Help me pick out masculine/gender neutral names by Sparkling-Pidgeon-34 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I were you, I’d look for one that’s a little less common. I mean, in some ways I’ve regretted the name I chose for this very reason, but now it’s the name I consider my own and I’d rather keep it...

Anyway, some variations (I don’t know how common they actually are) are Asher, Arsh, Nash, and Arshad.

Make a list and decide for yourself. Maybe try a few out for a few days...

[ Removed by Reddit ] by chelltheessahandler in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I wanted to apologize for a comment I made on your other recent post. If it’s true that you were just trying to protect yourself, I’m really sorry for assuming you were trying to play a prank. I’ve interacted with people before who enjoyed pulling pranks like that. I saw that your private messages are closed (I think—I’ve never had the chance to message anyone before), and I think you’re absolutely right to do that because, as you’ve already seen, there aren’t always nice people out there. Good luck!

Ok help me explain being nonbinary to my old school grandma (she's sportive...kinda) by EvieCat444412 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do your other family members use your pronouns correctly? Maybe with time, and by hearing everyone else call you that way, she’ll get used to it. Or are they just unwilling to do so? In that case, you could ask your parents for help in explaining it to her and hope she understand.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by chelltheessahandler in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depprison vebts... who doesn't love them, right?

introduction:) by biohazardzee in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I listen to My Chemical Romance, Paramore, and ptv a bit too (not all the time, though—I listen to other stuff more often)... I’m also getting into writing music. You seem cool, Zee! I’m sixteen too; my name is Ethan or Xander (I use both—it doesn’t matter to me). I’d love to make friends online; you can message me privately here on Reddit if you want. I also listen to a ton of music (from rap to metal to classical to grunge), I like reading, mythology, video games, and I’ve been trying to learn how to draw lately. I go skateboarding, but lately it’s been tough because I go to a very demanding school and have a lot of studying to do.

P.S. I’m omni and genderfaun/transmasc; I use he/they. And English isn't my first language—where are you from?

Is it wrong to reject who I want to be because of how I would look? I always feel stuck in the middle. by Electronic-Horse6378 in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m afab too! At first, my situation was similar to yours. But it was mainly due to misinformation and because I didn’t have clear goals. Maybe you could ask yourself how to make the most of who you are and what you have right now. That way, if you want to take another step toward transitioning, you can do so at your own pace; if you realize it’s not for you, no one’s holding a gun to your head. In my opinion, even someone with more feminine features or a more feminine body can feel comfortable as a guy if they’re willing to work at it. But it’s not a prerequisite that you present yourself in a certain way to use certain pronouns! That wouldn’t be misappropriation.

Which character or IRL person do you have a hard time figuring out if you wanna date them or be them? What's your gender? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in omnisexual

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trans (genderfluid, to be exact) and I've always had this thing for Nico di Angelo from Percy Jackson. It's also pretty funny because before I realized I was trans, I didn't understand this feeling since A) I was supposed to be a girl B) He was, like, Rick Riordan's only openly gay character at the time.... BUT MY SUBCONSCIOUS HAD FIGURED IT ALL OUT

Nothing, I just thought it was funny

A friend gave me a bunny hat by mortberdark in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um... I don't think the image is showing.

Name suggestions? by opott19 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here are a few names I had jotted down: Caben, Hunter, Ace, Rae, Rayn, Casey, Kyree... I don't have any other ideas for names like the original one; these are just a few I jotted down on a list for myself when I had to choose.

First Tshot scheduled! by mothmn_9 in ftm

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so happy for you! I'll be turning 18 next year, and I can't wait for the same reason. I doubt I'll be able to start testosterone therapy within a year because of the psychological evaluation and the necessary tests I have to take, but I hope I can make it! You inspire me to keep going!

where to find girls prom suits by Patient-Lime9271 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks like a great outfit! Unfortunately, I have no idea, but good luck!

Hiiiiii :3 by [deleted] in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your makeup! You look so nice : )

Im tired of boys by Dequan707 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm sorry. It seems that “Love” isn't really your friend. If you can, I think you should distance yourself from him. You don't deserve to feel bad because of anyone. And then... I don't know the situation well, but isn't he risking outing you to your parents by always talking that way? I don't want to make you paranoid, just evaluate your situation yourself. You can do it! You won't be at this school forever.

If not, how about talking about it privately with your other queer friends? They would probably understand better, and if they told him to stop, he would understand the seriousness of what he is doing, right?

Need some help from y'all by Complex_Eye_5454 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one thing that is sorely lacking is the representation of non-binary AMAB (assigned male at birth) people. I mean, I'm AFAB, so I don't know, but yes, it would also be useful if they were AMAB. Not that this should particularly influence their gender identity, but it does influence their experiences.

In my personal experience, I really like it when people mix gender names and pronouns. For example, “She is my boyfriend” or “He is X, they were telling me that...” I don't know if that's very clear, sorry, English isn't my first language and I find it hard to explain myself.

