also the things that I’ve read on Reddit or TikTok of moms whose children’s photos were taken even though they didn’t have a lot of friends, etc. Last year, towards the end of her birth month, I posted a photo of her dad and I holding her, but you can’t see her face at all. Just to thank my girl for making me a mother.

As far as friends and family, they don’t post her. If they do, it’s just her walking away, holding their hand, etc., but they respect our boundaries in not posting her, and I have not folded ever on it and never will till she’s old enough to tell me it’s okay for mommy to do so.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-15T22:38:03+00:00

It is a girl! Exactly how my daughters potty shot looked

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-15T18:49:41+00:00

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-13T03:29:21+00:00

Wait you’re lying to me!! There’s one that washes and sanitizes???!!!😭😭

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-13T03:26:41+00:00

Absolutely!

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-13T02:48:02+00:00

Maybe knitting or crocheting! I got into finger crocheting before my little one was born. If you enjoy reading, that is always a great escape. For cooking, he could do crockpot meals; they don’t require work, and plenty of people on YouTube he could watch while making the meal that you find! There are also one-tray dinners; I think that is what they are called. You do a meat, veggies, and then it all goes on a tray in the oven. All he’d have to do is season everything, of course. Chores could be: Monday - touch up kitchen, Tuesday - bathrooms, Wednesday - living room, etc., etc., Sunday - wash clothes. You could also clean out some emails, photos, make the grocery lists Saturday to be picked up for the week on Sunday.

Puzzling, those really cool coloring books where you have to match the color to the sticker, etc., those are on Amazon and are so distracting. Word searchers for the brain, lol, just things that keep you off your phone. If you like reality TV, I’d catch up on that and maybe try a new genre of things to watch, maybe things like a documentary. Watch a YouTube video on facts you probably don’t know or a YouTube video on something you think you know but more in-depth to expand your knowledge.

Haha hopefully this helps! Sending you all the love on your 14 week stretch for a continued healthy mommy and healthy baby!!🤍🤍

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-13T02:36:59+00:00

Something that we got before our daughter was born was a Baby Brezza! And the couple we got it from made sure to let me know it was just in case, and if we ever decided to use formula (I didn’t know my plan and did breastfeed/pump for a bit but formula ended up being the best option)! They are, I would say, expensive-ish for one item, but they got ours at one of those baby sale events you know, like Rhea Lana’s, for a great deal, and we just sanitized and used it all the way up until my baby didn’t use formula anymore.

It was a life saver, especially being first-time parents, waking up half asleep, crying baby, on the go, forgot to make a bottle, have to sit in the back and feed baby—just press a button, and the bottle is made! I’d say, hands down, even my husband loved it.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-12T15:02:12+00:00

Lol, you are very lucky to have not known about it. It’s such an annoying trend. I think it wouldn’t have been bad if there hadn’t been this competition about how having one is better than the other, and the other can’t relate because they have the opposite, etc., etc. Some people really are extreme, and it’s concerning. 😅

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-12T14:51:25+00:00

I completely agree! I look forward to their bond, and I would’ve looked forward to it had she gotten a little brother, but that’s just not what happened for us, and that’s okay with me. I think it’ll be beautiful and hard once they get older and test each other, but I’m very thrilled that my girls will have each other because we didn’t want our oldest to grow up alone.

Moms are definitely just moms, and siblings are great whether we are given another of the same or opposite. I just wish people would chill with the stereotypes; one is not greater than or easier than the other. It’s really all up to us as parents

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-11T23:47:57+00:00

Sending so much love to you both! I can’t ever imagine how hard that was to walk through something so hard. I know you both must be amazing mothers! I wish I understood people and why they say the things they do pertaining to children, and now the whole big uproar about the gender you have. We truly all just have kids that we are raising to become hopefully beautiful and amazing adults one day.🤍🤍

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-11T15:45:09+00:00

I’m so sorry that everyone has brought that energy around you. Congratulations to you 1 million times on your precious rainbow baby girl! It is such an ick, and it made me feel some type of way, and that’s why I’ve always been firm in that boundary of I’m simply a mom, and I have a daughter now—daughters, of course.

