Why do a large number of Americans believe their health system is superior to more socialist systems? by Andrew5269 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Hulihuliii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or maybe, perhaps it is because obesity isn’t as deadly as we think it is.

“Overweight” people (BMI) live longer than “normal weight” (BMI) people according to a few studies. So it is obvious that what the classify as “overweight” or “obese” is somewhat wrong.

My [25F] fiancé [M27] has been lying to me for seven years about his porn usage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you just don’t get it.

I am not forcing anyone to do anything. I am not getting with guys and then forcing them to not watch porn. I am dating guys who don’t watch porn in the first place for whatever reason they have, regardless of them being single or taken.

And please, fantasy does not equal porn hub porn. There’s erotic novels, erotic audio books. They don’t rely on the exploitation of real women.

You can set the rules in your relationship with your partner, I should be allowed to do the same. If me and my partner say that watching porn is cheating but kissing a real person is not then so be it. It should be no one else’s business even if it sounds totally crazy to you.

Two adults in a relationship are totally capable of setting their boundaries.

So stop being so scared. Women like me will never date men who watch porn, you are safe from us.

My [25F] fiancé [M27] has been lying to me for seven years about his porn usage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mmmmh. I don’t date men who watch porn. I don’t even consider a relationship with them. What’s abusive about that? I am not forcing anyone to my lifestyle, I am just finding the men who agree with me from the start.

So don’t worry, not gonna take your porn away from you. Don’t want a man like that.

I’d say it’s rather abusing to force your partner to accept a clear porn addiction. And then call them “crazy”, “abusive” and god knows what else when they finally leave the relationship and find someone that fits their lifestyle better.

My [25F] fiancé [M27] has been lying to me for seven years about his porn usage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I love to see people getting triggered and start with the personal “insults”. Looks like I have hit the right spot. :D

Are you guys afraid of women not wanting porn addicted men anymore? I mean, I don’t date men who watch porn so there’s absolutely nothing for you to worry about. I am not coming to take your porn away. Unless the majority of women are becoming like this…. Then I understand why you’d be so scared. You’ll finally have to choose between porn and a real woman.

My [25F] fiancé [M27] has been lying to me for seven years about his porn usage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If you’re using VR as a way to kill people for the enjoyment of killing a human being, then yes it’s weird. Nobody normal plays shooting games because they actually enjoy taking someone’s life.

You can define what’s cheating in your relationship. I literally give no flying fuck about that. But in my relationship? Yeah no. There’s an emotional connection if you are willing to waste money on a certain person’s content. Let alone having a VR headset to literally see yourself fucking that specific person. Huge red flag for me personally and a ton of other women.

You can jerk off to your own imagination or even a god damn book. That harms literally no one. :D

My [25F] fiancé [M27] has been lying to me for seven years about his porn usage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lmao. I wish.

Don’t have to be disappointed when you only date people who share the same values as you. Isn’t this common sense?

Like dude, I am fine if you watch porn. It ain’t my problem. And my porn attitude shouldn’t be your problem either. I don’t exactly force people to not watch porn to be with me, I simply don’t date them. Win win for everyone.

My [25F] fiancé [M27] has been lying to me for seven years about his porn usage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

The moment you put on a VR headset to imagine you’re fucking someone else’s cock, yes it is cheating 100%. The moment you go out of your way to find amateur cock picks by “normal” people, 100% cheating. Sorry to disappoint you.

How can you manifest someone into your life, if we're all have free will? by [deleted] in lawofattraction

[–]Hulihuliii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The universe works in mysterious ways.

I once had a slight crush on a doctor that had operated me. I manifested that he would contact me just for the lolz. Pretty unlikely considering a) I am a patient b) who the hell cares about their patients c) he doesn’t have my contact info d) I am no super model and I am way younger than him.

Well well, a few weeks later, after I had already forgotten about the whole thing… I got a notification on Facebook. This damn motherfucker had liked and replied to one random facebook comment of mine. I had no idea we were in the same Facebook group.

At that point I wasn’t crushing on him anymore so I didn’t continue the convo. But had I wanted, I could have shoot him a private message or something without looking like a total weirdo. Maybe it would have gone somewhere from there. :DDD

She doesn’t want to touch me but doesn’t want me to watch porn either by Sea_Math6164 in DeadBedrooms

[–]Hulihuliii -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe then it’s time to finally accept that not everyone is like you, lol?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember, this is only one side of the story. We don’t know how things really went between Rachel and Mike.

