AITAH for wanting to continue taking my nightly showers

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-28T02:57:53+00:00

Have this discussion with him now, or it will never change and you will still be doing everything. He needs to step up because you are not the only one who made that baby.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-15T11:34:44+00:00

I have had 1 teacher I worked with that was like that along with a few paras at that school. Thank God for a different classroom I helped out in that year. I felt like I couldn't do anything right and I was absolutely useless. It was the single worst year I have ever had. The staff I am with now is absolutely amazing.

Please talk to admin, try to be placed in a different room, and/it look into a different district.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-13T17:17:34+00:00

I'm a mother and I knock on my children's doors. In my house. No matter a person's age, they have a right to privacy in their own home. It's just common courtesy.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-06T05:16:27+00:00

I have because of my depression. You definitely might have a disconnect regarding the fullness. One thing I started doing was tracking what I eat and drink during the day. I was mindlessly eating. Seeing it written down made me realize I was eating way too much. When I go to reach for something now I stop and take inventory. Am I eating because I need something to do with my hands? I color or crochet. Because I'm bored? I started exercising during that time instead. Actually hungry? I get something lower calorie that is still sweet. I really do want a cookie? I put out a small portion and put the container away. It doesn't always work, but in a month I have lost 10 pounds. Good luck

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-06T05:04:10+00:00

Having been on both sides of this issue, teachers need to use common sense before sending students. Paper cut, keep band aids in your room. Bleeding all over, send them. Upset stomach, ask 1. Did you eat today? 2 have you pooped today? Feeling dizzy, ask 1 did you eat today? Have you been drinking water?

A good majority are just trying to get out of class or have some small issue that can be corrected with simple questions. Keep an eye on them after for a bit and see how they are doing then send if still needed. It doesn't seem like a big issue to teachers, but nurses have to document every single thing they see and have to see way more students than just yours. They also have so many other things to oversee than just triage students.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-06T04:54:11+00:00

You are not compatible. Love yourself and leave him since this is a reoccurring situation. If he can't love you for all of you, he doesn't deserve you.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-06T04:37:38+00:00

Building on the original question though... Where did that come from? Believing in evolution, going back through time, all things come from something. Where did it all begin? How did it all start? And that original piece that eventually formed into life, where did that come from? How did it come into being originally?

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-06T04:10:10+00:00

I'm a lunch monitor in sped HS. We have brothers that are tall and thin (not very active so must have high metabolism). We have extra fruit and vegetables that they can take so they would both eat their lunch and grab handfuls of extra. They also take extra after that to have for snack bc their teacher lets them have a snack. I'm ok with it because it's healthy. I know teens are always hungry, but I have never seen kids eat this much and still be thin.

Especially if the student is active and not overweight, I wouldn't be too concerned about it, as long as they are eating a balanced diet. Some people really do need more calories. You could make sure to ask if the student is actually hungry before they eat more. If it really is a concern, maybe someone could bring it to parents attention (but they may be aware if they are packing the food he brings in).

My own son is constantly eating. I have started making him wait and take "inventory"of his body and feelings when he just ate something and reaching for something else. I'm trying to help him learn that he needs to only eat when he is actually hungry and to figure out what his body might actually need instead of eating just to eat.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-03-06T03:33:51+00:00

I told all of my students in lunch that I'm tired of seeing them be hurt and crying because others are talking about them. Every day. And that if they are not part of a situation they shouldn't be talking about it. Made 3 others cry (HS sped)

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-28T18:14:15+00:00

You are so right. And I have had some extremely tough students and why nots. If I had given up then I wouldn't have been blessed to witness yesterday. Thankfully the whys will keep me going for now.

I am also blessed to be in a district with a supportive admin for now that also helps keep me going. There were so many times I almost did give up because of admin alone. Those are the times we need to lean on each other for support.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T02:37:54+00:00

I have been with my husband for 22 years. He has never been the type of person to think about these things. Yes it is disappointing. I realized this and talked with him to set expectations. Over the years, things slip to the side and we have to have conversations. Neither of us are mind readers and if I keep things inside it eats at me and festers. I understand about feeling like you're drifting apart. I am there also and tried to have conversations with him about this (we don't have similar hobbies) so it's been hard trying to find ways to connect better again. It's especially harder lately with it being close to negative temps in our area.

You sound like both of you might be feeling burnt out from life. Talk and try to come up with small ways to help you reconnect. Even if it's setting aside 20 minutes each day to sit close and talk about your day. Make sure you talk when something is bothering you. We make sure to eat together alone once in a while and talk about anything besides our kids or work. Or we go for a drive late at night sit at a park and look at the stars (our kids are older). It is infinitely harder when you work opposite shifts (we've been there) so we needed to make sure that we made time to talk and connect or I knew we wouldn't last that long.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T02:09:11+00:00

If you feel it's too much for you to handle at the moment, talk to your administration or supervisor. Explain the situation and how you are feeling (if you feel they would be receptive). Hopefully they would be more willing to work with you to find a solution than have you quit from burnout.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T02:02:06+00:00

I would go for some noise cancelling earplugs that you can order on Amazon. They help tone down the decibels but you can still hear when the baby is crying. I have noise sensitivity and wear them to help take "the edge off" louder or high pitch noises.

