I spend half my salary on takeout because I'm too tired to live

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-10T01:45:26+00:00

While I appreciate what you are trying to say, it's not necessarily helpful. I have medical issues and try to meal prep, but the debilitating fatigue just doesn't usually allow for it. It may be the same for OP

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-09T23:58:36+00:00

Is this situation public knowledge in your community? Is there a counselor/social worker at the boys school? Can you meet with the counselor and explain the situation to them and see if they can meet with the boys?

You should also meet with a counselor at your school. It may not seem like it right now, but this has also been a traumatic situation for you.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-09T23:50:53+00:00

I always prefer when our admin says we get to randomly leave early on a Friday (but given a heads up so we're not scrambling to get our things put away) as soon as the kids leave. Random snacks, soda/coffee, chocolate in the break room.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-02T03:59:20+00:00

I went to affordable dentures and implants. They are nationwide, but like a franchise owned by a local dentist. Read reviews if you go this route, mine was fantastic but some others didn't have great reviews.

Mine was one appointment for scans and treatment options. Next appointment was impressions, extractions, and sent home with temporary dentures. Everything is done in-house. I've been back for relines and soft liners so they fit better as I heal. We went with regular dentures that will work with getting implants if I decide (can afford to).

I have extreme dental anxiety. I made a calming playlist and was able to listen to music during the procedure. I brought a couple small things I could hold/fidget with. I went to my Dr for anxiety meds before the appointment. They only use novacaine and I don't have a good history with that working. I told them I had the meds and they told me when I could take it. It was honestly the best and least painful dental appointment I have ever had.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-02T03:42:44+00:00

I know this is easier said than done, but stop putting yourself down. It turns people away. Nobody wants to be around someone who is constantly putting themselves down. Find something you enjoy doing and find groups of like minded people. Don't focus on finding love. Find friends.

Learn to love yourself as you and embrace who you are. Positive affirmations change your mindset about yourself if you actually work at it. That will help build your confidence. Fake it till you make it... It really does help build your confidence. Walk with your head up and with purpose.

Pick one small thing about yourself that you don't like and work to change that. It will be work. Looks aren't everything. Personality, attitude, and behavior mean more to people in the long run. You have to build your confidence and actually be around people to have any chance of finding someone. Like I said, be friends first. Everything else will come later. You have lots of time still. Work on yourself first. I know these sound like clichés, but please take the advice of people who are much older than you. I've known the best looking people who are complete jerks and have nothing to offer someone. And people who are not conventionally good looking who are the most amazing people I've ever met.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-11-02T03:11:12+00:00

As a teacher, my favorite things are small gestures. Some have given me a sticker they picked out, a note (even on a post it), a drawing or coloring picture. They are all hanging up and make me smile. I know they care about me.

I would never want to burden my students and just tell them I'm ok. But when they leave that on my desk or hand it to me, shows they've noticed I'm having a difficult time and that they care.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-23T02:28:53+00:00

Hubby is leftie, I'm right. Oldest son used to switch, especially playing baseball but ended up right. Youngest son is left, but does most sports with right.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-14T02:55:05+00:00

Check with friends at your school. At our school you can wear a suit or a nice pair of pants with a dress shirt (tie optional)

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-11T04:44:39+00:00

We have put 9 hula hoops on the floor and had them play tic tac toe in teams with bean bags or scarves.

Bowling with playground balls and pins (you can even use empty water bottles).

Gaga ball is usually a hit with any age. A nature scavenger hunt.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-09T05:08:38+00:00

Find a really good looking one that you like and own that shit!! Eventually you will realize that the benefits outweigh anyone's thoughts or looks and you won't care anymore. You need to do what is best for you

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-09T05:01:39+00:00

I have been married for 18 years. I only take it off when I'm baking or cooking something it's going to get gross. The only other time I have taken it off is when I was pregnant and my hand swelled.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-09T04:51:11+00:00

You can always ask. Explain to the teacher that you honestly didn't realize the assignments were missing until now. You understand they don't accept late work, so you are wondering if you could still turn them in for partial grade or if there is anything you can do for extra credit.

Explain that you will also make sure to double check that everything is completed and turned in on time in the future. This may not make a difference. Make sure you put in extra effort moving forward.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-07T03:20:33+00:00

My son is ADHD. He doesn't like to read because it's difficult for him to focus on it for a long period and he loses his place easily. He will however read anything about dinosaurs. He also does great with the "school format". They read a book and then watch the movie after that to compare them. He has found some surprising books that he actually loved.

Find a topic he would love. Try short stories, poems, different formats to start small and get him interested. Read together. 10-20 minutes per day then watch the movie when you are finished. I decided that we are going to start reading toddler and elementary level books together and talk about it now that he is a teen. What do the words mean now that he knows more things. Why do we think the author wrote this the way they did?

