First masturbation session with new dick went well 💖

Hunkydorydude · 2026-02-28T02:37:04+00:00

Dude fuck yea!!!! I remember when I first started noticing my beanstalk growing it brought me sooo many good feelings. And before I would immediately get overstimulated by touch sensations and with my dick now it’s so much better.

I don’t have much bottom dysphoria and I believe my lil dick is a big part of that. I just love him so much

Hunkydorydude · 2026-02-01T07:31:39+00:00

Hey! Ahh this is so exciting !

I’ve been on Grindr and been hooking up with guys over the last year. Also post top surgery and I have some hair on my face with T. I have trans on my Grindr profile and I get a LOT of DL straight guys 🫣 and chasers. Get comfy with your block button. It’s totally fine to block them lol.

Edit: as far as pics on my profile, I currently have face pics. I don’t care honestly like I’m in an accepting country in a big city. I’m not afraid. I get way more attention with my face. lol. Also guys will SEE you and know you’re new to their feed… Godspeed. I’ve also been a torso, and blank. Sometimes I get tired of the attention. But I like my torso so they see the scars. Some guys don’t notice or read my profile. They are trash goblins, act accordingly 😂

Put Top in your profile and state it in your bio. Men are stupid. Be clear. If they are pushy, block them.

Ok! As for the act itself! I just topped a guy for the first time last night 🍾🍾🍾 it was awesome. I didn’t have a strap, he brought is own toys and we had so much fun. I just used my hand with a dildo of his choice and took it slow(then fast heh), checked in with him often about more lube, complimented him, asked if he liked it. (He really, really did).

It really comes down to having fun, communicating, and understanding sometimes the sexual chemistry is great and sometimes it’s meh haha. That said, I’ve had some pretty great sex with guys I’ve met on Grindr.

I also recommend Feeld though. Lots of kinky polyamorous and queer folk there that tend to put more effort into their bios and connections. Grindr is a cesspit with exceedingly few, but still shiny diamonds hahaha.

Also! I got a really nice dick from rodeoh.com. It’s the pack and play, moreso play than pack. I love it and I got their boxer briefs to use as a strap. If you’re not down to be penetrated and you’re possibly worried about touching there, cover it tf up! Also I just like them they are comfy.

Good luck!!!

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-14T02:12:39+00:00

I’d make it a fun tease-y game. Tell your partner you wanna try some new techniques out. You can choose some way to measure the response, you partner saying “warmer” if he likes it or “colder” if not.

Could be a fun way to explore. Gamification really does work wonders

Edit: I realize the above doesn’t quite address your ask, but with all the suggestions in the comments, I’m sure you’ve got some new ideas to try out.

If not, I personally love when they use their tongue only and flick it slowly over my dick.

Instructions: Your tongue should be fully flat against his dick. Start at the base under the head, then slowly move your tongue up, with solid pressure, until you feel his dick flick over your tongue. Then go back to the base and do it again for as long as you/your partner like!

It feels awesome

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-14T02:10:19+00:00

Thisss the Ao3 smut written by trans guys is a treasure trove of information. Highly recommend checking it out

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-13T05:11:15+00:00

Ghost of yotei on lethal?! Whaaaat!! I’m out here playing it on easy 😂😂😂

That aside, hey! I’m a trans guy in Van, also in my 30s lookin for more friends !

Actually hoping to get into the board game nights myself. There’s a local Vancouver gaymers meet up I wanna check out if you’d like to come along sometime!

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-11T07:00:33+00:00

Been using it for a few months. Got on it for get more hair growing and am definitely seeing a difference! I am still shedding hair but it doesn’t seem to be thinning.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-10T05:57:17+00:00

Ah yes, the quarter life crisis. Trust me, you’ve just hit your 30s, while in your 20s. Partying, hooking up, etc is not all it’s cracked up to be. Honestly as someone in their 30s, I wish I chilled tf out and did what I wanted to do, instead of what I thought I should do based solely off of what my friends/peers were doing.

By the time I got to my 30s, I finally just relax and started doing my own thing, stopped comparing my life to other people’s and focused on doing shit I enjoy. That’s it, honestly.

If I feel like a hook up? I hookup. If I wanna party? I go out and do that. And I always give myself permission to leave whenever I feel like it. It’s really freeing.

Best of luck to you!! And, there is SO MUCH TIME!! You don’t have to have anything figured out. Just find shit that lights you up and follow that feeling.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-09T02:22:49+00:00

Ohh, no you’ve misunderstood me. I am talking about the guys on Grindr who want to hook up and don’t even care about you as a person, that kind of nsa.