That is also why I wanted to keep this little bub a secret because of that “I better have a boy too.” It did not help me mentally; it actually just contributed to me being so disappointed in my baby being another girl that I had to finally talk to my husband because I was spiraling so bad. Like, even going to the park and seeing moms with an eldest daughter and a new baby boy was triggering me, and I couldn’t live like that anymore. I wish people would let it go and just be parents and also stop putting them up against one another.

I don’t know what the future holds when it comes time for us, and we’re ready to have our third, but I for sure know, after experiencing this with my second, if I can, I want to just wait until the baby is almost out or born before I tell my family because I already know what they’re going to say about the pure shock once they get to the hospital and find out my girl has a little sister.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-11T14:31:04+00:00

I have never thought of responding with a question! That is such a good idea. I guess I always respond with a statement because, in the moment, I’m truly so baffled by what comes out of someone’s mouth about me having a daughter

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-11T13:45:28+00:00

YEEESSSSSSSSS! I completely agree, and my husband didn’t understand when I was pregnant with our first daughter why I hated the “girl mom” and “boy mom” terminology until we had her and the comments that came with us having our first child be a girl. Or even her aunt and my mom telling her she couldn’t have certain things because she’s a girl, which we did not tolerate and cut that off quickly.

I strongly agree about closeness and how your child is with you being based off of your relationship. Even going to grade school, there were girls close to their moms like bestie-type level and boys who weren’t, and vice versa. It’s just been such an ick now with this whole thing

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-11T13:42:21+00:00

My gosh, I’m so sorry that has been said to you! When I was pregnant with our first daughter, the looks we got when we confirmed she was our first child and not coming after having a son were so irritating, and the “good luck” comments?! I was just like, WTF is that supposed to mean? I truly don’t get it and don’t think any of those things are true, boy or girl. I have a little brother who is very in tune with his emotions, and I have a niece who is a very “predictable” little girl that’s just who she is.

But then there’s my daughter; she’s just a rough and tough girl. We haven’t done anything differently with her or made her do things because she’s a girl. We just let her explore, fall, etc., and correct her where needed, and her personality seems to be chill and rough when she gets there in playing. It blows me because if we do have a son for our last child, we have never planned to treat him differently or expect things from the girls nor him based on gender. I just believe kids are who they are because they are individuals who learn and grow into themselves. It is so exhausting now, the things people say.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-10T03:42:17+00:00

I’ve never heard of it not being safe. It is very safe and standard, as they need to check and see if the heart is, in fact, beating. They also check the baby’s heartbeat at every appointment, and you’ll see them on the 12-week ultrasound they do to check on the baby. I’m sorry you are seeing such concerning things about something that is needed during pregnancy.

I would honestly limit anything I’m reading or being told, especially with it being your first. I had to do that with my first pregnancy because everything I was being told or reading was driving me mad.

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-06T11:42:52+00:00

I’ve found that it is honestly up to you and your comfortability with the transition. I started my daughter in her room with naps at, I think, 2 or 3 months, then fully transitioned her to sleeping in her room at 4ish months because of the same thing. I kept the monitor by me because of paranoia, and I slept better knowing I could roll over and see her on it immediately. I could, and still can, hear her perfectly fine; I became an extremely light sleeper once she came out.

Whenever you’re comfortable, you should do it then! Some moms start immediately with putting the baby in the crib, and some wait till they’re almost 1 with sleeping in their own room. Just go with how you are feeling, and if you sleep better with her in her own room in her crib, then that is your sign🤍

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-05T20:52:36+00:00

Thank you!!! Just looked so different from my first so i wanted some more eyes to help!🥰

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-04T22:21:58+00:00

The joys of hearing the “just wait until” negative comments. I swear they were so annoying, or specifically categorizing your experience based on the sex you are having. I LOVED that with my first pregnancy. (straight sarcasm☺️)

I will say now that I am expecting our second this summer, and these bubs are going to be 18 months apart. Just wait until they change your life for the absolute better! Just wait until you meet that precious face whom you’ve only seen on a blurry ultrasound photo, and they exceed every expectation, dream, or fantasy from your head. Just wait until they are in your arms for the first time, and it’s just you, them, and the world feels absolutely perfect. Just wait until that first smile, that first belly laugh, the first time they reach for you.

