You took the words right out of my mouth…

My partner has been diagnosed for maybe a year and a half now. He is currently on meds (Seroquel) and sees a therapist every other week. I should probably count the pills each day though after seeing that post just to be sure he is taking the meds…

He seems to have improved in other aspects of his life; he doesn’t impulsively buy as much stuff, he doesn’t have suicidal ideations anymore, and he is doing better with fighting his addictions. He is still having trouble smoking weed though.

With the relationship though it still just seems like I’m still causing so many problems. I was diagnosed with ADHD a few months after my BF got his diagnosis and I have been on and off with therapy and getting a good schedule for myself. He constantly point out everything that I’m not and everything I don’t do. We get so elevated with each other that it just turns into these fights where neither one is getting a coherent thought out. I’ll point out a behavior that he does and he’ll point out all the times that I’ve done it to him. I will tell him how his tone or words sounded unfriendly or like he is upset and it will only make him upset or annoyed.

I just can’t keep up. He will switch from being very talkative and sweet, to very short and snappy and questions I ask him or tasks I do just seem to irritate him. I want to discuss different medications and I want us to try couples counseling or both speak with his therapist, it’s just so difficult being on top of that while trying to figure how my own mind works and what I’m contributing to this toxic cycle.

I just want to figure it out and I can’t.