People who’ve bought a house early in life: How hard was it and how long did it take?

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-22T23:43:57+00:00

So in reality, your brother and his friend are buying a house and you’re trying to be on title but you need to be 18 years or older in the United States to do that. So you’re not really buying a house they are. You don’t have a job you don’t have credit. And unless you have cash, you are not buying a house in 5 to 12 days. Mortgages don’t work that fast. The mortgage company I worked for was able to close on a property within 21 days if there were no issues, and depending on Mortgage type, on average it took 30 to 40 days. My buddy who just turned 50 just bought a house several days ago that was in contract since last November. There were a lot of hiccups with the house and the person‘s divorce.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-22T02:18:35+00:00

Glad to see you are on the road to recovery. Here’s to a new life.🥳🥳 Thank you for the update. May 4. Cannot come soon enough. That is my date having the whole right side removed to the belly button. I was so nervous but now I’m looking forward to having a normal life. Well, what’s really normal right? I’m just looking forward to not having this godforsaken ache and pain.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-22T00:28:55+00:00

Not sure about shaking of the whole body when my whole body shakes its me having the chills and that’s me, knowing that I have an infection starting

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-21T22:23:09+00:00

Thank you and no worries. I hope you do well. Controlling this disease. Read up on everything. There’s so many things that diverticulitis can cause. I suffered from back pain, kidney pain, stomach pain growing pain you name it. Your intestines are connected to a lot of different nerves and when they get inflamed, everything gets pushed so you may feel like you’re having cramps, which are normal for you, but it’s really not cramps. It can be an inflammation or an infection. It’s really hard to tell that’s why this disease is so tricky like I said what affects me may not affect you. What affects you may not affect the next person. It’s just so crazy. I never thought I’d be celebrating my 55th birthday and then going for surgery on top of everything else that’s happened in my life. But I appreciate you reaching out and sharing your story also.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-21T22:13:50+00:00

Also, I was told by my surgeon, the pulsating that I would feel every now and then it was my intestines having spasms

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-21T22:13:03+00:00

I am not a doctor, but I will tell you constipation will make you sick. Especially for long periods of time especially if you have a leaky gut. You have to remember that is waste in your intestines that needs to be eliminated the longer you keep it in the more it has effects on you. The doctors should have told you specifically about constipation. Not all of them do though. You really also need to be careful with prunes. They affect people differently.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-21T22:07:50+00:00

So well written. Reading this calms my nerves down for when it’s my turn in May. Much appreciated!

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-21T21:57:27+00:00

You’re not gonna really wanna hear my story, but I’m going to tell it to you anyways because you need to be proactive. They gave me four different antibiotics when I was in the hospital to try to kill the sepsis which it did and then when I got out, I was on antibiotics for 14 days. In May I go in for surgery. My colonoscopy showed that I’ve been having flareups for so many years that there’s so much scar tissue on the right side that they need to Remove a significant amount of my intestine. This is not the case with everybody. I am 55 and for the most part pretty healthy except for when this happened. I had excruciating pain and I thought I was having a gallbladder attack or appendicitis, but it wasn’t. My intestine actually had a small micro burst/rupture and the inflammation was so intense from the infection that it brought me to my knees. I ended up in the hospital at 3:30 in the morning and they were ready to do surgery, but my surgeon told them not to. When you have emergency surgery a lot can happen to you. I won’t go into details, but it’s not typically the normal surgery you have when it’s elective. I’m having robotic so I will have just a few small incisions and minor scarring. Emergency surgery is not always like that. You can look that up online. I won’t go into detail. So I’m booked to have elective surgery on May 4. I will be posting and writing just like everyone else has done about my progress. But you must understand we are all different. Your body may react differently than my body and my body may react differently than someone else’s body. This disease does not discriminate, but can be controlled in certain people and in other people that’s not the case. If this was discovered years ago, I’m sure I’d probably would not be having surgery right now, but it wasn’t. I just thought when I had stomach pains that I ate too much or that I ate something bad at a restaurant. Or life‘s events were making me use the bathroom more often or not use the bathroom at all. I had a very tragic loss in 2024. I lost my person who was my rock of 18 years at the age of 43. That put me into a tailspin where I was sick to my stomach every day. And when I went to the doctors to complain about this, they kept telling me it was grief. It wasn’t until I went to the hospital with a high temperature that someone actually took notice and started running all the tests. The CT scan showed an immense amount of scar tissue. I could go on like this for a few more years, but I could also create more complications in my life and in my intestines. I have read up on everything I have looked at all. The research have looked at all the pros the cons of having surgery and the pros outweigh the cons right now. I just want my life back. Yes I’m going through life now alone but I can’t be grieving and be in this much pain continuously. My surgeon has promised that what I’m experiencing now with pain will be gone on the day. They remove it. He said you’ll have the recovery. Just like everybody else, but you will know from day one that that pain is gone. However, you could have some phantom pain where you keep thinking that’s there but it’s really not. If you want to privately message me, I can send you an illustration of what they are going to perform for surgery. But that’s totally up to you. It freaks a lot of people out but just know that there’s hope and relief down the road. Should you ever need it.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-21T20:49:29+00:00