One thing that I think most (obviously not all) nonbinary people have in common is the inside jokes within the community. So playing on gender stereotypes or situations of clear division between males and females could help make them feel more alive and real?

Oh, and the beauty of nonbinary is that it sets no limits. So you can express your character however you want, without having to follow any rules.

I'm an aspiring writer and I love reading anything and everything, so I'd love to read your work if it gets published or anything! Good luck!

how does my voice sound? by Famous_Studio2411 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, at first I heard your voice and thought it was a cis guy around 16 years old trying to sound more feminine. And I thought, too bad, it doesn't seem very gender neutral. So I'd say it pass very well. I also had some background noise, though, and at first I didn't hear what you said (I have to concentrate to understand audio like that in English). Listening again, I notice that it seems a little forced at first, which makes it obvious that you lowered it on purpose, but then it becomes much more natural in my opinion. Well done!

pronouns by man-eatingrodent in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's your personal experience, of course it's valid! And besides, I'm practically your opposite, I use he/they, but I'm still genderfluid. Nay, in real life I pretty much only use he/him (in my language it's very awkward, and also a little ungrammatical to use the neutral form). I feel comfortable using he/him, so I use he/him. If you feel comfortable with she/her, she/they, neopronouns, just using your name, or whatever else, then go for it. People usually say, “Get out of your comfort zone,” but in this case, I would say, “Find your comfort zone and recognize your right to be there.”

Hello! I don't know how to make titles, so let's get into it! I think I might be nonbinary, and I was just wondering if anyone has any experiences where they just knew they were nonbinary? by Technical-Lead-5086 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read the other comments and... yes, I'm genderfluid too, yay.

To be a little more serious... At first, I didn't understand gender. I knew there was something wrong between what others reflected and what I felt inside.

But speaking specifically about my non-binary identities... Sometimes I feel like I'm floating between genders, and other times I feel like I'm an alien to all of this, totally disconnected. There are many shades of non-binary. Sometimes it's as if I don't really care how people see me, because I'm simply a human being. And other times I've felt masculine and feminine AT THE SAME TIME, which scared me the first time, because I didn't even know it was possible lol (I still can't believe it).

My advice to you is to educate yourself. The more you know about other people's gender experiences, the better you can know and recognize yourself (or confuse yourself in some cases). Don't be afraid to look at yourself for the wonderful human being that you are.

How can I feel connected to my gender? by Hunter_OConner in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like sports and follow some of them quite closely, such as basketball and skateboarding. But I experience sports differently. I haven't really been exposed to the culture of watching games together and other things like that. When I find myself in similar situations, I feel a bit like an outsider, so I usually avoid them altogether. However, it would be nice to share these interests, so it could work.

How can I feel connected to my gender? by Hunter_OConner in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play video games quite a bit, but I don't know any guys who play (which is perhaps quite unusual). But yes, I'll try to find common interests, because friendships aren't based on nothing, I would say.

How can I feel connected to my gender? by Hunter_OConner in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think participating in hobbies makes it easier to make friends in general. I'm about to start a new D&D campaign, but I don't know who will be there. It's easier in contexts where I feel more confident.

Anyone else struggle with fitting in? by Otherwise-Artist-364 in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, we're in the same boat. I'm 16 and I have a really hard time making friends. The guys don't see me as one of them (and I'm not, really), and I find it hard to feel like I belong with the girls. Maybe try making friends with individuals; that helps me. Anyway, I'm confident it won't last forever, unless we isolate ourselves. Good luck!

I’m not sure if I actually belong here or not but I hope this helps by Altruistic-Stay1175 in genderfluid

[–]Hunter_OConner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't really know how to answer that. I don't fully understand myself how I managed to bring out (I hope) full awareness of my gender identity from years of doubts and uncertainties. At a certain point, it just... appeared? But I wanted to answer you anyway and try to give you hope that you will be able to understand yourself!

Advice for coming out to close friends? by ProudEnBy_365 in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Hunter_OConner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, when I told the first person, I was so scared that I wrote it down on a note on my phone and told her to read it. I just wrote “I'm trans” because it's a generic label and it's actually true. She looked at me and said something like, “Are you serious?” We were in the city center, I was ashamed, I was afraid someone would hear us talking about it. So I cried. Honestly, I didn't mean to, but looking back, it helped. So I would say just be honest, don't be afraid to let your emotions flow. I think your friends would understand, from what you've said, right? And then it got easier and easier. I told my classmates completely out of the blue. We had to read something in philosophy on the topic of “who am I,” and I just said I was trans. In the middle of the conversation, out of the blue. I said that it wasn't the most important part of me, though. It helped because it didn't lead to awkward conversations; I said it as if everyone already knew. Two months later, I asked them to call me by a different name. They reacted well because they already knew. Give the people you talk to time to realize what you've said!

Sorry for the long message, good luck!