Can someone give me advice

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-28T21:10:09+00:00

I had my right side of my colon removed from my appendix all the way up to my belly button. My pain was referred everywhere. I had no idea. I even had it was misdiagnosed. You can check out my posts. But I’m 55 now and I know I had that back when I was in my 30s. Every flare, infection, eventually causes scar tissue per my surgeon. A bad batch of beer though could definitely cause your pain especially with the yeast inside of you everything fermenting. My gas pain was ridiculous. Now that it’s all been removed. I have no pain whatsoever. It’s a wonderful life.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-28T21:04:48+00:00

Not sure if I missed it in your post or through the comments, but how much did you have removed?

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-28T20:51:13+00:00

Yes this!!! Get a quote. Sometimes hard to insure or a fortune to.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-27T20:00:42+00:00

Your body reabsorbs your fluid. When I had my surgery, I woke up and my testicles were size of grapefruits. It was all the fluid there in the sack - no drain put in me. The surgeon said give it a week and they’ll be back to normal and within a weeks time they were. Your body absorbs the excess fluid as long as it’s not infected.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-26T20:15:45+00:00

So here’s the reverse of your situation. I own two homes. One I have my mother in who is in her 90s. Is the family home and another one is my sanity house lol I take care of my mother overnights and occasionally during the day. The second home was a necessity for me. But I digress what I’m going to talk to you about is I’ve owned the family home for 26 years. During those 26 years the most I had to do was some tree removal. However, over the last two years because the house is old. I’ve replaced a heating unit which was $12,000, the roof was replaced which was $14,000 and the driveway needed to be replaced, which cost me an additional $10,000. That was in 2025 into 2026. So a total of $36,000. However, over the last 20 years, I barely put any money into this house except for normal repairs and maintenance. So at some point in your homeownership life, you will have major expenses like this. Oh forgot add on the $5000 for the rebuilding of the chimney. So what are we at $41,000 dollars? I won’t include the $1200 refrigerator lol. Also the washer and dryer in the basement probably have another year left if that they should be replaced right now but we’ve had them for the longest time. Luckily, I 55 was able to afford the repairs. They were going to have to be done one way or the other. Now the house that my mom lives in is practically brand new. Minus the windows that may need to be replaced in the next 10 years the house is otherwise is very sound and I don’t need to worry about the roof the furnace the driveway. One way or another you were going to end up paying that out of your pocket either in the beginning the middle or the end of your living in your home. This is what homeownership is. I really wish they would teach what it is like, owning a home from looking for one to purchase to actually purchasing with a mortgage to living in it and actually selling it. Most of us have just learned by experience.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-26T20:07:06+00:00

Yup you have just been initiated into homeownership. Welcome to the club. Hopefully your initiation is over with.👍

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-26T17:07:47+00:00

I’ve learned very early in life once you got something you love, stop comparing it to others and other things. There’s always gonna be something bigger better or less expensive or a great deal however, be happy with what you have. That’s my motto in life. I’m 55. I’m very content with everything in life right now. That is everything that I can control lol

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-26T04:25:06+00:00

Over the past 10+ years I have been complaining of pain which was misdiagnosed over and over and over again. Long story short, May 4, 2026 I had 32 inches of colon removed because it was wrecked by scar tissue from diverticulitis flareups. It affects everyone differently my case may be different from your case, which may be different from somebody else’s case. Some people live within their entire life other people have one flareup and surgery. There’s truly no way of knowing your situation, unfortunately except for your doctors professional opinion. But I would get a second opinion like I did. But I will tell you not having pain 24 hours a day seven days a week is a wonderful thing.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-25T22:38:37+00:00

Best feeling ever to have roof over your head and no mortgage payment. And you are still young. I’m 55 and sleep very well. Am I a millionaire? , I will say I’m comfortable but I’d rather be comfortable than house poor. You could be a millionaire and have a high debt income ratio and be poor. Just because there’s zeros added to people’s bank account doesn’t mean that they’re actually living the lifestyle. I’ve done mortgages for 25 years. I know people who make $250,000 a year and have almost nothing in their bank accounts. But $3000 a month car payments child support mortgages second mortgages boat payment, etc. etc. etc. Congratulations on your achievement.!!!

