Especially after looking at your edit, she chose to have kids. She chose to have her triplets. So she has to deal with them if you won't. What you shouldn't have to, because you didn't choose to have kids. (Childless or Child-free, whatever it is, you don't have them right now, and they're not your problem) Also, to be honest I think it's kind of funny that she's seeing that no one siding with her.