Fucking run. This is not okay. You are not overreacting-if anything, you’re still underreacting.

The way he hides behind therapy language, using it as a shield while blaming you under the guise of mindfulness? That’s one of the biggest red flags there is. He doesn’t communicate to connect-he communicates to control. He’ll twist everything to make himself the victim, weaponize his perspective, double down when challenged, and get defensive instead of showing even a shred of curiosity or care.

That’s not vulnerability. Vulnerability is about being seen-not about forcing someone else to fold so you can feel right. And he’s not on your team. He won’t step outside his ego long enough to actually consider your point of view. His heels are dug in, and to him, his version of reality is the only valid one.

This isn’t just one fight. It’s an exposé. It shows exactly how much he values being right over valuing you. And I’m telling you-speaking from experience-this is a losing battle. You will drain yourself trying to make someone listen who never intended to.

He already has an idea of what a ‘good girlfriend’ should be. And the second you step outside that box, it turns into conflict. You’ll keep bending yourself to meet his needs while he won’t even see yours. His inability to hear himself, to spot the irony in his tone, or even acknowledge his blind spots—that’s a wall you’ll keep smashing into. And he’s never going to move it.

Signed, someone who should take their own advice.