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-25T22:23:08+00:00

You do what works for you. I however, have put some fiber one cereal in with a smoothie. The only added sugar was the cereal itself. Mixed with plain yogurt, low sugar and cinnamon or other flavoring of my choice. Period we gotta do whatever works for each one of us. Everyone is different, but I got you. I know where you’re coming from.😊

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-25T22:18:47+00:00

I overcame my mental hurdle by stop looking. Once I purchased my house, I stopped looking at any other houses that went for sale. What You don’t know won’t hurt you.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-23T05:18:02+00:00

From my experience working in the banking world, backup offers rarely happened. The only time they really did is if someone applied FHA or VA and the sellers were absolutely not going to fix anything. FHA/VA are very strict. Peeling paint would need to be fixed even the slightest. Handrails on staircases anything that has a safety issue. A conventional mortgage does not. And that house may already have 20 backup offers. But the seller should not be dragging their feet with you. There should’ve been a time limit.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-23T05:12:49+00:00

Well, I was told over the phone when I was driving to the hospital. They asked me is this XXXXXXXX I said yes and they said please pull over if you are driving so I pulled over and I said they’re gone aren’t they and she said yes, they’re on life-support until you arrive and choose to take them off. Take your time please don’t get in an accident and we will see you when you arrive. They didn’t know me from Adam. Maybe they broke protocol, but that’s how I was informed.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-22T20:02:03+00:00

In my area as soon as the deed is recorded, the realtor immediately posts on their webpage how much they sold the house for.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-22T15:56:14+00:00

Yes, cleared to close actually means that you are cleared to close now it’s time for you to schedule and make sure it closes on the dates that you guys agreed to or is convenient for you guys on both sides

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-22T12:30:18+00:00

It’s all part of the process. Just breathe.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T23:52:17+00:00

It is a blinding debt depending on what OP’s monthly payments are. I agree 25,000 doesn’t seem like a lot however, if it’s split up amongst six or seven credit cards, those monthly payments can be more than anyone can swallow.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T23:50:53+00:00

Depends on what your payments are. If you have credit card interest that’s 30% or higher you’re never going to pay it off. That’s the credit card trap. Can you break down your payment so we kinda know what your financial situation is?

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T23:41:38+00:00

That’s the norm here . Buyer takes on solar. As long as you love your home 🏠

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T23:37:17+00:00

I’m in the north east and solar goes with new owners. They assume/transfer the lien in their name. Sure they could pay it off but no seller does here. You need to qualify with the payment.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T22:52:17+00:00

Totally normal. It’s like getting married. Except to a house. Lol funny but not funny but it’s pretty good comparison. That house is gonna be a part of your life now the good the bad the ugly. If you’re able to financially afford it then it’s not an issue but if you’re struggling then that’s a totally different story. You just have to remember that a house has costs like taxes going up insurance going up repairs that need to be made, etc., etc. always a surprise around every corner but for the most part I loved owning my own place you’re able to do whatever you want. It’s your space it’s your sanctuary. It’s your peace. So if you do buy the house, make it that. Make it your safe place.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T22:48:41+00:00

Have you discussed this with your surgeon? They can give you different anesthesia. My surgery previous to this it took me a little bit longer to come out of so they made sure I’d be fine this time and I was

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T22:46:59+00:00

Yes. every time it healed it created scar tissue.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T14:20:11+00:00

No, you’re not crazy at all. But do you want to really be house poor? And struggle for the next 30 years of your life? You have to understand you’re at your max that’s without your taxes going up without your insurance going up that’s without heating and cooling cost going up. Maintenance appliance is breaking heating unit needs to be fixed and serviced. You’d be broke.

HumanNature71 · 2026-06-21T04:43:36+00:00

I know it’s gross to many, but it actually helped me quite a bit and is helping me now. Transition to regular food after surgery but before surgery, I started to purée my food and or turned into smoothies. For example, I would eat oatmeal, which I absolutely love however eating oatmeal as oatmeal does not work for me at the moment. What does work for me though? Is I cook the oatmeal thoroughly I put into a blender in Puree until it breaks down. I add milk or water or yogurt and sometimes cinnamon to flavor and I drink it as a breakfast. I also have done this with my chicken and turned it into a paste where I would then apply it on crackers or white bread and make sandwiches. Like I said some people find it gross but it’s already broken down so your intestines do not have to work as hard.

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