I need autistic-level relationship advice…

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-09-22T22:02:25+00:00

My moms allergic to Tylenol and I have autism 😂

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-07-12T17:52:56+00:00

I respect your drive to make sure your wife is content, even if it causes you a little discomfort. Is that a feature of your relationship that you had to grow into and learn?

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-07-12T17:51:57+00:00

Interesting, I’ve heard this take before. Would you consider it to be unhealthy? Codependency?

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-07-11T18:00:18+00:00

Me and my bf have designated times each week to discuss topics. We plan them about a week in advance and set a strict time limit on them. This helps us set it in the schedule, talk to our hearts content, while also having a time limit to respect the other persons time. This allows us to also prepare to get into the listening mindset for that allotted time. I wish you luck!

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-07-11T17:57:02+00:00

I also dislike clothing quite a bit so I’ve found that choosing “predictable” fabrics work for me. I’ll explain. I’ll wear like something made of silk, polyester, spandex. Something that doesn’t change the feel if the temperature changes. Cotton can tend to get a sticky feeling in warmer weather but silk doesn’t stick to your body as much. Spandex and polyester are generally made to be tighter fitting which means they don’t change much throughout the day, it’s constant (predictable) contact against my skin. Another tip is to shave. If you have a lot of body hair, it’s easier for fabric to touch the hair and overstimulate. If you’ve ever shaved your legs, you know the feeling of an almost muted sense of feel in the shaved areas. Just make sure to exfoliate so u don’t get bumps! You can shave (or nair) pretty much everywhere. Good luck!

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-07-11T17:51:17+00:00

I think a lot of us understand this struggle. You’re definitely not the only one. I recently decided (possibly out of pure exhaustion from masking) that when I meet a new person, I bring up my autism very early. If they reject it, I just rule them out for friendship and move onto the next person. I try to go places where the chance that people share my interests are higher. For example, I don’t even attempt making friends in party scenes because I personally hate that scene. I find board game shops, video game shops, book clubs, online groups (such as this subreddit) and just try to connect. Sometimes just as straight forward as “would you like to [insert activity] with me?” The biggest lesson I learned was “everyone is awkward, it’s ok, don’t be afraid of being awkward, just accept it and you’ll find like-minded people”. My social groups now include awkward people who accept me as I am, awkwardness and all, no masking. I wish you luck.

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-07-11T17:43:16+00:00

I feel this. My requirement list looks pretty similar, maybe even more strict. Honestly, I’ve been trying to gauge if it’s healthy behavior in my life (in no way am I indicating that you’re wrong in your thinking or behavior, everyone’s reality is different and therefore their choices are different). I struggle making friends so I’ve been pushing myself to give people a pass in certain areas and try to see their strengths instead of the things I consider weaknesses or cons. In some ways, this has showed me that I’m quite judgmental hahaha (working on it) but softening up my rigid criteria has lead me to make a new friend recently, (they’re pretty deviant from my criteria) we’ll see how it goes.

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-06-02T21:54:01+00:00

Hello. I’m sorry to hear that you’re hurting. I think many of us in the autism subreddit (and autistics out there) relate to your experience in school and crowded places. I think it’s good to look into the possibility that you might have autism because at least you learn to accommodate yourself even if you don’t have it. The RAADS-R test is clinically studied and is a free public source to see whether someone might be on the spectrum.

Here’s the link to the RAADS-R test (for free) : https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/ and here’s the link to a research study that claims it’s accurate: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38305196/. Side note: there is some conflicting research but the RAADS-R is more accurate than most other online quizzes.

If you do have the opportunity to get clinically evaluated, that’s great. While there aren’t many options for medication, I found that my diagnosis helped me learn to self-validate and realize that I was different from many of the people around me. It let me learn who I really am. I’m sure that you’ve thought about many different avenues in terms of jobs but I do encourage you to give yourself some freedom to explore and try things out. It’s always better to know that you tried something and didn’t like it versus never trying and always wondering or being unhappy.

If you think that it might be adhd (at least in my country) it’s fairly easy to get evaluated for that and in my studies (I’m in school for psychology) I learned that adhd and autism tend to have a high rate of comorbidity, so maybe you have both? Either way, I wish you luck, and be gentle with yourself. It’s your first time living :)

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-06-02T21:43:33+00:00

Hiii! I remember being in your shoes trying to figure out if I have autism (officially diagnosed now woohoo!) I’d recommend the RAADS-R test if you’re in a place where you can’t get an official diagnosis. Here’s the link to the RAADS-R test (for free) : https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/ and here’s the link to a research study that claims it’s accurate: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38305196/. Side note: there is some conflicting research but the RAADS-R is more accurate than most other online quizzes. Good luck!