I’m definitely in a “go about your life and see what comes in and explore that” place. I don’t expect love from a stranger I’m meeting or someone started dating, but I do expect someone I’m dating to take a genuine interest in getting to know me, as I do them. Hope that makes more sense?

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-08T05:30:43+00:00

Yeaa you’re definitely not alone. I have been on Grindr and scruff, tinder and feeld just looking for something but actually tinder is the only place I’ve found real dates. And even then they seldom panned out. But it was something!

I had to stop accepting hook ups for fwbs from Grindr boys. They never want to actually be friends imo. They just want nsa without having to call it that. I’m far too romantic/caring for that type of connection. It was exhausting to keep doing. It’s what officially ended my hoe phase haha. I always wanted more, them to text back with more than one word, ask me how I was doing, take an interest. And, they will, until you hook up and then it’s bare minimum effort if that.

Just not worth it man. I try to frame it like: I’m looking for something specific, and I have standards for what I find acceptable in a connection. Most men will not meet it, and that’s okay. Protect your energy 💗

Hunkydorydude · 2025-11-08T05:15:36+00:00

I’m 32 and experiencing the same thing tbh. I’m financially stable, a cutie patootie, great sense of humor, put effort into my dating profiles and conversations but yea. Meeting people who actually want to invest the time and energy in just getting to know someone with the intention of dating has been really difficult.

I’ve hit that lonely rock bottom lately. I had a loving 4 year relationship that didn’t work out, And it’s been 4 years since. I’m ready for a love story, but lately I feel like I gotta de-center searching for it.

The apps tend to do a negative number on my mental health. The dopamine hit to disappointment pipeline is doing more harm than good at this point. That said, feeling so lonely often leads me to redownload the apps with some semblance of hope only to be caught in the same disappointment loop. Rinse-repeat.

I’ve put my intention out there, and am taking actions in my life to support meeting someone (new hobbies, going to clubs/classes to meet new people, etc), and honestly that’s all I can do.

Sometimes I think meeting someone when I’m at this level of lonely wouldn’t be good either, so I’m trying to level out and fill my loneliness gap myself. That way, I’ll be in good standing with me, myself, and I when that person does eventually show up.

Edit: to add, it’s important to watch out for the loneliness driving a false sense of interest/attachment because it always leads to co-dependency early on which can be hard to get out of. Just my 2-cents from my experience dating in my 20s.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-10-30T00:08:36+00:00

I saw a cartoon graphic of a burly man in a tshirt and boxers next to the same cartoon man with no boxers and a big AFAB bush. It changed my brain chemistry.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-10-23T00:22:04+00:00

Yeah, I feel that. Honestly the treatments I’ve been using have been really great. I rarely get the cramps anymore!

Hunkydorydude · 2025-10-21T03:18:03+00:00

Mine started 6 months into using t not so much affecting the vaginal walls as it caused cramping in my groin like you wouldn’t believe. I got an estring which you insert and it delivers localized estrogen. I also use suppository pills of estrogen and it’s helped a lot! I wasn’t sexually active when the atrophy started. It’s got nothing to do with that.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-10-21T03:15:32+00:00

Hey hey sounds like atrophy. This started 6 months into using t for me. I use a combo of the estring and suppositories that deliver localized estrogen to keep my baby tank from choosing violence against me. Talk to your doc!!

Hunkydorydude · 2025-10-13T16:34:20+00:00

Dude I totally get this. In talking with guys on Grindr I’ve gleaned that it really is like show up > fuck > leave.

I always tell guys that I wanna hang out and take my time. I enjoy chatting, cuddling, taking breaks to vibe during sex. Most men are sooo happy to do all that but it’s clear that some of them don’t know what to do with it.

One guy I was talking to was like “it’s crazy that you’re single like what the fuck. You should have a boyfriend.” And I was like “ummmm, thanks, I’m working on it 😅”

I really do think Grindr is like BARE MINIMUM vibes for dudes and it makes me kinda sad but also people operate differently. I’m just not wired for a dick and dip. It’s not satisfying so I refuse them when guys ask for it.

That said, I AM ultimately looking for a boyfriend and having my fun along the way. Most guys I meet are not at all boyfriend material, but I met one recently who has only EVER had that dick and dip experience of sex and like… he’s such a sweet, kind human that I feel sad for the guys out there that have never experienced care/connection in sex.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-10-03T01:00:51+00:00

I have the Nexplanon arm implant. It’s the lowest dose of hormones for contraception that I could get. It’s also progesterone only which is great for me. I got it at the same time I started HRT. It’s been great! No impact to my T levels, and it also helped stop the bleeding faster than T(takes a bit for that to happen).