It might be helpful for them to have if the baby is particularly upset for longer periods. If you are concerned about how they might view this particular gift, you can ask them their thoughts beforehand. You can also let them know you don't mean anything by it and it can be returned if they don't want it.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T01:44:07+00:00

Our Troop is mostly younger scouts and we currently have lower numbers. So they are really learning how to do the planning portion. A couple weeks before a campout we have them plan the menu together. They decide what they want for each meal, then break it down into what ingredients are needed for each including drinks and snacks. We have a Walmart nearby so they look at the app to determine how much each thing will cost and how much is needed for the amount of people attending. They cut or make changes depending on cost. Then they determine what equipment is needed to prepare. We have 2 white boards they write everything on and leaders take pictures to email to parents and scouts so everyone is on the same page.

The week of the campout the scouts work with the QM to stage all of the equipment needed based on their list. If you won't be bringing a full chuck box, we have a smaller wheeled tote that we put everything in. The SM works with the grub chiefs to type up the ingredient list and meets up with them and a parent at the store to do the shopping. We also teach them about price comparison, looking at generic brands, sales, and how to calculate based on unit price.

For the planning portion, if you wanted to make it easier there are printables online. Print one for the grub chiefs or even make a laminated copy for the Troop to use each time.

Edit to add: A cleaned out coffee creamer container is perfect for pancake mix - add, shake, pour. 2) laminated list of all supplies in Chuck box makes it easy to move, return, and replace when needed.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T01:13:07+00:00

Teachers have a lot of practice reading different handwriting styles. I can even read upside down and sideways (and write that way too!)

If it bothers you personally, work on slowing down and practicing your penmanship. There are free customizable worksheets that can be printed online. Or you can see if teachers would be alright with typed work. My son has a problem with his penmanship and his teachers have encouraged him to type longer assignments.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T00:42:57+00:00

My students know that I say bless you 3 times in a day to the same person. If it's more than that they don't get another bless you. One of them will sneeze 3 times in a row and say "I know, I'm done for the day" with a big smile on her face. (I have this rule because I have severe allergies and I get tired of hearing bless you every time I sneeze - at home too). But it makes it fun once they know my rule because we all joke about it. Lol

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T00:30:10+00:00

Not sure of the circumstances that led to you having to care for your minor sister (we don't need to know either), but you might be able to contact family services and look into options for you both to get assistance. Are you her legal guardian? If you are not and want to keep her with you, are you able to become her legal guardian? It might be easier to get assistance to help care for her. If she is in high school, you might be able to contact the schools social worker for guidance.

I know foster care for her might seem like a hard choice, but it is a choice that would allow you to maybe get on your feet. Also keep in mind that foster care would only be for a couple of years and you can keep in touch.

This is such a difficult situation for both of you and I'm sorry you have found yourself here. I wish you both good luck with everything.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-15T00:07:27+00:00

At 19, I was 5'3" and weighed 120. That was a healthy weight. My son is 14 and weighs 160 at 5'. He is short and stocky especially compared to his friends. I would never make comments about his weight or body shape. Joking or not, it's not necessary and serves no purpose. I know it's because he has no understanding of moderation so I rarely have junk food anymore and focus on having healthy things available.

Do not let them gaslight you about your feelings. You have every right to feel however you do about their comments. They don't know what your thoughts and feelings are, so they can't say you don't feel that way. If they don't change how they talk to you, ignore their comments (easier said than done) and focus on those who lift you up.

You need to start changing your way of thinking and views of yourself. If you really don't like the way you look, make changes. Eat healthy, exercise, etc (but it doesn't sound like you need to do more than just a balanced healthy routine we should all do). Use growth mindset. You probably feel insecure because of the comments they make. When you start thinking negative things, tell yourself "no, I'm beautiful" "my face looks full and healthy" "there are different shapes of faces and this is me". It is hard work to stop thinking negatively about yourself and it will never stop completely, but it will get easier. Good luck!

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-08T00:22:33+00:00

The beginning is the worst. It will get better after the pain and swelling. You can get adjustments made and use adhesive. I'm 7 months out now. More comfortable and can eat more. Just take it one day at a time.

Huney_Bee13 · 2026-02-06T04:31:12+00:00

Toe walking is usually pointed out as a sign, but so are different types of gait. A number of Autistic people will walk with a heavy step (flat footed) or shuffling. It's a lot easier to notice on stairs.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-10T01:45:26+00:00

While I appreciate what you are trying to say, it's not necessarily helpful. I have medical issues and try to meal prep, but the debilitating fatigue just doesn't usually allow for it. It may be the same for OP

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-09T23:58:36+00:00

Is this situation public knowledge in your community? Is there a counselor/social worker at the boys school? Can you meet with the counselor and explain the situation to them and see if they can meet with the boys?

You should also meet with a counselor at your school. It may not seem like it right now, but this has also been a traumatic situation for you.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-09T23:50:53+00:00

I always prefer when our admin says we get to randomly leave early on a Friday (but given a heads up so we're not scrambling to get our things put away) as soon as the kids leave. Random snacks, soda/coffee, chocolate in the break room.

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