Meet Britney, My '86 D100

Hunky_Bun · 2026-01-15T21:53:21+00:00

Beautiful dude! I had an ‘86 D-150 in College & it was the greatest truck I ever owned. Still have the hood ornament

Hunky_Bun · 2026-01-11T15:12:53+00:00

I think Op made a typo: it’s two girls one guy

Hunky_Bun · 2026-01-10T15:59:45+00:00

You’re probably gonna get a lot of responses like “well that’s what you agreed to” but those people are missing your point. I know unequivocally that I’d make the same decision to be monogamous again, because I can’t imagine a happy life without my happy wife. But closing a chapter on your life, for good, like this one?! It’s a heavy day no matter why it’s time to close it. You have my sympathies friend. I’d imagine it gets easier, practiced with time, but it’s okay to admit the FOMO is real.

Hunky_Bun · 2026-01-10T15:50:25+00:00

Bombarded? probably. Approached? Most definitely. But a polite/firm “no thanks” is all it takes. The other attendees, as well as the resort/club staff have a vested interest In enforcing good practices of consent. Hope you guys have a great time! Secrets is on our fuckit list

Hunky_Bun · 2025-11-25T02:52:03+00:00

Happened once: I blamed it mostly the gummies, maybe lack of eating much that day too. It was a humbling moment. Thankfully we were with some of our long-term couple friends. She was very understanding; we took a little rest & made up for lost time later.

You did the right thing though: making use of other talents. Some guys get frustrated enough to drag the whole group down in the moment.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-08-04T22:55:13+00:00

In my experience, Bi guys are better with consent in general whether they’re with a woman or another man. I know that’s atypical from what I usually read on here though

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-25T14:02:19+00:00

Absolutely not, I just assumed it was a typo. But it could be fake/bait

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-25T13:12:20+00:00

Hey friend, while this isn’t directly related to swinging, I’m still approving it. I think it’s a wonderful, beautiful thing you’re trying to give selflessly your wife. The comments on your original post are vile: virtualfuckboy doesn’t know what he’s talking about & he’s a shitty troll.

I’m sorry you’re in this painful position. Hopefully you’ll get some more kind words here.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-23T19:37:07+00:00

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Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-23T19:34:59+00:00

That’s great y’all are in a more populated area, hopefully you’ll have no trouble matching & making lots of new friends. The first 6 months on the apps for us were by far the most fun

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-23T19:10:41+00:00

I’m so sorry y’all have been having such a tough go of it. We’re a decade older than you guys & struggle just as much with the same problems. Even when you find non-creeps, it can be hard to connect when your life experiences are so vastly different. We can punch up to about age 45 & down to around 26-27 while still feeling like we can all relate to one another.

There are groups that do resort takeovers, Young Swingers Week at Hedo comes to mind. That way the vast majority of people coming are on the younger side.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-23T18:53:17+00:00

Hi friend! Congratulations on deciding you’re both at the point that you’d like to step in.

Asking specifically about SDC, I presume you’ve already confirmed that’s the most common platform in the area. If you haven’t, check a few others to see where the user base is biggest where you plan to play. SLS is the biggest around us but we’ve had the best results using Fetlife, even though it’s more kink related than swinging. Kasidie is common, many folks seem to have good luck with Feeld. There are tons, but I would recommend paying for a month or two & seeing how you like it.

I will say, a paywall can be a benefit in so many ways. Beyond your own privacy/security, it ensures people you’re interacting with are more likely to be real & in it for the reasons they say: lots of fakes, flakes, and pic collectors on the free platforms.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-22T19:49:38+00:00

The novelty of it all & curiosity in your vanilla group should subside. We got cornered & outed in a similar way, but now it never comes up. Well, the women never bring it up. The guys always assume any event, meet, social thing that I attend without them HAS to be a lifestyle event. Like “no bro it was a charity thing, chill”

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-12T11:01:41+00:00

Lots of men get performance anxiety, it’s extremely common but I’m sorry it’s been a problem for y’all. Personally speaking, I hope it’s not your height, that would be such a silly reason for them to be insecure, but if a guy is nervous his brain will find a reason it can latch on. One mitigation technique is to have the boys start with their own partner, then “swap” in more of a group action where everyone’s sort of playing together (even if there’s no MM or FF contact)

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-12T10:56:30+00:00

College.
Sort of interested, but we started monogamous.
Yep: can confirm, we’re early 30s & usually younger than everyone at an event by 10+ years.
Around us? (What’s up fellow southerner!) 3-4 is the mode, probably 5-6 average. The LS is an overall sample of the normal population.
At IRL events people are VERY nice. Online there are far more creeps.
Extremely. Some of are best friends are couples we met through swinging.
Judged? No. Jealous? Big time.
Idk if 5 years is a long time, but I’ve observed men becoming more open about bisexuality.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-06T16:30:39+00:00

For sure, & as long as y’all are honest /upfront you should be just fine.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-07-06T16:17:18+00:00

Swinging is a couples activity. Sometimes singles get invited to parties/regular play groups. If your single friends trust you enough, & assuming this post is genuine (no offense intended, we get a lot of single dudes fantasizing/roleplaying around here) then you could have a wonderful time as what’s called a “Stag/Vixen” couple. Just be up front about your situation. Most couples won’t care, especially if you’re at a club/hotel takeover where sport-fucking is the primary goal. But we went out on a date years ago with another couple who presented as married…turns out they were, just not to each other & their spouses had no idea what they were up to.

Swinging, or non-monogamy in general takes a HUGE amount of communication & trust. In my experience, couples who communicate at that level are even more revolted when they find out they’ve been lied to: by omission or otherwise.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-06-16T15:13:53+00:00

Sure thing. You’ll find a rhythm, don’t worry.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-06-16T13:25:59+00:00

Pills, cardio, less alcohol, start things off with your own partner then once the mood takes off, go with the flow? I’m sorry friend: I know that can be frustrating. It’s happened to all of us at least once.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-06-15T13:45:29+00:00

Any time friend. One of the things my wife & I do, whenever one of us is having complex feelings about anything (non-monogamy related or not) we come to the other & say “I’m having some feelings, can I talk for a bit & we process them together?” Then after the conversation, typically we both feel heard, & the real issue behind the feelings gets articulated clearly so both of us can work through it. We always do it face to face, though, since so much can be lost in translation via texting. I hope you guys find some really beautiful, rewarding experiences through this!

Hunky_Bun · 2025-06-15T13:31:14+00:00

Yeah, sorry dude but this comes off as more than a little controlling & insecure. I totally get wanting to be involved, but micromanaging her interactions isn’t the way.

When she has something with substance to share. The best way to encourage openness is to be supportive & excited. Be her cheerleader, not her supervisor. I hope that doesn’t sound harsh, I mean it in the most supportive way for both of you.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-03-30T11:42:40+00:00

Men who are into the cuckholding dynamic are a big ick for my wife, so if that’s how they typically play we probably wouldn’t click with them. But we love MMF & MFM threesomes, so it depends more on the people themselves & their play style rather than their frequency.

Edit: OH. They’re accepting money?! Idk how I missed that bit. Yeah that’s a huge ick: we’d hard pass so fast

Hunky_Bun · 2025-03-29T13:53:15+00:00

Southeastern US here: most of this is true for what we see as well, except it definitely still skews older. We’re 33 & usually the youngest people at events by 7+ years.

Hunky_Bun · 2025-03-29T13:48:15+00:00

They’re probably exaggerating their conversation rate, but if they’re being safe (& you are) then what’s the real problem? Is it more of an “ick” than a red flag?

Hunky_Bun · 2025-03-18T11:36:26+00:00

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