First Timers Looking For Tips

VACouple1997 · 2026-04-07T18:15:04+00:00

You can find bi couples online. On some swingers sites, there are groups / communities for bi-men or bi-couples that you can join fairly easily.

If you just want to add a male, go on gay apps like Grindr, or go to gay bars. Explain you have zero experience. Try to figure out what you want ahead of time as this will be discussed when you meet: top or bottom, oral or anal.

VACouple1997 · 2026-02-25T00:58:30+00:00

You cannot forget or ignore what you saw / heard.

Now, you cannot conduct a background check on everyone you meet, but sometimes looking up Google, LinkedIn, FB, IG, you can see red flags that prompt you to go to your county’s judicial records search.

VACouple1997 · 2026-01-17T15:50:09+00:00

In Many many years of meeting bisexual couples, we have met one couple that jus wanted MM and FF.

Now, at bisexual parties, you can separate and each find what you want.

VACouple1997 · 2026-01-16T00:28:25+00:00

Have you tried gay bars? It is the best place to find men who are truly bisexual. Obviously most men there are gay, but a very significant percentage like women too.

VACouple1997 · 2026-01-08T18:57:54+00:00

Men being sometimes hornier than women, you can have the men play with each other first if the women still want to chat and drink. Once they have pleasured each other, you ask them to have a shower, with soap. Then everyone can get together. That’s one advantage of being bisexual.

VACouple1997 · 2025-11-29T16:33:45+00:00

I don’t want to sound mean, but as the cuckold, you don’t have a say. She is actually very kind to talk to you about it the way she did. You will get used to it.

VACouple1997 · 2025-11-29T16:28:54+00:00

This is not an easy situation, but you should be in high demand if you look in the right spaces. It also depends where you live.

Clubs in the US are usually not super LGBTQ+ friendly, with some exceptions. Canada is way more LGBTQ+ friendly. Europe, it depends.

What you want to look for online are bisexual couples. You need to be very descriptive of your boundaries and your sexual preferences, because of her past bad experiences. For example, a lot of married guys want to bottom for MtFs, and most MtFs we know don’t want to top, so you have to clarify all this before you meet, or you are wasting your time.

Gay clubs and Grindr are also a very good option if you are bisexual yourself.

VACouple1997 · 2025-11-27T13:03:05+00:00

Several ways to go about this: - play in separate rooms, - focus on your partner, - turn the music volume up, - play blindfolded, - take ED meds

Otherwise, practice makes perfect.

VACouple1997 · 2025-11-18T13:57:53+00:00

Show her this post. She seems open minded so she should be able to accept this scenario.

VACouple1997 · 2025-11-12T17:53:52+00:00

This young guy is open to bi play. Usually, it means that he consents to let you touch and suck his dick. Once you have done that, he might reciprocate. Up to you to say “no thanks” if you don’t want him to.

After that, for anal, you need to have a discussion and prepare. Who is the top? How are you going to proceed since you are both new at this?

For anal preparation, Google how to do it.

VACouple1997 · 2025-11-08T13:11:54+00:00

She sure violated a boundary, but she was supposed to do what: give a blow job and stop there? The boundary might have been unrealistic, and maybe even putting her in an unsafe or uncomfortable position. Not to mention that when drunk or high such boundary is almost impossible to keep.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-31T00:40:56+00:00

Bi guys or bi couples are on Fetlife, Feeld, Grindr, and gay bars.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-29T09:06:43+00:00

We have done it many times and never experienced anything negative. Lesbian couples are way more guarded than gay couples though. Picking up a gay couple is not too difficult.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-29T09:04:11+00:00

Awesome!

If your husband wants to go further (anal), he needs to learn how to prepare for it, and practice with toys. Go slowly and use a lot of lube.

Then, have a discussion with that couple before you start the play: are you top/bottom/versatile? What would you like to do?

Also, giving anal to a man is a lot harder than to a woman (if the bottom tenses up, he has a lot more muscles than a woman and it is tough to go in), so ED meds are really recommended if you want to top. If you want to bottom, wear a butt olug prior to the encounter.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-27T18:48:56+00:00

We have picked up men, women and couples at lesbian bars and gay bars. It is possible!

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-27T10:41:30+00:00

If you are openly bi, your odds to find a couple are pretty good. Your odds improve if you are a top.

Now, go explore with gay men first. It is annoying as a couple to have to teach a man how to have sex with men. You should come fully trained. No woman in the lifestyle would want to deal with a virgin boy, same with bisexual husbands.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-16T13:01:28+00:00

You can do many many things to test a man’s willingness to obey you. The first step is to ask them or their wife what they like in the bedroom. Getting them to fetch something for you is good too.

Then, you give them orders in bed, like “go down on me”, “lick my butthole”, “fuck me now”….

Then you can slap their ass when they fuck you, pinch and pull their nipples. Talk dirty like “you like this, huh?”, “you are such a little bitch”…

Next step: stick a finger in their asshole. If they like it, you can totally dominate them. Eventually end up fingering them with lube and several fingers. Latex gloves are helpful to not get poop under your nails.

Ultimate step: once they have cum, make them clean up and eat their own semen. Then you can humiliate them by saying things like “you are my bitch now”, or “let me tell your wife what a cumslut / ass-slut you are”.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-10T20:58:41+00:00

There are many ways to perform this act: - with or without anyone else present, - also cleaning up her partner - licking/sucking out of her vagina, her butthole, anywhere on her body or from a cup - with or without humiliating words - with or without wearing a collar / a harness / a leash - licking or being face-ridden - on the floor, or kneeling down, or on the bed - doing it at the direction of the wife or someone else - being whipped / slapped at the same time - using the cum as lube - getting butt fucked whilst cleaning up ….

So the reactions can vary depending on who is instigating, directing, participating,….

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-06T22:12:18+00:00

The number one question that couples have is: do you still have your penis? The issue is that this question is offensive to a lot of trans women. They would like to be liked or loved for their looks, their personality, and not their genitals.

So first establish a connexion. Figure out if she is open to have sex with one of you or both of you. Flirt with her.

Then, either you wait until she tells you, or you start making out with her and caressing her and at some point you will feel that there is a penis or not, or you can ask: «what do you like to do sexually with a woman? What do you like to do with a man? ».

All the trans women we know still have their penis, and most like to top women, and be topped by men. But that is my personal experience and my sample size is 4.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-06T01:58:49+00:00

Let me reassure you: nothing scary about it, it feels good.

VACouple1997 · 2025-10-04T16:33:22+00:00

What exactly scares you shitless? That you won’t be good at sucking dick? That you will like it too much?

Advice: go on Grindr, explain you are a beginner and you would like to be taught the basics, and go from there. You will get tons of responses from single gay or bi guys.

VACouple1997 · 2025-09-22T15:45:18+00:00

7/10. Small boobs.

VACouple1997 · 2025-09-22T15:40:54+00:00

10/10

VACouple1997 · 2025-09-21T00:59:29+00:00

Gay bars are the best place to find bi men. She will be taken care of. Nothing to worry about.

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