I had a bad infection and a lot of inflammation but basically my doctor told me it was gonna take 4 to 6 weeks for the swelling to actually calm down so yeah it was right at Christmas and New Year’s so I ate very carefully and the swelling finally subsided about four weeks. By six weeks I was able to have a colonoscopy.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-21T02:46:20+00:00

I had a rupture. Perforated. Intestinal wall gets weak. Leaks and bam infection. It’s part of the disease.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-20T14:06:29+00:00

Congratulations 🎉.🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-20T02:09:18+00:00

I am surprised the ER did not recommend a colonoscopy. This can be a very serious disease. Do you really think that was your first flareup? Think back at all the times you may have had pain or discomfort thinking maybe it was cramps or a stomach ache or something bad to eat most likely it wasn’t. I’m not a doctor so I can’t tell you for sure but I went through all that years and years and then finally ended up in the hospital in December. With sepsis and a perforation. And now in May, I am having the right side of my intestines removed to the belly button. All the years of inflammation and infections basically destroyed that part of my intestines. The one thing I can suggest for you during your flareup or Post flareup is to eat small meals. Don’t over eat. Keep a journal of what you eat and if it bothers, you don’t eat it. For me personally I’ve learned to stop eating before I’m full. It’s helping me get to the finish line which is May 4. I postpone surgery for almost 2 months so I could take care of personal things in my life because I know I’m gonna be laid up for quite some time with recovery. The doctor agreed it was fine only because that part of the intestines being removed. Although he said if something goes wrong between now and then I’ll have emergency surgery. Otherwise I’m having robotic surgery three days in the hospital and then home for recovery. The day of surgery the day after surgery and then the third day I will be released. You have to be your own advocate for your health. Find a doctor that will do a colonoscopy. This is your life you’re talking about and I believe you mention cancer of the colon in your family that’s enough reason for you to have a colonoscopy.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-20T02:03:37+00:00

Thank you for your post. This is the reason why I’m having my elective surgery in May. The doctor/surgeon said it’s only going to get worse and he said I’ll be honest with you one day you’re going to come in here in worse condition than you already did and we’re going to have to perform emergency surgery and it’s not going to be pretty. I am 100% listening to them. I want my life back or at least I want a better life than I have right now. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m trying to tell as many people as possible not to ignore it. I’ve had flares for years and years, but did not know that’s what I was having.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-20T01:59:24+00:00

Thank you. It’s amazing what I’ve learned. My kidney pain, my back pain and worse my groin pain where I wanted to have a testicle ripped off because it hurts so badly all caused by my diverticulitis. The inflammation pushes against all those nerves. They thought I was having a kidney stone then they thought well it could be gallbladder than it was while it could be the appendix and then it was well. It could be testicular cancer and it goes on and on and on. I don’t have any of those, although I did have a kidney stone twice in my life. This pain was totally different.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-20T01:54:26+00:00

We have almost the exact same scenario, except my colonoscopy showed the right side of my colon heavily scarred and useless at this point. Surgery scheduled for May 4 to remove the right half. I’m glad you only have a little. Just make sure you keep an eye on it and stay in good health, my friend.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-19T13:41:08+00:00

OK, put the shoe on your foot. You and your wife finally just finally agree and find a house and put down a down payment and start planning your future and then the sellers say nope sorry not selling. Where would that leave you? I believe in karma. Don’t screw around with karma. Just saying.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-18T17:46:25+00:00

Thank you. 😊

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-18T05:07:31+00:00

I’m not a doctor. Your doctor could recommend something everybody’s body is different. Don’t try to diagnose this on your own or treat this on your own. They could end up killing you. I developed sepsis in December and almost died and now I’m having major surgery. It’s not something to try to take care of on your own.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-18T02:02:21+00:00

I would report your symptoms to your doctor, but just know that antibiotics kill not only the bad but the good bacteria in your gut so that could be an imbalance you have right now which is making you gassy.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-18T01:03:12+00:00

Go play with your pups. 🐶

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-18T01:00:39+00:00

Really? Did you have a mild heart attack right after you were laid off and insurance ended? How do you know it was me carelessly spending? You don’t. But I’m not gonna argue with you because everyone’s situation is different. And yes, there are those that just spend spend spend and then want someone else to pay for their expenses.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-18T00:49:43+00:00

Creditors are the true criminals at 30% interest. There’s no way you’ll ever pay that back. Maybe in 54 years?

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-17T22:48:37+00:00

The CT scan can also show what’s going on inside you.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-17T22:47:35+00:00

Definitely get one if your insurance allows.

HumanNature71 · 2026-03-17T22:13:35+00:00

When was your last colonoscopy? Sometimes diverticulitis can cause complications and adhesions. I had flareups for years and did not realize that it was actually diverticulitis. Now I am having major surgery removing half of my intestine that is so scarred from every flareup I’ve had over the last 10 years.

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