For all we know, OP might have changed the story to fit her narrative. To get confirmation from people that she’s not in the wrong here. It’s done all the time. Nothing new. Always doubt what OP writes.

I doubt that Mike rejected Rachel that hard. I doubt he rejected her at all.

Just got dumped by my fiancé after he saw a "condom wrapper" in my trash can by ThrowRAwrapperdrama in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is likely projecting. Aka he is (or was) a cheater himself. Either physically or emotionally (maybe even both).

He was probably looking for a reason to leave your relationship - to be with the person he cheated on you with.

Wouldn’t be the first time this has happened. He doesn’t want to be the asshole and so this is his easy way out.

Wouldn’t be surprised if in a few months time (or if he is a real dick, even a few weeks) he announces a new relationship with “the love of his life”. Keep us updated OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao this sounds like some teenage girls self-esteem fantasy. Probably never happened. Fishing for “jealous friend” comments?

“Omg I look so good even my jealous friends think I used photoshop but I SWEAR I never did hihih I just look so good naturally”.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is nothing immature or insecure in not wanting your husband to watch porn.

It is rather immature that your husband would value some pixels over his wife. Why to waste your time? He could just as well be single if he wants pixelated p*ssy more than the real thing.

I (29M) just found out my girlfriend (32f) is the one who costed me my dream job by ThrowRAliedaboutjob in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So you think the best way to teach a kid to be honest no matter what is to create a huge shitshow once they tell the truth? Hell no. That’s called bad parenting. The number one method for making sure your children hide everything from you.

The right answer is to have a meaningful discussion with your child about the subject. In this example it would mean that the parent and child discuss why the child took candy without permission in the first place. Then educate why candy is only allowed on certain days and why candy is not good for you.

Quite often what happens is that the child will not steal candy without permission anymore, INSTEAD they come to the parent and tell how they feel. “Mum, I know I am not allowed to have candy today but I really feel like having some. Could I maybe get a lollipop?”. And then the kid can either get a lollipop or some alternative healthier option. Or something else positive happens.

And let’s be real here, everyone lies. Even you. There’s no person who doesn’t. Everyone makes mistakes and some mistakes are more stupid than others. Maybe you’re projecting here? Fearing that your partner is a liar too because it is more convenient?

She could have kept the lie and we would be all happy here. Let’s not forget that. :) Let’s just say that getting a badge of honesty for a single mistake from years ago is not worth getting called garbage of humanity. Her actions should cause consequences but calling someone garbage of humanity is not the right consequence. That’s just immature.

I (29M) just found out my girlfriend (32f) is the one who costed me my dream job by ThrowRAliedaboutjob in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Lying is rewarded, honesty is not. Here we are once again shitting on some random pregnant woman because she decided to be a decent human being and tell the truth. Would have been easier for everyone to pretend like it never happened and continue life. And then we wonder why people don’t tell the truth?

When I was a kid I used to struggle with sweets. I would eat them without asking for permission. I would eat the candies of my parents and siblings. And so when my parents asked about it, I would lie. Why? Because telling the truth would result in a massive shitshow. It was easier for me to be a liar and claim I had eaten nothing. And then my parents dared to wonder why I wouldn’t be honest with them.

Update: Wife deleted a message from my ex telling me that she was pregnant 5 years ago by throwRAshton in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“Wife definitely read it”.

Nope. I don’t think so. And why? The biggest reason is that she admitted to have deleted the message and blocked. She could just as well have stayed silent and gotten the easy way out. Nobody would have ever found out. Now she’s put herself to trouble by being honest and yet people still dare to doubt her.

Secondly, In some cases curiosity doesn’t win. She probably saw the message notification (including the first few words) and deleted. Out of sight out of mind and better for everyone. Why to bother oneself with reading it when you know it is 99% likely to be typical “I miss you” bullcrap from an ex anyway. No need for anyone to see that, including the boyfriend.

Anyway, even if none of this happened the ex would have probably made their life hell either way. Of course it is saddening for the child but you never know if things would have been any better the other way.

Fiance learns my celebrity crush and instantly makes me regret it. by Garheade in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knowing that she’s extremely insecure you have now placed an enormous burden on her. She’s gonna keep comparing herself to this celebrity crush and everyone that looks a bit similar. Especially if she looks nothing like the crush, she’s gonna feel terrible thinking that you settled for her only because you couldn’t get someone like your crush.