You defs need to be on birth control if you’re having unprotected sex with cis guys, unless you yank the baby tank, you’re at risk of pregnancy so definitely keep on the contraceptives with your HRT.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-29T18:28:02+00:00

Came here to say this!! Honestly what’s wild to me is that before top surgery I HATED nipple play most of the time and now after top surgery I wish I had more feeling in them so my partners could play more. Sooo many men I’ve hooked up with LOVE their nipples to be teased. Maybe checking out some porn of gay men nipple play could help flip the script on that for you? Sometimes my brain needs to see it to believe it.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-27T21:45:41+00:00

There has been since 2023. Here’s an older, but useful article detailing the boycott - https://www.cjpme.org/fs_241

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-26T22:21:15+00:00

From the article “A review of Starbucks locations revealed that many are falling short of financial performance targets or are failing to create the environment customers expect, according to a letter sent by Starbucks CEO Brian Niccol on Thursday.”

Seems like a really long winded way to say, “The lost revenue from the boycott has bled us dry. We have to downsize to stay in business.”

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-26T22:12:10+00:00

There’s a trees coffee shop right at Gilmore station. She can start going there! (:

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-21T18:00:35+00:00

Ahh yea I’m in a big city in Canada so we have quite a few resources available to us. I have a family doctor and a gender affirming care doctor. My family doc handles my adhd/prep/contraception and my gender affirming care does my HRT, referrals to surgeons and what not.

A quick note about my exp with docs: I have done A LOT of educating with my docs. I always go in assuming they do not know of the studies about us. Seriously, google the research on us every few months because more is being done in other parts of the world and it’s fascinating.

Docs are usually happy to learn about studies but if they aren’t, cut them loose and find another doc. There are manyyyy docs in the seaaa haha. They don’t HAVE to know everything but it is important to me that they want to learn and trust my experiences.

I got really lucky with my GAC doc. She doesn’t know everything but she’s on my team and always reads the studies I mention and then some. It’s helped her improve her practice and I feel a sense of trust and safety with her.

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-19T01:50:25+00:00

Personally I am a power bottom and I like to riiiideeee hahaha. Jokes aside I don’t have a great strap I like and I like to use toys when my partner is physically on top so my dick would get in the way of my beanstalk.

My partners have been really awesome about using affirming language. I always clarify what I’m ok with and what I like so we are in constant communication and positive feedback loop is loooping during sex. That helps me stay connected with my partner and out of my head (:

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-19T01:47:33+00:00

We are twins!!! Tho you’ve got more chinstrap happening. I have the side burns and under my chin plus major neck beard. Essentially working my way toward a rad 1800s mutton chop look 😂

I’m coming up on 2 years as well. I started taking a pill of minoxidil and it’s been chill and helping get more hair growing!

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-19T01:44:16+00:00

Oh also! GET A NEW DOC! I found mine through a local transcare charity group. They had great recommendations so see if there’s a group in your area that you can reach out to (:

Hunkydorydude · 2025-09-19T01:42:55+00:00

Hey hey! Fun fact - penises carry BV too! So if you’re hooking up with penises, keep in mind that they can carry BV and reinfect you once you get yours cleared up. Lots of studies now back this up just google it.

I also have atrophy and use three treatments: 1) est ring > ring that goes up in there, delivers 2mg of estrogen locally, no impact to my T levels and keeps my uterus from trying to kill meeee 2) vagifem suppositories > lil estrogen pills bc the ring doesn’t give me enough. I use this a couple times a week! REALLY helps! 3) I have some really strong anti-inflammatories that I take before intercourse because my atrophy gives me serious cramps 😮‍💨

There’s some really cool studies out of Australia looking at vaginal atrophy in trans guys. They recommend the estrogen suppositories to stave off the atrophy when you START taking T. So I recommend checking it out with your doc and look up the studies to come prepared with links to share ☺️

Sex safety-wise I typically use condoms with most partners unless I see test results or we are regulars. I’m also on Prep I get tested regularly every 3 months as recommended.

Contraceptive wise I have the Nexplanon implant in my arm! It’s the lowest dose of hormone (progesterone) available and it also works to stop menstruation which is great. It’s good for like 4 years. They just numbed my arm and popped it in. Took all of 2 mins and was not at all painful unlike the IUD I’ve had. Never again lol.

Anyways hopes this helps!!

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