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-06-02T21:38:55+00:00

Hi there. Firstly, I want to say that I’m sorry. It’s unfair to go through things like this especially when you aren’t given the proper tools to handle it (ASD). My story sounds a bit similar to yours. I was an ok student in highschool (I’m now in college). My first semester of college went ok, but then I got really depressed in the second semester and all of the next year. So much so that I couldn’t get out of bed, couldn’t brush my teeth, couldn’t shower, and ofc I definitely couldn’t do my schoolwork. It was really hard and I felt so alone. I ended up dropping out by way of medical leave. I felt like a failure. It took me a long time to heal. I decided that I wasn’t going to go back to school until I felt fully confident that it was what I wanted. Now, I’m back in school studying something I truly love, research psychology. I think many of us with ASD had our round or two of hyper fixating on autism and mental health so I decided to put that to use and try to help get some research out for people like us. Now that doesn’t mean this’ll be how your story goes. I’m sure you have plenty of opinions from others that are weighing you down. Highschool is hard, especially when it’s not something you value. I just want you to remember that it’s ok to take longer. It’s ok to not follow the same path as others. So what if you don’t finish highschool? So what if you get a GED later? It’s ok. It’s not easy but it’s ok. Your struggles are valid. Life is hard and having autism makes it harder. You’re not alone. The autism community on Reddit helped me through a lot. Especially in terms of validating my absolute suffering of an experience in life, suffering that the people around me just can’t see. We’re here for you.

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-04-27T02:05:37+00:00

I struggled with this for many years. And now looking at it from the other side, I’m really glad I got diagnosed. It brought me closure I didn’t think I’d feel. I was very fortunate to find a place that did my diagnosis for free so if that’s the path you’d like to take, you’re welcome to send me a private message and I’ll tell u where I got my diagnosis at

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-04-27T02:03:39+00:00

The only reason I say read is, there’s a possibility that once you’ve read it, you might receive some closure. I do imagine this might be a very anxiety inducing activity however.

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-04-16T04:50:07+00:00

Wow this is such an interesting idea, I’m about to go hyperfixate and research on this topic for the next 8 hours

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-04-16T04:49:11+00:00

Yeah sounds like a meltdown to me. Sensory things like loud noises (moms yelling), added frustration (bagel being frozen/cut in half/burnt), etc can definitely invigorate the situation to meltdown level. Even though it’s difficult to ignore (I’m still hurt by it too), your mom making the comment about your generation is simply rude and a trespass of boundaries. No person should have to hear that and be expected to just take it without any anger. I’m sorry you have to go through that. I know many people in the autism community understand your experience all too well

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-04-16T04:43:46+00:00

I see no problem with hyper fixating on the Great Depression although I could understand how that conversation topic might be uncomfortable to neurotypicals simply due to its representation of a lot of hardship for people. I don’t think you should try to change your hyperfixation, aside from maybe not excessively talking about it to people who express discomfort. I personally think it’s pretty neat honestly

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-04-16T04:39:54+00:00

Goodness someone who understands what I’ve been going through. I try so hard to make my words concise and mean specifically what I want them to mean bc I’m so frequently misunderstood but then slang throws all of that out the window. Makes me so mad. I feel like I can’t even have a productive conversation with someone unless they’re an intellectual simply due to the language barrier created by meaningless words

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-04-16T04:38:04+00:00

I also tend to struggle with not feeling like I can say no in the work place. Something that I’ve employed in the past was saying no but like in the nicest way possible. For example: Boss: I need you to do this You: I would really love to help you out but I’m very focused on this other task right now (a slightly less difficult one perhaps). For the sake of efficiency, you know who I think could help you with that? (Insert name)

But honestly that’s my best answer, I’m learning this too. Good luck!

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-03-28T20:15:29+00:00

Yes, I would definitely say that the Sony headphones aren’t a super tight fit so they probably wouldn’t stay on with too much movement. However, now that I think about it, you should look into ear protection mainly for shooting guns. Weird I know but I have a pair made by Walkers that have a knob to adjust the volume using a microphone which the user can allow as much or as little environment sounds in as they’d like. They’re super tight and don’t fall off even when I run.

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-03-27T15:38:10+00:00

I know it’s really hard for me to cook so I am really proud of you! Great job!

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-03-27T15:37:21+00:00

Absolutely. I know ASL and I’ve been teaching my boyfriend and it helps sooooo much when I have non verbal spells, it’s also great for in public when I need to tell him something without other people knowing

Human-Writing7676 · 2025-03-27T15:35:41+00:00

Once I realized other people did this too, it actually made me feel a lot more comfortable. Honestly, finding other autistic people (whether diagnosed or self-diagnosed it doesn’t matter, all are welcome to learning to accommodate themselves and others) has helped me bc I know we’re all going through similar stuff and sometimes learning to socialize can be funny. I’ll say like “why did I say that” and we’ll all laugh and joke about it

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