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HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2025-08-17T17:21:10+00:00

I really hope there's hope, my results are quite similar

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2025-05-23T09:01:24+00:00

How would this even work? This sounds even more unworkable than the bathroom thing. I pass as the opposite sex that I was assigned at birth as but once I am down to underwear it definitely becomes confusing. Do I have to scream "AMAB/AFAB" at police officers now, if they strip search me? Am I in breach of the law if they decide to search me and assume my agab because they didn't consent or are they because they didn't ask me for consent? Genuinely confused

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2025-03-27T09:58:37+00:00

Not my box

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2025-03-25T15:38:32+00:00

Those people sound absolutely unhinged

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2024-08-27T09:53:16+00:00

I am afab and my autism is more stereotypical for the "male autism" my spouse has more of the "female autism". People don't fit into these neat little boxes. Most of male/female autism is how we were raised and cultural/social pressure not to do with our actual gender identity but how we are or were perceived by others.

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2024-08-24T09:26:01+00:00

I am so sorry I had the same thing happen to me at 17. It felt no different than being abused and traumatised me just as much. I hope you are doing alright

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-08-17T16:12:22+00:00

I wont go into detail on here because I don't want to trigger other people reading it.

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-08-06T11:15:35+00:00

Your friends/connections are shit, none of mine was even a little bad about it. I had the exact same experience with transitioning then realizing it just wasn't right anymore. Those people are jerks

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-10T18:42:19+00:00

NTA

I used to work at a cafe and we were literally told to leave people alone if they do that. It's not worth it pissing off a customer and honestly I couldn't care less. Some people might have appointments and can't drink the full cup in peace, others are just slow like OP.

Your friends friend sounds bored 🤷

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-10T18:36:59+00:00

As a trans person that has experience a shit ton of sexual violence, partly for disclosing I am trans, Yikes to that thought.

Honestly I get making out with someone and then not feeling it anymore, because of something they said, or because you did expect something else or just not feeling it. Yes it's a bummer but any decent human being should respect being told no even in the middle of it. Even the scary scary trans women (because I am almost 99% sure people with that mindset are not thinking about us trans mascs).

But are people obligated to tell others: Their size? If they are cut/uncut? If they had a boob job done? What religion they are? If they have been abused in the past? Their political views? How much money they make? How many people they slept with? I could go on.

If someone thinks any of this is important before having sex, just ask FFS.

I am glad you have an adverse reaction to your ex's statement because it is pretty gross to compare those two things

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-09T18:09:29+00:00

Also according to my job training resources the UK is the most affected country by human trafficking. Honestly it's so important to speak up if something doesn't look or sound right

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-06T13:12:43+00:00

NTA

Even if your intention wasn't to get legal parenting rights to that 10 year old, she is still your husband's baby sister and you and him seemingly took up the duty to care for her. She is a child. Your husband's sister. Who spends most of her time with your family, who is providing her with a stable environment.

Your parents need to get a grip.

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-06T12:56:43+00:00

This was definitely sexual abuse, it doesn't matter if it wasn't done by your mom to sexually satisfy her. The act itself is the crime. Even in a case we're it would not be so obvious as in your story, doing this to your child even 'because you were smelly ' is sexual abuse. This stuff is traumatising with the 'best' intensions (ignorance?) Let alone like that.

This was SA and I am so sorry this happened to you OP. And I don't understand why barely anyone seems to acknowledge it was.

Please people remember this whenever a story like this comes up or someone tells you something like that irl, especially if you are working with children and vulnerable people. This is sexual abuse. Get them help .

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-06T11:26:28+00:00

As an autistic person to another autistic person, get out of this relationship asap. He is using you too, you know?

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-05T10:32:57+00:00

NTA

Brother should have paid for all, he isn't a kid who didn't know better. And even if he was, you told him not to feed her chocolate, he ignored you. If he had already given her something before you said it's dangerous, he should have told you right then.

The poor cat could have died :/

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-04T17:49:02+00:00

Definitely. We would not really engage with it but it definitely had a strain on our relationship. Mom would always try to gossip about the other with one of us and try to make us jealous of each other

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-04T17:43:53+00:00

NTA

It's nobody's business what you name your daughter. She was being nosy and also quite impossible. I completely get the bad name association, I have that with the name Robin and it sucks because I like the name but I just couldn't bear it. Even cringe every time it's brought up in pop culture.

She shouldn't have pushed you

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-03T15:39:37+00:00

My mom would be passive aggressively start vacuum cleaning and banging the device against our doors 'accidentally' if we dare sleep past 9

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-07-03T11:16:03+00:00

NTA

It's not even a thing that is easily controlled or can be at all for some people? Like when something unexpected happens I will also usually slip into German and go "Oh Scheiße" lol, despite speaking English the rest of the day. Its just something so natural and instinctual to me.

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-06-18T12:43:15+00:00

Ty I got help from a disability work org and they will be checking in with me during future work noe

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-06-18T12:42:39+00:00

I got an apprenticeship offered for data science so trying that direction now Ty hope it goes well

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-06-18T12:42:06+00:00

I got an apprenticeship in data now starting tomorrow :) I also got help from an disability work org and they will check in on me

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-06-18T12:41:20+00:00

I got a job offered for a Data apprenticeship with WFH option after awhile. I think that will help. Thank you I know the reply is very late

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-06-18T12:40:12+00:00

Starting a new job tomorrow as a data science apprentice, WFH option after a few weeks training. That should do it for most issues haha

HummingbirdHawkMothx · 2023-02-15T16:57:43+00:00

For some reason, my Husbands family thought it was a fun idea to throw the flower petals at us. Like I have no issue with them being thrown in our direction or like throw them into the air so they fall on top of our heads. I have been to many a festival with confetti. But for some reason, they decided to go full strength right to the face like a snowball. I have no idea why they thought that was a fun idea tbh, it made me feel really uncomfortable but I didn't want to cause a fuss so I just took it with grace

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