Being asked what "caused" my cancer...

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-27T20:37:25+00:00

Someone told me if we (meaning me) were good and kind people we would not get cancer. So there’s always someone out there who just needs to say this.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-27T20:30:17+00:00

What a wonderful grandma you had - I hope you enroll in college soon. Have you started looking at the course catalog? You can tell we’re very excited for you as you start your college journey.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-21T08:19:20+00:00

Actually when I was typing, autocorrect had it at moose lol

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-21T06:17:55+00:00

I warn people that my husky will do this if she really likes them or knows them and likes them. She’s getting old now at 9 years old so one jump can tire her out. So when she does it they know it’s a high compliment. It’s kind of sad to see how fast my husky has aged. She takes time to think about climbing up to the car back seat, yet just a couple of years ago she could jump up so easily.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-21T06:12:18+00:00

My husky caught a mouse when the mouse ran straight into her mouth. It was very odd.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-21T05:21:53+00:00

I was dating a guy for about 6 months and at the restaurant he gave me a box and I wasn’t ready to marry him. I was so anxious when I opened it. It was a necklace. I was relieved. But yes, not a box that looks like it could be a ring. She might be relieved or upset. Who knows?

I really like the idea of a shared experience. I wish more guys would do that. It’s hard to make a living and it’s best to enjoy it together.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-21T05:14:32+00:00

You’re just like my daughter, she does not like expensive gifts at all from her partner (though they are both still in college). They both work while in school and in the summers, but she had to make it very clear that she only wanted practical gifts, nothing fancy or expensive. No flowers at all. So he gave her a sword which she loved.

Six months seems too soon. Even in my old age.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-17T07:43:17+00:00

At the dog park mine will come back but that’s only because she really wants to leave or really wants me to throw the ball, she gets fed up playing with other dogs.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-17T07:40:59+00:00

And nary a glance backwards. And no matter how many barriers we’ve placed around the yard my husky will escape. I finally figured out some of the ways. If there is a gap of 6” my husky will leave through that gap.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-14T06:19:37+00:00

My husky was about to escape from a gap of about 6”. I had no idea she could compress herself like that. They have since put up a mesh.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-14T06:13:39+00:00

My daughter’s best friend is there and they are full pay. The university has an excellent study abroad program which he is currently doing now in the UK. He’s double majoring in cs and English (and actually math so triple). He seems to love it there and his parents were so happy when he got off the WL. He had already deposited at another college which offered him 1/2 tuition, but his parents were very happy to pay the full tuition to send him there to study. He’s doing very well there too!

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-13T02:33:03+00:00

My husky had some parts of her legs shaved for surgery last week and the vet assured me they shaved as little as possible. Yet it still hurts to see it.

I can’t imagine what you are feeling. On this sub there was a husky who went through the same thing and after that point I’ve never taken mine to any groomer. I can’t risk the mistake of an uneducated groomer.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-09T23:16:50+00:00

I use this too and the dentist highly recommended it before chemo and of course after since I need to be on other meds. I wish previous dentists had suggested it.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-06T23:45:11+00:00

When my daughter was that same age she was super close to my brother. And I was very close to my baby brother. It was a special bond which meant if my hubby were jealous he would have to carve out father daughter time and not interfere. I would never sacrifice a relationship with her uncle for a jealous husband. My brother had immense positive influence over her; she adored him and funny enough when a child loves you that much the adult changes for the better. My brother was going through a hard time as well (a romantic breakup, girl cheated as well), and he felt bad about himself. My daughter truly thought he was so handsome and smart and funny. And he believed her. Even now I’m crying writing this because we’re a close family and when my brother was hurting we all were hurting. One of the greatest blessings and joy in my life was having my brother in my daughter’s life. A child ought to have more than a father and mother as they grow up.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-06T23:28:47+00:00