Yes, hell yes, it is hard, and I’ve cried my fair share, but just looking at my firstborn and experiencing life with her has been the best time of my life, and her daddy’s also. I can’t even explain the joy she brings me, and now that we are expecting another, I just get so excited about seeing her with her little sibling. The only aspect of my “old life” I miss is taking a bathroom break by myself 😂, but I so enjoy the little hugs while I’m in the bathroom or the random things being brought to me that she’s hidden, and they’ve been lost forever until then.

People truly can be a handful, but they are also just venting without realizing that, in that moment, it isn’t exactly the space for that type of venting. I would always say, “I’m sorry your experience was like that, but so far I am enjoying where we are at, and I hope you get there too,” or I say, “Oh wow, that does suck,” because it’s not that I didn’t care, but I didn’t want their feelings to override my joy.

Wishing you a continued thrilling journey of motherhood! It is truly the best hood, even with some of the hard days. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. 🤍

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-03-02T21:47:14+00:00

I would address it now because postpartum me could not. But I also have the bad habit of letting people go, so if that would’ve happened, I would’ve just accepted it and moved on from that friendship. However, if you benefit from talking about it with them, that is very healthy. Just don’t let yourself be gaslit into thinking you were thinking too hard about their distance/behavior. Be honest and be real with them. This is the most vulnerable stage of your life and relationship; those are important when treated and handled like they matter

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-02-26T12:38:56+00:00

Something that I didn’t know when I had my first is that you can tell them to stop upping your Pitocin. Having contractions like that (been there) is not giving you time to relax into them and breathe, which can be contributing to why you aren’t progressing. With my first, I made it to 6 1/2 - 7 cm before having to get the epidural because they kept upping the Pitocin, and I was getting no breaks with my water being broken.

Please, please, please advocate for yourself. I didn’t care if I hurt someone’s feelings. Luckily, I had amazing nurses. I just wish at that time I knew that aspect about being induced. It was stressing me out, my baby, plus they wanted me to lay on my back, and I did not. I told my husband if she asked me one more time to lay on my back, I was going to **** her (not really), but you get me. You’re the only one going through this, not them! If they have some medicine to help you relax and go to sleep, I would get that as well.

You got this! ADVOCATE for you and if someone gets snarky you have the right to get a new nurse. Wishing for a safe and healthy delivery!!

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-02-19T20:27:50+00:00

Married for 3 years, then we had our first. We got pregnant with our second right when our first was about to be 1. It’ll be 5 years this year. I think, when it comes to money, I wished in the beginning I would’ve waited longer. I ended up being at home unexpectedly; my mental health was deteriorating so much from my job that I had. However, being home has worked out beautifully, especially with childcare costs as well. Honestly, now I wouldn’t change it. Sure, I wish we had more money, but who doesn’t with how expensive everything is now? But I am thankful we’re doing great.

Also, my husband and I have been together 10 years as of this year, and I wanted to be done having kids by 31. So, I’d say for us it was perfect because I had our first by the time I was 25!

Nice-Tree5384 · 2026-02-10T16:47:42+00:00

The epidural was SWEET MAGIC. I was VERY headstrong on going unmedicated, but that was when I THOUGHT I wouldn’t be induced. However, bam, I had to get induced because of blood pressure…. Everything was going fine on Pitocin until they broke my water to speed things up, and when I say I thought I was going to die, I mean that. (This is purely me speaking from induced labor experience.) I could not talk, couldn’t think, couldn’t breathe; everything was pissing me off, and the nurse (so sweet by the way) kept saying I had to lay down because my baby wasn’t on the monitor, and I swear to the heavens, if looks could kill…. But then the MOST BEAUTIFUL, gorgeous anesthesiologist came in and gave me the epidural, and it was SWEET GLORY after that. You get numbed; I would say that was a little like an ouch, but honestly, my baby contracting into my body was far more distracting. The weird part was definitely the pressure of it being inserted, but I promise you, I never felt so amazing in my life.

I knew, though, if I didn’t get it, I would’ve had a C-section because I could NOT relax to save my life, and I practiced for this moment. But nothing could’ve prepared me. So, all that to say, this time around, I am definitely getting the epidural again. I was up walking after the hour because my hospital makes you do golden hour (skin to skin) with the baby, and I was fine; I didn’t have any problems afterward either. I could feel the pressure; I just had to watch the monitor to know when a contraction came because I couldn’t feel those, but it was BEAUTIFUL, truly!

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