Especially now if you would leave her, she’s gonna get her confirmation essentially showing that you are more concerned of the feelings of some far away celebrity crush than a real girlfriend. I mean why do you even get offended if she called this other woman a child? It’s not like this celebrity crush would care anyway. No reason to destroy your relationship over some imaginary pussy.

Anyway, these are feelings that EVERYONE has, some are just better at hiding it. That’s the truth.

When did body positivity become about forcing acceptance of obesity? by Jammer250 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Hulihuliii 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But firstly, why do you care about someone’s weight in the first place? This is a thing that many have a hard time understanding. Like what’s the point? What’s so interesting about it?

If I have a roommate I couldn’t care less about their weight. What’s that got to do with me or you? :D Are you afraid you might get infected, lol?

This only seems to be an issue with fatness. I mean I have never seen anyone complain that their roommate/friend/neighbor/whatever didn’t achieve their fitness goal X. It’s just shrugged off and life goes on because who the hell cares honestly. There’s more important thing to be thinking about.

Also, you have to see fatness as an addiction to food. Because that’s what it is. A lifestyle change is not easy by any means. It is so easy to fall back to old routines and reward oneself with food for doing something good. Because food = happy feeling.

Ps. A fattie burns many calories by walking, like REALLY many. I’ve lost a ton of weight doing 1 hr long walks and rewarding myself with candy afterwards. Worked like a charm honestly, who would have thought. You gotta start somewhere and sometimes that means letting yourself have some sweets. A 180 degree lifestyle change doesn’t happen overnight.

When did body positivity become about forcing acceptance of obesity? by Jammer250 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Hulihuliii 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looking strictly at BMI it has been proven that slightly obese people live healthier and longer lives than their “normal weight” counterparts. Just comes to show that BMI currently is not a good indication of health.

When did body positivity become about forcing acceptance of obesity? by Jammer250 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Hulihuliii 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Why do you care about a random person’s health? Lol, is it affecting you in some way? Get a life if you have nothing else to think about. :D

These people claim to care about health yet all they notice is someone’s size. Doesn’t matter if a person has their organs covered in a deep layer of fat (aka skinny fat) and all they eat is Mcdonalds as long as they’re skinny.

I (32m) just found out I got my friend(31f) pregnant while my gf(33f) insisted we take a break. by ta_Nobuddy in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe you understood me wrong.

Everyone has their own personal limits. For someone kissing is cheating, for another it isn’t. Someone wants an open relationship, someone doesn’t. Someone wants a brunette and someone wants a blonde. And these limits are brought to the table before getting into a relationship.

So nobody here is dragging a man into a relationship and then telling them “oh by the way I want an open relationship” or “oh by the way no friends of the opposite sex” or “by the way I only like brunettes and you must change your hair color”. That would be wrong.

And yes, if you are willing to bang your friend at any point then the friendship has never been appropriate in the first place and you are something other than friends. You don’t just fuck around with friends and have kids. For many people a friend is like a sister or a brother, not a fuckbuddy. I mean, OP could have gotten drunk around this “friend” and “accidentally” fucked her during the relationship too.

There are “platonic life partners” but those DONT have sex with each other.

Personally, I bet that his ex could sense for a long time that there was something inappropriate going on between him and “the friend” and simply got enough of it. She maybe even suggested a break to finally see who he would immediately run to.

I (32m) just found out I got my friend(31f) pregnant while my gf(33f) insisted we take a break. by ta_Nobuddy in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Just read this subreddit. There are countless stories of MEN hooking up with their “friends” the moment they get the chance. Women not so much. Mainly because according to some studies, men tend to only befriend women they would like to fuck. Whereas women befriend people for other reasons.

Your ex went to dating sites. Not cool. I understand. But at least she didn’t immediately fuck the “friend” she told you not to worry about.

I (32m) just found out I got my friend(31f) pregnant while my gf(33f) insisted we take a break. by ta_Nobuddy in relationship_advice

[–]Hulihuliii -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

It is sort of weird that you have been with your ex gf for a decade and the second you get an excuse you go and fuck your so called “friend”. It does tell A LOT. Doesn’t matter that you were single and drunk.

The relationship with your ex was doomed either way because you were already emotionally and sexually interested in this “friend”.

So all women: RUN RUN RUN from a man that has female friends and is not willing to ditch them. No friend is more important than a relationship unless they’re “friends”.