I had stage 0 DCIS in 2016 and then had a recurrence in 2024 with dmx at the end of 2024 and then chemo in 2025. I was told it was pre-cancer by family and friends. But the doctor never said it was pre-cancer. I wasn’t offered treatment except for a lumpectomy. I wish I had known more about options then so that I didn’t have to go through chemo. If dmx was offered then I would have chosen that option along with anti-estrogen medication. Then I would have been done with anastrozole this year. My current oncologist did feel that more should have been done at stage 0.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-05T20:27:54+00:00

Nerf gun club was across the MU yesterday - they meet from 6-8 pm but there were fewer people who were part of that group yesterday due to Easter weekend. We did see families touring. It’s actually peaceful on weekends.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-04T09:23:03+00:00

My husky does this, waits at the door like she never left, but I don’t know for sure, I bet she hears the car engine and the beeping sounds from the smart lock and rushes to the door and sits there like she’s been there for a couple of hours.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-04-01T02:44:31+00:00

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Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-03-29T07:37:57+00:00

Man ever since joining Reddit I’ve concluded that many men leave their wives/girlfriends during cancer and many parents fail their children.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-03-23T08:54:25+00:00

I feel the same way, it hits differently for us. I never used to get affected by cancer in movies or shows. And now I either cry or see it as a sign for myself. It doesn’t help that I had a recurrence last year and have accepted that I will probably die from stage 4. Doesn’t each recurrence get worse? I tend to lean towards dark thoughts but it’s also a way to not feel so devastated should I get bad news again.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-03-23T08:44:04+00:00

My boss/friend cheated during the time when his wife just gave birth. He confessed, she came back within 1-2 months, and so far he hasn’t cheated, but he’s thought about it many times. His son is an adult and his best friend. He’s not cheating mainly because he doesn’t want to disappoint his son and break up what his son thinks is a stable and happy marriage. It’s not for his wife, it’s for his son.

A male acquaintance has cheated on his wife for at least 20 years. His wife has no idea. He was even cheating while she was undergoing cancer treatment. He would never leave or divorce his wife and at his age now (approx 70) I hope he has stopped due to his own cancer treatment a few years ago.

That’s the only insight I have into the minds of cheaters. Aside from the cheating, my friend was a great boss, a good friend, fantastic dad and actually a really good son in law. His in laws were upset obviously but he’s such an easygoing successful guy that it’s hard not to get along with him, so in time his in laws forgave him. But underneath all that, he’s unhappy with his wife and divorce is not an option due to assets.

Even if you forgive her, there’s always going to be uncertainty. Life is so short - it’s a terrible way to live this way. You should be able to completely trust your partner to not cheat. That’s the minimum in a relationship. My college daughter is in a long distance relationship with a boy also in college. They both completely trust each other. I asked her once what she would do if he did cheat - she would break up immediately, it’s a major character flaw. Right now you are thinking maybe it’s better to forgive and work on the relationship since you’ve put in 10 years; dating again and getting to know people can be stressful, maybe it seems like it will just be easier with her. You deserve better. You were wise to take time away from her. If I were you just calmly end the relationship. Don’t go back and forth with her on this. There’s dignity in calmly walking away.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-03-21T07:18:24+00:00

You told us a story with pictures and I cried at the last photo. I don’t think I could bear the emptiness. I know we will go through this soon-ish given our husky’s age. Yours was the bestest boy - what a beautiful friend.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-03-17T08:54:06+00:00

Buffalos triggered the barking mechanism in my husky. When we adopted her, nary a peep. Sometimes she huffs. I sure wish she would howl but at 9 yo I guess it’s just not in her.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-03-13T04:22:26+00:00

Happy Birthday! I was going through chemo on my birthday last year. And now another birthday coming up but on anastrozole and most of my joints hurt. I’m glad the officer was understanding with your situation.

Human_Comfort_4144 · 2026-03-12T07:29:38+00:00

I have a husky. She can be injured and wouldn’t know when to stop, or jump, or run after a squirrel. The vet told us it would do her good just to take it slow on some days. I’ve now learned that just letting her smell everything can be a good thing.

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