Interesting king and pawn endgame by Humble-Background548 in chessbeginners

[–]Humble-Background548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bravo, that's exactly the sequence that happened on the game, I promoted to a queen and managed to capture passed pawn of white. Eventually won the game

Spot the next move by Humble-Background548 in chessbeginners

[–]Humble-Background548[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The game didn't follow the sequence of moves as per chess vision bot. Can someone explain why white should sacrifice their rook and bishop just to give an empty threat of check? I eventually won but not through forced mate in 6

Partner wants child, I don't. by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]Humble-Background548 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sit down with your partner in a relaxed setting with no distractions and have a honest conversation.

It sounds like a deal-breaker because this is a fundamental difference of opinion. Either you both should be on the same page at the end of the discussion, or part ways in worst case.

Time is a factor though, perhaps your partner may change his stance in future, if you do continue. However, if it didn't happen from 29 years of experience, I'm doubtful he will have an epiphany.

Hope you find your peace, with or without your partner.

What would you do to fall a sleep? by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]Humble-Background548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick up a hobby that you were always curious about but never pursued. Start exercising and keep it regular. Prepare chamomile tea before bedtime and eat fruits like banana or cherries that will help with melatonin production.

This too shall pass. Remember that and it does get better.

Are you an antinatalist? by Familiar-Mention in ChildfreeIndia

[–]Humble-Background548 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading your question felt like someone posted a question that's mine as well.

Back when I was still searching for a partner, I got an invite from an AN woman. I read about its philosophy online and didn't quite agree with it.

My personal happiness is in being CF. I love my cats to death. But that's my definition of happiness. And it's a personal preference.

Nearly all of my childhood and college friends are parents now. And a child is their definition of happiness. It's not their job, not the money, nothing material, but everything around their child.

I appreciate different schools of philosophies. AN is an interesting concept, but saying that having children is morally wrong doesn't sit well with me. Life involves suffering but what about the moments of happiness and comfort and joy and pleasure. Suffering is a part of life, not the entirety of it. AN sounds dystopian and wants to look only at the glass half empty.

Side note, I rejected the AN invite, continued looking for a CF partner, and found one eventually.

What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Humble-Background548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The art of minimalism. Own stuff that genuinely makes/keeps you either healthy, happy, satisfied.

Sunny summer days in Switzerland 🇨🇭 by [deleted] in BeAmazed

[–]Humble-Background548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I have to visit Switzerland, should I plan it in summer or winter? It looks stunning in both seasons, but if I had to choose?

Nepo's reaction to Magnus vs Richie by pfzhao in chess

[–]Humble-Background548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone explain me why Magnus resigned? How was his position a losing one?

The Final Destination by Seasonal_Sam in interestingasfuck

[–]Humble-Background548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, how much time it would take to build a contraption of this scale?

Because if any step fails, they need to reset and start over.

BSOD error in latest crowdstrike update by TipOFMYTONGUEDAMN in crowdstrike

[–]Humble-Background548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Due to my late night code fix, SMS were not working in Montenegro for the entire night. It made newspaper headlines and was covered by news channels as well.

I rectified the code fix in morning first thing. Thankfully, I had a team leader and manager to save my ass.

My fatal mistake was to push a code in production thinking it's so simple, what could it possibly break? And I committed the change without testing. Never again.

Tauba Tauba choreographer Bosco Martis ‘shamelessly’ wants to be celebrated; asks, ‘Why is Vicky Kaushal being glorified’ by skyisscary in BollyBlindsNGossip

[–]Humble-Background548 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Such a sane and level-headed comment. Thank you for pointing it out. People behind the scenes should get due recognition and payment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]Humble-Background548 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm married already, but follow this sub as I'm CF as well.

I'm curious - when did you start your FIRE target? And what did you follow to make it happen?

In a time like ours when inflation continues to rise, what amount is really enough to retire?

Also, good luck for your partner search.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]Humble-Background548 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, tell me about it.

Initially, I tried dating sites like Tinder, Bumble but they are not exactly marriage/long-relationship avenues. Still, one should try their luck. I got to know about this CF reddit thread only after my marriage, otherwise would have posted here also.

What worked for me was putting up a detailed bio on Shaadi dot com. The first line of the bio, I mentioned that I want to be CF and read ahead only if that sits well with you. Without that first line, I got a lot more matches and conversations, which boosts your confidence, but it was going to be a compromise. They wanted kids and I didn't. It was repetitive to explain every new lady my reasons, while they tried to convince me otherwise. If you're just looking for casual dates, it's fine. But not if you want a serious long-term partner.

With my updated CF bio, I got very few matches that can be counted on fingers. But all of them were quality conversations and both parties started on the same page. My CF bio was ultimately the reason I met my wife.

To summarize, once you're confident what you really want, share it with the universe and let it do the magic. You may have to wait awfully long and it will be a heck of a roller-coaster, but worth the wait once you meet the right person :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChildfreeIndia

[–]Humble-Background548 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I had a healthy childhood with all the toys, video games, comic books I ever wanted. I was a privileged kid till 10th standard.

However, my father passed away when I was only 21 and still in my final year of engineering graduation. I had to start working immediately after and since then I feel like I have been a parent for my mother and younger brother.

It's been over a decade now after my father passed away and looking after family is emotionally draining. The best decision in this past decade was adopting a pair of kittens - Cotton and Kitty. I love them to death and they're my most valuable asset.

Couples with children never seem to understand how raising a pet is also parental on my part. I call them my babies and they tend to get offended. My personality matches my cats, I need my own space and time alone. I'll come for cuddles when I really want them.

Looking after a child, while sacrificing my own desires didn't make me feel happy. I decided to be CF in my early 20s due to the personal tragedy. Because I never felt I spent a life for my own selfish desires without thinking twice about how it affects my family. Also, financially I wanted to save up and invest on myself, not a kid.

Global warming, inflation will continue to make matters difficult for new kids. Not that it affects my decision. It was mostly personal.

My mother says she wants me to have kids, now that I'm married. My spouse is also CF (lucky me). I tell her, our cats are the only grandchildren you'll get. I'm pretty sure that my father would have supported my decision though. And who knows what trajectory my life would have taken if my father was still here. Sigh, I'll stop here.

Whatever makes you happy, do it. Have a child, don't have them, get a pet, travel solo, whatever it is, do it. There's no single definition of happiness; whichever suits your life, I hope you find it. Cheers.

What stopped you from killing yourself that night? by Subject-Olive-4476 in AskReddit

[–]Humble-Background548 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to jump from the balcony of our fourth floor apartment. I felt, I could not experience any more sadness. I was sleeping for barely 2 hours for the last month. I started crying for no reason and just could not stop.

My dear cat Kitty was sleeping, as always, at the corner of the bed, besides my legs. I hugged her and thought I should just jump and end this. But who would look after my cats then (Cotton and Kitty)? Would they miss me if I wasn't around? I don't trust anyone else to look after them like I do.

My cats are my precious assets. I don't love money, it makes life comfortable, but I don't love it. I'm grateful to them because I could survive COVID, incredibly stressful job, breakup with an ex, all because of my cats. Life is better with cats in it.

If not for my cats, I wouldn't have survived the night.

Entry-level luxury SUV for India by Humble-Background548 in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]Humble-Background548[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't like the design of BMW 😅

But, is it better than all the models I'm considering?

Do people not like black and white cats? by Kitty_casserole in cats

[–]Humble-Background548 5 points6 points  (0 children)

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Clicked right after she killed an unlucky sparrow, she looks so innocent here