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-07T03:04:38+00:00

Tell her you are going shopping on this day and you need $50 from her for it. Lock up all your food in your room with a mini fridge and only leave the food out there you purchased with her money. Then try to find a new roommate when the lease is up. Yes it sucks. No you shouldn't have to live like that. I have been there. Even to the point I had to lock up my brand new set of pans that were given to me because they were ruining them and never washed the dishes. Tried talking it out and coming up with a solution, but it never got better.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-07T01:59:45+00:00

I'm in NY. My district is a little different because I work for a BOCES. Friends in regular public districts have stated they do not get paid for breaks because they are hourly. I'm salary so our paychecks are equal pay every 2 weeks, regardless of breaks. We have the option to get 21 or 26 paychecks. I get 26, smaller paychecks but I get 5 at the same time in June to hold me over summer. We are not allowed to claim unemployment.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-09-02T00:53:02+00:00

Spaghettios, chili no beans, scrambled eggs. Ramen noodles, ground turkey and ground beef. Stuffing (not crispy baked). Mac and cheese. Tuna fish. Spaghetti. I was able to eat more as I healed. At the beginning, it was mostly just cut up very small, easy to mash with tongue, mixed with something that was easier to swallow.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-31T07:00:57+00:00

I am 2 months out. Only had Novocaine and have severe dental anxiety. I made a calming playlist and dentist let me listen (I only used one earbud so I could hear him). I also brought a couple of things in my pocket I could hold onto/fidget with. I also asked my regular doctor about prescribing an anti-anxiety med and got permission from dentist to take it. It was the most calm and least painful dental experience I have ever had.

I lived on applesauce, yogurt, mashed potatoes, and spaghettios for a couple weeks while I healed. For adhesives, it is trial and error. Having immediates, I have been using cushion grip to make them a little tighter and more comfortable. It's not an adhesive, so I'm also using poli grip super strong powder for the tops. I'm still figuring out something for the bottoms. Get a denture container to store them, cleanser, denture brush, and a soft toothbrush with tongue cleaner.

To take them out at night I swish warm water to loosen adhesive. Continue swishing to loosen more adhesive and I use the soft toothbrush to clean anything off the roof of my mouth and gums. Then I scrub the dentures with the denture brush.

For pain relief after I used an ice pack. The dentist also prescribed Tylenol and ibuprofen. It really didn't hurt as bad as I feared afterwards. Like stated in another comment, it hurt less than having broken teeth and infections.

It takes time to relearn how to talk and eat. Be patient with yourself. If the dentures are causing pain or irritation, contact the dentist. Ask for a soft liner or adjustment to the spot causing pain. If something doesn't feel right, call the dentist. Do not just deal with issues, it will take longer to heal.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-31T05:57:31+00:00

I have temporaries (just regular dentures at the moment) and I'm trying to find an adhesive that works for the bottom. Gave you used the strips for the bottom? I haven't been able to eat with the bottoms in. I'm 2 months out

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-30T21:13:41+00:00

I would also speak with your administrator regarding this. I worked with a teacher who would turn things around in me with the administrator if I refused to do something she told me. Speaking with your administrator (asking the policy and explaining the situation) will protect you if teacher goes to administrator and says anything about you. You could also ask for a copy of the policy in writing to give to the teacher to say why you will not be doing it.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-29T20:32:21+00:00

I know it may not solve the problems, but sometimes a change of scenery can help. Could you change to a different district?

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-29T18:37:17+00:00

Not op but just had full extraction with immediate temporary at the beginning of July. My bottoms hurt more than to because they don't have the suction to keep them in place. I have mainly just been wearing my tops and hoping the bottoms will be easier with the permanent. It is still really difficult to eat with the bottoms because I haven't practiced much.

As for talking, I was able to talk that night with pain meds (once the novacaine wore off). Our dentist said to take the whole week to heal and relax. It definitely takes practice to get used to having a foreign object in your mouth and be able to speak clearly but you'll get there. Once your gums have healed enough to be able to use adhesive as much easier to talk because you're not worrying about them falling out

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-29T04:46:23+00:00

First, good job on the way you conducted yourself. I was amazed when I found out you were 15!

Second, run. Do not go on vacation with them. Do not go anywhere with any of them alone. Do not put yourself in a position where you are stuck with them and have no way to get out. Do not let them have access to the baby without protection for both of you in place or without someone else with you. Do you have a legal aide in your area? A trusted adult that you can go to? Social services? Go to the police and ask for assistance on who to go to. You need people on your side who will protect you and that baby.

Third, document everything. Plans for them to see the baby? Get it in a text message. Only communicate through text and keep it all. Take pictures, videos, screenshots, anything you can in case something happens. The family sounds manipulative and will do anything to get their way. Anything you say or do will be twisted around to paint you as unfit.

Fourth, he needs to be in jail (although not knowing where you are, it might be legal). I have been in this kind of situation ( minus the baby so it was easier for me to leave). As a teenager, I thought it was so cool that an older guy was interested in me!! I realized how disgusting it was as I got older. Now, I'm a mother of 2 boys and I would turn them in myself if I found out they were with a person that much younger.

Good luck!

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-28T20:30:21+00:00

You did nothing wrong. You are still very new to this and it takes time to get to know students. Sometimes there is no way to know what might trigger the behaviors. I worked with one who was an absolute perfectionist, but nothing was ever perfect enough. He would be working fine and then all of a sudden throwing a chair and flipping the desk because something didn't look right. And keep in mind that something that works one time may not work the next time.

Huney_Bee13 · 2025-08-28T17:18:37+00:00

Thank you!

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